ok, my bf has this stupid problem about my being rich. im not being a snob, but i really am richer than he is. he hates using my car (he prefers that we commute), he hates going to my family's parties (he always has an excuse not to go), and he always ALWAYS insist that he buy ridiculously expensive gifts for my family during their birthdays but gets offended when i give gifts to his mother or sister. he struggles two jobs because he's the breadwinner of his family. i never offer him money. i never introduce him to my friends because he said that they are spoiled even though he hasnt seen them yet. when we go out in dates he brings me to places i have never been before in my whole life. i never complain but he would say "i bet u wish we are someplace nice, huh?" in a bitter way.
i love him but im tired of his bellyaching. i dnt care if he's poor. in fact, im adjusting so much just to suit him. all i wanted is to be happy with him. please advise me. he has become a bitter man.
2007-10-24 02:45:34 · 6 answers · asked by Ariane 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's jealous of you. I don't get the impression that you made any of your money by yourself, so he sees you as a snooty rich girl who he'd never be able to please because he could never give you something better than you already have.
You're not going to change his mind. Jealousy is not the way to maintain a relationship. I'd tell him that if he can't be happy with you the way you are, it's better if you part ways.
2007-10-24 02:53:36 · answer #1 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to take care of his girl. Wants to buy her nice things, but can't. He wants to be the caretaker. His ego is hurt. Even though this is 2007, that mentality is still there.Yes, he is angry not at you but his situation. There is nothing wrong with you being well of in life, nor is there anything wrong with his situation. By drawing attention and making the distinction of your lifestyles/social statues is both tasteless and without class. Talk it through and find some common ground. If the two of you can't get over it, then get over each other. Break up.
PS- Good Luck
2007-10-24 03:06:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This obviously isn't working out. You and he need to be comfortable with each other to make your relationship work. The only way I could think of it working out is if you both concentrate less on money and more on other things you have in common. Acknowledge each other's good qualities and forgive the bad one's. The money can be used to help you and him reach longterm goals, but the money shouldn't be what your relationship is all about. In your case, you will both have to learn to compromise with your friends and interests. If you don't want to do this, then you need to move on and find a boyfriend that is more like you.
2007-10-24 02:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think with ur bf, it annoys him knowing he works so hard to get his morney and seeing u who was 'born rich' shud i say not working and getting a easy life is making him jealous. but it's not your fault, he feels he's not good enough for u and that u wush u had a rich bf, but let him know that in a subtle way. even if it means gettin a part time job etc
2007-10-24 02:57:41 · answer #4 · answered by DaRkAnGeL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a easy to marry a rich girl, than a poor one.
2007-10-24 02:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a trust fund baby and a real b#tch. You'll probably never know what it's like to actually earn something or some one.
2007-10-24 02:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by Personal Insult 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
its simple , tell him this...."what do you have in your life that money cant buy"....... if he doesnt get it ditch him, bye
2007-10-24 02:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋