Why are men nowadays all about pleasing women, shouldn't we expect a pleasing also???

Question

I have read alot of questions posted by men who are struggling in their marriege. Men who are not getting sex from their wives, men who are being disrespected, lied to and treated bad. I have seen men say that they think their wife is having an affair and have pretty good reasons for thinking that. Yet, all the answers I see people giving are "Dont accuse her" dont make her feel uncomfortable, dont check her phones and emails, be nice to her, you think she's cheating, then YOU(the man) should change your life style and try to win her heart back. ARE YOU KIDDING ME, what about the men's feelings. They blame the men for their mistakes, If your wife is not giving you sex, DEMAND it, you deserve it, ladies listen, I feel like you have fought all your life to be accepted as equal to men and i'm very happy about that, but now that you are, STEP UP TO THE PLATE, and dont expect us to do everything, including apologizing to you, when you cheat on us. What do you men Think?????

I dont want to sound like I'm bitter man, believe me I'm not. but please read the answers some of these men are given for dealing with their relationships. Everything is about pleasing the women. its really unbelievable. there was a guy who hasn't had sex with his wife for 3 months and declines him everytime he tries yet, people are telling him to buy flowers and cook dinner, and take her out and seduce her. Guys listen, DO GOOD THINGS WHEN THEY DESERVE IT, DONT REWARD BAD BEHAVIOR, IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY MOVE ON AND FIND ANOTHER ONE. YOUR FEELINGS SHOULD COUNT TOO. If you feel like your woman is cheating, you have every right to go through her stuff untill your curiosity is satisfied. women need to understand that they too have to put in work to make the realationship work. (THIS IS NOT REGARDING ALL WOMEN, I'M NOT GENERALIZING ALL WOMEN).

Answer 1

Amen!

I will tread lightly here.....but as with everything it is a two way street.....with compromise, understanding and sharing. I agree, a lot of women, expect the fairytale....and expect the man to fill that need, do a lot of the leg work, keeping things interesting etc. The balance needs to be reset. i think some of it comes from lingering social programing...but that doesn't make it right!!!

You want to be equal....GREAT SERIOUSLY.....but with that come responsibilities, and require a shift in action and thought...I think this is behind the movement. You can't have your cake and eat it too. Everything is give and take....and you want freedoms, by all means, but you can't choose to hold unto some things which are counter productive to equality, because you think you deserve or have rights to them, or you want the prince to do everything for you...PERIOD!

That being said...men are in a state as well. We do have a lot of men who are weak, and will give or do anything for or to keep their women (even poor ones). I think it has to do with support. Take a look at TV, radio, Ads etc. Oprah, ellen etc etc, all to support, empower, strengthen women.....where are our young men getting taught to put yourself first, don't settle, and make sure you are treated right?

Answer 2

You have a valid point. Relationships go both ways. But the thing you have to remember when you read on Yahoo Answers is that these postings are so biased. The men complaining that their woman doesn't put out doesn't mention that they treat their wife like crap, usually because they don't even realize they aren't the fantastic man they think they are. On the other hand, I feel like the average woman is too demanding these days. Us men can't be perfect and women need to realize they aren't perfect either. Everything is too biased, so the key is to take this site with a grain of salt.

Answer 3

word! I feel ya on that, it's the typical female mentality, "I'm not liable, it's someone else's fault." I'm not saying all women think this way, but a majority do. They all wait for us to do something to start the relationship, keep it interesting, please them, and the second we don't the majority of them aren't the least bit afraid to end it immediately. It's really caused by weaker men being subordinate to their signifigant other. Women catch word or experience with this and assume all men can be controlled with the right incentives. Men are easily controlled, personally the second a woman I'm involved with witholds physical activity for something unrelated I break up with them. It's not that that's all I'm interested in, it's just that because a woman can offer a man what he needs doesn't mean she can withold it to get what she wants. We don't stop buying our housewives food because they won't have sex with us, Y should it work in reverse?

Answer 4

sound good except the demanding part of sex .
MY husband does not want sex as much as i do and its not the same in every marriage. all is not to be blamed for one. and if it should come to the point of where my husband demands sex from me ..god help him cause i will f*ucking wack him in the head and kill him. i am a woman not a toy or animal where you demand and i do as you say,...


besides women has been stepping up to you guys..and we are the one that has been pleasing men for so many year that now we have founght to be equal so we enjoying it now .....guys are feeling threatened... and this does not mean all you men just the one relating to this question .

If a woman is treated right then she should not look elsewhere and treat her man her man with love and respect that they deserve...if she cannot then he needs to move on to better things and she is not worth it..

Answer 5

i think its sad, men today are wimps and will do anything to have female company.......a relationship is a 2 way street, if a woman can't give back what she recieves then she ain't worth it but most guys don't see this