Our second marriage(each)!
My two older daughters (aged 31 & 26) are in the wedding party as bridesmaid & matron of honor.
Would it be appropriate for my 10 yr old son to "give me away"?
We want to include him, but as something other than usher, ring-bearer or pageboy.
My 4 and half yr old grandson is pageboy and 5 yr old granddaughter is flower girl, would it be better to have my son walk between them, down the aisle?
2007-10-24 03:43:01 · 30 answers · asked by AussieLady 58 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Thank you all!
I am reading your answers with tears in my eyes, I was so worried that it would not be appropriate for a 10 yr old to "give me away" he gets on So well with my husband to be.
2007-10-24 03:56:40 · update #1
My father although still alive at over 90 -when we marry - has asked me to "find someone else to do the honors, please"
2007-10-24 04:00:33 · update #2
The most important thing to remember is that it is YOUR wedding. You get to do what you want and I have to tell you that this is the BEST thing I have ever heard of. Can't you just picture how much of a big man he is going to feel like? He will remember this for the rest of his life, he will share this story with his wife, kids, and his grandchildren.
I am so excited for you, I hope you video-tape it and put it on youtube so we can all see how beautiful it will be. God Bless you and your new family!!!
2007-10-24 04:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by cbsncmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Playing for points: What a charming idea. How perfect. It's YOUR wedding and you should do whatever YOU want.
Honest answer: You have allowed sentiment to cloud reason. First, the very idea of an adult woman in the modern free world being "given away" at all is obnoxious and offensive. To imply that a child, by virtue of his maleness, has this sort of authority over his mother is simply ridiculous. By all means, your son should have a role in the ceremony -- but find another role.
I once saw a "tween" aged child carry the open family Bible down the aisle and present it to the presiding clergy, who then read the passage to which it was opened. The minister then closed the Bible and returned to the child, who then took a seat next to the ring-bearer and flower girl. It was lovely. Surely you can think of something other than rings and flower petals for this dignified young man to carry? Or, as you wisely suggest, he could simply walk down the aisle with the other children. To enlarge his role, he could then stand next to the best man and act as witness.
Congrats and best wishes.
2007-10-24 06:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother just got married and her parents could not make it to the wedding because they did not get there passports in time (VERY SAD) so she had her 6 or 7 year old son give her away. It was VERY sweet and everyone at the wedding thought it was so cute!
2007-10-24 04:20:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very possible to still have pain many days later. He probably just bruised himself there. Calm down I'm sure that he will be fine in a few days. Try putting a warm wet washcloth on it for a few minutes, this usually helps the pain more than ice.
2016-05-25 11:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that it would be so cute to have your son give you away. If you don't have any one else in mind. But if it were me i would let my son do the same. Your son would be honored to do it for you, i think that he would. When i was 9 i gave my cousin(who is my best friend) away. She thought that since her dad was never around, she asked me. My sister was the flower girl. I miss her so much. She has 3 kids now. I think that if you really want your son to do it, go for it!!!!!! i think that it would be so adorable. GOod Luck!!!!
2007-10-24 03:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by Kidd 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am having my daughter (7) and my son (11) both walk me down the aisle. I think it is awesome that you are including him in this role!! It will be something he will be proud of as he gets older!!
2007-10-24 06:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by tweety_angel23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting married in November and not only is my son giving me away, he is also walking his grandmother and great grandmothers down the aisle. He is soooo excited! It really makes him a part. I think it's wonderful!
2007-10-24 03:46:46 · answer #7 · answered by TootsieGirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a very nice idea and I have heard of it being done before! Most wedding traditions aren't set in stone anymore.
I think it's more important for everyone who is a part of this "new family" (i.e. you, your husband, your children) to feel like they have a part in the wedding than it is to "try and stick to convention." Sure, there may be someone who finds it unusual, but I think nearly everyone will see it as a really sweet gesture for him to give you away.
(I liked the giving-away idea better than the 2nd idea).
***PS: I'm glad you feel so much better about this! Have a wonderful wedding!
2007-10-24 03:56:38 · answer #8 · answered by Evie 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ABSOLUTELY!
I wanted to have my son do the same thing, but he was 10 months old and not walking well yet.
But I did make sure that he was in some of the pictures with his mom and dad, (the bride and groom).
2007-10-24 03:54:16 · answer #9 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either way would work just fine. It would be a great honor for him to walk you down the aisle as long as he is willing to do so.
2007-10-24 03:50:37 · answer #10 · answered by vaya 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋