Do you think that this relationship can really work?

Question

There is someone in my life who I met on millionairefriends.com. We have been in touch now for nine months. We traded pictures and snail-mail addresses when we first met and have recently started talking on the phone with each other. I feel like we know each other well and have both really grown to care for each other. Our only problem is that we live really far apart. (He is in North Carolina, and I am in Alberta, Canada.)

We are planning on meeting each other at the end of the year when I go down to that part of the continent to visit my sister. Of course we are both nervous about it all. Do you think that this relationship can really work?

Answer 1

I don't think you can call an internet thing a relationship. It's more of a meeting of the minds, so far. Going to NC to meet him will add another dimension to your "thing" and possibly determine whether you both want to turn this "thing" into a real relationship.

Since your sister is there in North Carolina, why don't you arrange for her to meet with him to get an idea of what he's like. But don't do it as a one sided stalker "private investigator" type thing. Keep it on the up and up so the guy won't feel like you're spying on him. If he has nothing to hide, I don't think he should have a problem with that. I know I wouldn't...given the situation. Two heads are better than one and your sister may be able to read him a little better or at least from a different perspective than you.

Good luck with this one. Personally, I don't see it working, but I've been known to be wrong in matters of the heart...due to the fact that I don't have one.

Answer 2

It can work if, once you meet, you see there is also chemistry between you. Take it one day at a time as you seem to have been doing so far. Love cannot be rushed. And only if there is love will the two of you be able to deal with the red tape of immigration. Be it him coming to Canada or you going down to the States. In the meantime, email, normal mail, phone calls and the odd visit should be good. It sounds that the relationship is moving slowly.

On the other hand, think of this. Are you asking if it will work because you are afraid of the obstacles there will be once the fire between you is finally on or are you asking because there are red flags that you have been ignoring in the safety of being far away and not having the reality touch you? That is the real question. But that one is for yourself ;)

Answer 3

To be blunt, it will be very difficult. Such a long-distance relationship can only stay that way for a short time before something will have to give. One of you will probably have to move to make it work. Trust me, I've been dating someone for a while and we live merely an hour apart, and that hour kills me sometimes. I can only imagine how it must be if you live in an entirely different country.

I urge you to be careful, since talking on the phone, email or snail mail will only get you so far with getting to really know the person. You don't really know how he lives, you've never met his friends...there are so many aspects that should be considered before making such an enormous move.

Be careful, and good luck to you.

Answer 4

I am not sure if the relationship can work. I am not in favor of long distance relationship, but to each his own. Phone conversations are always nice because it keeps you in suspense as to what the person may look like, and your imagination is running. A picture is great but whose to say that you all don't look different by the time you see each other....I dont know about a relationship with this one, just visit and chill and see how sparks fly. Then go from there.

Answer 5

The truth is that you dont know each other and mostly what you think is him is a fantasy of him in your mind, The real him will be different to what is in your mind.
This saying, you may well really like the real him and why not it could be mutual.
It concerns me that one of you started out looking for a mate with money and the other used it as a pheronome to attract a mate. - not a good starting point and that raises all kinds of red flags as to where you to are coming from under the surface but maybe not admitting to. ( it will come out)
Bottom line yes, it can work out of course. Someone will have to move sometime though..

Answer 6

Short answer is Yes, but only if one of you is ultimately willing to move to be with the other. Long distance relationships are fine for short term, but to take it to the next level, you really need to be close to eachother.

Answer 7

if ur both miliionaires then flying out to see each other every weekend should not be a problem-it could work

Answer 8

it may work if you are both willing to put the effort in. one of my friends has a boyfriend in america and she lives in uk. their relationship still works.

Answer 9

Paint no illusion,
Try to click with what you got

Answer 10

yes