ok more about this guy I like, I decided to wait till he called/texted me because he was not calling/texting me back when I would. so I was going to wait a week and if he did not call/text I was going to give up. It had been five days and then yesterday I heard from him I told him I needed to talk to him about us and I asked if he would call me. he said he was busy at the time and did not have time to talk at that moment and would call me later, well still have not heard from him what should I do I really like this guy and don't want to give up just yet but I am confused about all this. I know there are other guys out there but I am in my 30's and not that easy to find a good guy anymore. so please tell me what I should do. I know he likes me I just don't know what he is thinking.
2007-10-24 03:47:41 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok more details he was married and his wife got killed in a car accident in Feb. of this year I know he is not ready for a serious relationship he told me, I don't think he has someone else he a very busy guy with two young kids and has his own business and I just want to ask him where I stand with him if I should wait around until hes ready or move on, I don't think he is pushing me away I know he is a very busy person and doesn't always have the time to talk or text
2007-10-24 04:18:01 · update #1
ok everyone keeps saying ask him where you stand with him but the thing is he won't call or text so I can ask him I would rather talk to him rather than text or talk to him face to face but he doesn't return call right away when we do text its always Hi how are you simple stuff like that
2007-10-24 05:56:13 · update #2
I have tried dating sites what a joke everyone seems to interested in just sex
2007-10-24 05:57:16 · update #3
May be he is indeed busy in some more important task and is not able to contact you. Do not get worked up and give him some more time.Since he likes you, he will call certainly.
2007-10-24 03:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can you tell me what he said or what his message was when you did hear from him? or was it that he was busy? I have found out that if you are not already seriously involved with somebody, then when you are told later, it may not mean that day. It sounds like he's just trying to keep you around so when he does not have somebody else, then he knows he can talk to you when it's convenient for him-only.If he really likes you, then he will do better than this. He has a strange way of showing he likes you. I would give up on him or if he calls, let him know you are busy and not sitting around waiting on him to call. That should teach him and surprise him.
2007-10-24 10:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by starchild4485 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being a bit too pushy on this. You need to really just forget about him and move on. If he starts calling, great, but if not, no big deal. It also could be that you are making him out better than he actually is which can only lead to disappointment.
Have you tried looking at joining the various groups and organizations within your city. Those are always a great place to meet people. I have a friend who decided he wanted to try and learn pottery which turned out was the place he met his wife.
2007-10-24 10:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by Einstein 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he probably thinks you are crazy or at the least dramatic. If you have not spoken to him then you should have just played it cool told him you missed him in a sexy tone and got him to come over before you layed the drama on. No offense but I am a female and you are making my D*ck soft. Age has nothing to what it recognizing that this guy doesn't want you is the issue.
P.S. if being alone scares you then you are not really comfortable iwth yourself and that is something that you need to work on instead of looking for a man. Try looking for you
2007-10-24 10:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by nyjae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I am not sure why he does this but I think you should ask him what he thinks of you and your friendship. It sounds like he may want something different than you want out of a relationship. You are in your 30's and that is young! Where are you looking for these good guys? Sometimes, I think people look in the wrong places.
2007-10-24 11:00:06 · answer #5 · answered by annamarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what this guy is thinking. Maybe the we need to talk about us comment made him think you were reading more into the relationship than he wants. I know how you feel about being in your 30's and there are no good guys anymore it seems. Just be patient and you will find someone. Good Luck!
2007-10-24 10:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys don't like to call people every single day. when you start doing that, it seems that after awhile there is nothing to talk about. Give it a little time, maybe a week at the most and then call him.
2007-10-24 10:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by gotbeerimez69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your thirties, wow that's seriously old. You're not old at all but if you keep waiting for this guy you'll be old before your time. You seem to be making excuses for him rather than asking just where you stand if you don't do that you'll never know. Always remember there other guys who would love to be in his shoes.
2007-10-24 12:49:45 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem was that "you decided to wait" you pondered on calling him but didn't. WHAT IS UP WITH THAT GIRL. If you want to talk to him you have to call him. What is this keep me hangin on thing going on between men and women. These are games and ruins it for the rest of us how arn't playing games. THEN you through in the "We have to talk" thing. I'm tellin ya he's running for the hills. No one likes that.
Be nice, be cool call him and ask him out for somthing fun.
2007-10-24 10:58:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
babe sorry to say but you already lost him if he isnt applying the same level of entusiasm to the relationship you are your just desperately grasping in the dark
my motto is if they dont contact you everyday or at least tell you they arent gonna contact you then they aint bothered
think about it logically
5 days then he fobs you off
i call it ostrich syndrom delete his number and move on
no offence but he probably has
he will just keep you dangling till he finds someone else then he will just drop you like a hot potato
if he liked you he wouldnt beable to skeep away
move on honey
2007-10-24 10:53:18 · answer #10 · answered by leelu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl this guy might like you but he might have a secret that he hasn't revealed to you. That is why he backs away. I'm telling you because of my own experience: I am married and I have a lover, I really like my lover but I try to keep my distance, purposely because I don't want the person to fall in love with me, so even though I like the person I know my limits..
2007-10-24 10:53:47 · answer #11 · answered by LLorona 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋