I'm 15, get along with my parents. I'm a good student and have never got in any trouble. I have many activities, play sports, volunteer for social activities, take courses. Last weekend my dad and my lil bro was on a trip. Friday I had so many things in my head that I messed up, I came home a bit late for lunch, lost my cell phone, did some crazy stuff. Saturday morning mom told me I wasa cting without thinking and would be grounded. It was a shock, it's more than 4 years I haven't been grounded. Ok, Friday I messed up, made mistakes but not moral mistakes. She treated me with much love, we talked, I noticed she wanted to stay w/ me. By 4 pm she gave me a big hug, said she had been selfish, there was no reason to ground me and apologized. She was kinda confused, saying things that didn't make much sense. She went to her room and I know she cried a lot. I'm worried, what is going on w/ her? Her actions weren't normal. I'm not angry just kinda worried.
2007-10-24 04:17:17 · 9 answers · asked by Laura 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
By the way, she gave me anothe phone, much better than the one I lost
2007-10-24 04:18:00 · update #1
sounds like there is something going on in her life that is making her emotional and she feels guilty for taking it out on you. you could try talking to her and letting her know that if she needs to talk to someone, you're there for her. otherwise, maybe there is an aunt who is close to her or best friend that you can let know you think mom may need someone to talk to.
2007-10-24 04:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by Heather Honey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your mum has her own worries at this particular time and she unfortunately was frustrated when she first grounded you. She is obviously a very wise mum and realised what she had done and apologised to you. The new phone is probably because she knows you need one since losing the other one, and it being better than the old is probably because it made more sense to get you the better one, or she was trying to make up for being cross at you and wanted you to know just how sorry she was.
Your mum may also being experiencing some menopause, and this could be contributing to her unusual actions.
Just be there for your mum, hug her lots and tell her how much you love her, this really is the best thing you can do to help. Don't worry unnecessarily, if there is anything more askew you will find out soon enough, but most times it is just the ups and downs of life that are often levelled out with the constant love from your family.
2007-10-24 04:31:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really is sweet that you're anxious about your mom instead of being offended which includes her. It shows adulthood and responsibility it truly is admirable. I agree that your mom likely has a lot on her techniques immediately and overreacted to what change into happening. She likely theory that there change into some thing happening with you, yet after chatting with you, she realized you've been in simple terms having a foul day. Is it attainable that she change into having a foul day, you've been appearing "irresponsible" and he or she had to spend a even as with you, so she grounded you??? I comprehend that it truly is complicated being a figure of a young person (I honestly have a 13 y/o stepdaughter), yet I also bear in mind what it really is go with to be a young person. bear in mind that fogeys are human and make blunders, yet they love you. in case your mom did not, she don't have grounded you attempting to guard you. As for questioning what's happening which includes her....sit down and search for advice from from her. She ought to no longer come out and inform you without delay, yet you seem to be an smart youthful woman that would examine between the strains and determine it out. Your mom will (might want to) savor your problem for her. She ought to no longer have the skill to bypass into element, yet do not press her. If she's no longer waiting to discuss it and also you push, you'll finally end up in hassle. sturdy success!!
2016-10-22 22:37:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps when your dad comes home you could talk to him. It could be that your mom is going through the beginning changes of menopause which can cause women to be emotional and sometimes act irrationally. My own mother would scream at my father, slam doors, and generally flip out over the littliest thing (I would get upset and my father would remain calm and say she's "just going thru the change" and we would go off by ourselves for alittle while and when we came back all was fine). I don't know how old your mom is, but if you speak to your father about the situation he may be able to suggest to your mom that she have a check-up with the doctor - there are medications that can help with the mood swings, etc.
In the alternative you could wait until your mom seems to have totally calmed down and then mention that you were very concerned about her the other day and wanted to let her know that you love her, think she's a great mom, and all and let her know that if she wants to talk to you about anything you'd be glad to hang out with her and just chat about life sometimes.
Good luck and God Bless.
2007-10-24 04:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With this day and age, there is a lot of stress. I myself am a parent of three kids, it get very stressful every once and a while. If you have a lot of things on your mind and really stressed out, you at times say "stupid" things. Trust me, I've done it. There may be a lot of things on your mother's mind, and if she isn't normally like that, it will pass within time, unless there has been a big change in your family recently, then it is possible she may have those "mood swings" more often.
2007-10-24 04:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by roadrunner1977 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moms have bad days and make mistakes as well. She may have had a horrible Friday and took it out on you. She may be having a small bout of depression and is dealing with it.
Who knows - but if I were you, I'd let her know you heard her crying. Then - give her a break - tell her you love her and are standing by her.
2007-10-24 04:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like mom needs you to be less selfish to her needs right now- spend some time and talk with her, sounds like something is going on that she may need help with-let her know how much you appreciate all she does for you- Every woman needs to feel appreciated and wanted more often then men think! Its good that you care about your mom- let her know her crying worries you, and that you're there for her- best of luck!
2007-10-24 04:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by sawgirl513 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your mom has some issues she is trying to deal with? You could let her know you've noticed she's having a rough time, and that you are there for her. Ask her if there is anything you can do to make things a little easier on her?
That's my best answer. Just let her know you care.
2007-10-24 04:24:03 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something going on in your moms world, pay more attention look around see what you r not seeing, be a detective..be there for your mom, okay? u dont know what you got till its gone;;
2007-10-24 04:28:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋