Should Fathers be able to force the mother to give birth as an alternative to Abortion?

Question

Fathers have no rights when it comes to family law. I thinks its wrong for a woman to have an abortion without first having consent from the father since the two of them created the life. And what if the father wanted the child instead of the mother should she give birth and give custody to the father in unwed situations? Should mothers have to show reciept of child support expendatures, instead of getting a free check every month? Roe vs. Wade should be overturned or an ammendment to it. If you disagree I would be intrigued as to why.

This applies to fathers as well so as not to stereotype any gender.

To add, I am not advocating "forced issue here although it says force bad term... but mothers who get pregnant should carry the baby full term period. Its not the babys fault there is adoption, fathers who want their children grandparents etc. How shallow to say oh its my body I might get stretch marks!! Who gives a %%^* you are talking about a LIFE inside that was given to BOTH people not just the mother. I agree that fathers no long need to trust their partner because of lame excuses like well its my body. I am forced to pay child support or I go to jail it MY Money I worked for it, I had to suffer risks of losing my ability to pay other bills, I have endured the pain of not being able to see my child or the pain of my child being killed by a mother who says "well its my body" Why, not have the mother carry the child full term do away with abortions, even if you gave birth to a child that was "undesirable" in your eyes someone else who cannot have children would nuture them.

Answer 1

i do not believe in abortions.there is so many people out there who would be good parents and can't. but let alone the father. a women should'nt be able to get an abortion unless the father agreed to it.
and why no give it over to the father? if she is willing to KILL achild because she is not ready to have children or has to many ....well the women should think abut that before getting down and dirtty.
a women should not be able to have an abortion unless the father signs it to be okay. and family should have a choice as well.if my sister wanted an abortion and the father didnt want it either why not give him/her to a family member that would love it or care for it like a real parent would. WHY SHOULD THE CHILD SUFFER.
it shouldnt matter if you are black/white or ,wed/unwed,or gay/lesbian .whats the difference a mother is a mother and a father is a father.
and just to add these women who get abortions should not be able to have or aloud to have any children after an abortion.who gives them the right which baby to keep and which baby to kill.
abortion is the same thing as another mother drowning her baby in a bathtub cause she was going crazy.maybe i am too hung strung on a question like this . but yes the father has every right to his child as well as the mother. she didn't make the child alone did she. it takes two baby!

Answer 2

In the best possible scenario, the father's opinion should of course be sought after by the mother, and taken into consideration.

Notification to the father of the child before having an abortion could *perhaps* be reasonable if it includes exceptions for rape, incest, and situations that would endanger a woman's life should she provide that notification (for example her husband is a documented domestic abuser). Fathers should certainly have more rights in terms of family law, especially when it comes to custody and visitation of children should the family unit break up. However, what you are advocating is basically keeping the woman as a sort of enslaved incubator against her will.

The father of the child is not the one that faces great health risk to himself to have this child. Nor is he the one that will have to cope with the irreversable changes in his body as a result of giving birth like the mother will. Nor will he be the one that has to lose a lot of earning potential at his job as the mother will if she becomes the primary caretaker of the child. More than likely, the father will not be the one that will be giving the primary care to the child like the mother will. There are of course exceptions to that above rule, but the vast majority of primary care is done by the mother.

Really, nobody should be "forced" to do anything against their will that involves such life altering and body altering changes.

The two individuals may have created life, but the woman is the one who has to bear the cost of that life. It can be a beautiful thing, creating life and nuturing it, but it is nonetheless such a life altering situation that it should never be forced on anyone.

Also, what you are proposing leaves open the situation of if a man rapes a woman and impregnates her, the rapist would still have a say over whether the woman should have the child, when she did not even consent to creating that life.

As for the child support issue, having the mother show receipts for all expenditures related to a child is ludicrous. She whould have to show receipts for grocery bills, for utilities, for rent, for everything that applies to the basic need of the child, in addition to specifically child centered expenditures such as braces and clothing: the receipts would number in the hundreds. Also, she is not "getting a free check." The court is forcing the father to take some financial responsiblity for the care of the child that the mother is now the sole burden barer of. Raising children costs a lot of money and both parents should carry some of that financial burden.

On the one hand, you are advocating that the fathers of children should have a right to say if they are born or not in spite of a mothers will, but on the other hand you are saying tha the father of a child should not be forced to bear any financial burden of caring for a child should the relationship between the mother and the father not work out. What is up with that? You advocate a "right", but not the responsibility that one must pay to have that "right".

Answer 3

I'm all in favor of the Dad having the right to know there is a baby on the way. I'm also in favor of him having some say in whether or not the baby is born. Ultimately, though, the decision should be the woman's. She is the one who has to go through morning sickness and carrying a baby around for nine months and all of the associated discomfort including the pain of giving birth.

Yes, Dad certainly contributed to the creation of this child but his part in the creation ended at his orgasm. From there, it's all on the Mom. I believe she should have much more say in the decision about abortion or no abortion. No one has the right to decide that for her.

If the Dad wants to take full responsibility for the child once it's born and the Mom agrees to have the baby and hand it over to him at birth, there should be legal paperwork drawn up and he should have full custody. But this should be a mutual agreement reached between the two parties. A woman should never be forced to put herself through pregnancy and childbirth because of what someone else wants.

This whole argument supports the need for better sex education in schools and more responsible birth control measures.

Answer 4

That's the problem with the world today. No one is married and people are too irresponsible to take responsibility for the life they made together. Do I think it's right to kill a baby? Even if it's tiny, NO. I think a person has a right to live. Why should a baby have to give up it's life because of the stupid choices of it's parents? So since I don't believe that abortion is OK. You raise an interesting question though. It's hard to answer. I think the father should have rights, but what about in the case of rape? Would you really want a creep to have control over the fact that you have to have his child? What if he wanted custody? YUCK. I think in a case like that though it should be an issue of adoption.

Answer 5

Sure, if the father's are then forced to stick around and raise that child if the mother doesn't want to. And "a free check" for child support? hilarious. I get $200 a month for a 4yr old, not even enough to buy a week's worth of food, let alone everything else he needs.
Actually, no, I wouldn't allow a man to force me through a pregnancy I didn't want. And don't give me the "well then don't have sex" argument, you know that's crazy. I use protection and all women should be as responsible, but if there's ever some fluke and the pill doesn't work hell would freeze over before i'd let a man tell me what to do with my body.

Answer 6

Good question! I know that you can't force a woman to have an abortion, and you can't force her to keep the baby as well. It must be hard for you men out there. It must also be hard for you men out there when a woman doesn't tell you she is pregnant and then has the baby and does nothing but lie about it. My husband, before we were married, went through this. He was 18 the woman was 27 and she provided lots of beer and he never seen her again. 15 months later a sheriff showed up at his house saying that he had to take a paternity test. He was the father and she let him see his daughter. When my husband and I started dating she became furious and refused to let us see her! To date she hasn't worked in 10 years, so she receives child support, welfare, and is on Metro...She refuses to let us see her daughter, even though we have a court order. We are the ones that have to keep paying for the attorney and she gets court appointed ones, since she refuses to work! What are you suppose to do? With the child support being monitored, that would be harder and very inconvenient for everyone. I get child support and with me I know that it goes to my son...in some cases I am sure it doesn't. But, what can we do? I can't afford an attorney for all of this stuff and I barely get my support on time if at all. So with me you are preaching to the choir...many laws should be challenged!

Answer 7

i think abortion and child support are completely different issues

while i can understand a father might want a say in the birth, i don't think they should be able to force an woman to undergo 9 months of pregnancy, and labour, especially if they don't want the child. also, would the father be able to guarantee they would then take complete care of the child? you can't make someone be a mother

child support should depend on a number of things - although receipts alone don't give a true cost of looking after a child (things like ability to work, overall costs such as rent, bills etc as well as day-to-day costs should all be taken into account) i guess the current system's the best they've got without the cost of implementing it outweighing the uesfulness of it. maybe one day they'll come up with a perfect system!

Answer 8

you comprehend what you're forgetting? whether a woman have been to "take each and every precaution achieveable" she nonetheless ought to get pregnant. there is unquestionably NO delivery administration that's a hundred%. the only way is abstinence. issues take place. blunders are made. the place is the guy's accountability there? Why is all of it on the female to take each and every precaution there is? who's looking after all of those undesirable infants which you're forcing to be born? in the event that they're too stupid to apply respectable delivery administration then are not they too stupid to improve a toddler? And to respond to your unique question, definite there have been situations the place the father fought against abortion. He ought to have a say in it too. yet most of the time the guy is long long gone till now that's even something to evaluate. it rather is incorrect for a woman to stress a guy to pay toddler help. that's why abortion must be an selection.

Answer 9

I am a mother and I too think it unfair for a woman to be able to abort a baby if the father wants it. Women are going to say that they are the ones that carry the baby ..I say BIG deal..its 9 months of your life...but its a lifetime lost for the father that would have taken and supported, loved AND even carried the baby if he could. THIS issue is why birth control and REALLY knowing who you are sexing is soooo important.

Answer 10

That is an interesting concept, and I see your point. However because it is the womans body she has the option to do whatever she wants with her own body. Until there is some sort of law saying that we do not have the right to do what we want to our body it would never happen. Thats like us saying to the men that we want them all to be fixed without there concent... not going to happen hun. But you have a valid point... I guess in that situation where the mother didnt want the baby and the father did they would have to talk about it and hopfully come up with a solution together.