We will be at a 5 star resort in the caribbean, where I have learned going topless is quite common. My wife commented that she is looking forward to "having no tan lines," and my daughter said "that would be so cool."
2007-10-24 02:25:08 · 33 answers · asked by Fred S - AM Cappo Di Tutti Capi 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Even though the beach will be full of women and girls of all ages going topless?
2007-10-24 08:46:31 · update #1
J - that makes no sense - I can't say that for clothed women either!
Do people in Americam realize that most of the civilized world does not even consider going topless to be a big deal at all?
2007-10-24 08:48:41 · update #2
I have been to many beaches around the world where it is far more normal to gotopless than not to, at any age (France, Monanco, Greece, Bali...)
I am really offended by some of these answers -
2007-10-24 08:51:50 · update #3
oddly enough I am gonna say "YES" if she is comfortable being topless infront of you guys its ok...as you are on holiday with her its not like she is going to "SUMMER BREAK" by herself.. the toplessness isnt being sleazy or dirty or exhibitionist in this situlation.
Anyhow you havent gone yet so maybe its not as common as you think...but I would say yes becuase there are times you just have to pick your fights.. this isnt one of those times...
2007-10-24 03:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 10⤋
What is acceptable depends on community standards. Regular bathing suits, especially the two-piece bathing suits, used to be considered equally indecent. In fact, some people still feel that way. There are even some "burkini" bathing suits that look like track suits with a headscarf (for Muslim women) and somewhat similar, though less concealing, styles for Christian women, such as a skimpy dress with pants reaching the knees.
If you are sure that your daugher will not be alone, let her do whatever she wants. She is not considered an adult but the fact is that she has an adult body. If she did not, you would not have to ask this question. But then, do you think that, even in a regular bathing suit, men are not going to stare at her?
If you don't feel like having your daughter wear a "burkini", then you might as well let her go topless. In fact, in that case, by letting her do so, you may be protecting her against danger, whether now or after she reaches the age of majority, because if you don't allow her to do it, she may end up doing it in dangerous circumstances, such as with the wrong friends, or with another girl who can easily be overpowered by a group of males.
2007-10-24 03:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Absolutely not. Do you want all kinds of perverted pedophiles oogling your young daughter? I'm sorry, but by going topless, your spouse isn't setting a safe example for your daughter. I can't imagine any concerned parent even considering letting their vulnerable 15 year old go topless. In fact, I agree with some other comments here, WHY would you even consider taking a 15 year old to a place like that?
2007-10-24 02:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
I say no. I'm one of those party dudes that would be snapping pics of her at the ebach, on a hotel room, in a bar, out of your superivsion.
If you let her, do you really think she will be topless in front of you? Do you really think she will not be topless out with her friends? You can't encourage or permit her to do this. Otherwise she will end up on Girls Gone Wild some way some how. Topless pics of her will be all over the net. She will hate you for letting it happen.
2007-10-24 07:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I would say NO.
I also don't think taking a 15 year old girl with wildly developing hormones should be at a topless beach.
That is something you and your wife should do alone.
It sounds to romantic for a family vacation.
2007-10-24 02:52:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Well, first of all you have to talk about your views before you leave, first with your wife in private.
You can remind her that we are always telling our children that they are supposed to follow our values (rules) whether we (parents) are with them or not. We are always telling our children that they are a reflection of us when we are not around. I think this is true here as well. You are raising her to be a young lady. I would hope your wife would agree that she should be setting an example for her daughter. What she will choose to do with the values you instill will be her choice when she is an adult, but you owe it to her to raise her to be respectful of others AND herself.
Just because it is common doesn't mean that you have to participate but explain to your wife that if she would like to do this (and you don't think anything of it) she should do it when you guys are not around your daughter.
Hope this helps and I hope you have a wonderful vacation. Sounds wonderful! weather is getting cold where I live so I wish I were going! :)
2007-10-24 03:50:03 · answer #6 · answered by Indya M 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Common or not, think about what you are asking......your 15 year old topless???? No way!! If she were 18 you wouldn't even be asking this question. I question your choice of family vacation too! This sounds like a place for you and your wife only no kids at all!!!
2007-10-24 02:34:07 · answer #7 · answered by Kathleen M 4 · 8⤊ 1⤋
You Americans , think that nudity=sex. When the human body is something natural. And why is it okay for man with man boobs to be seen but it's not okay for women to be topless.
2013-09-13 06:19:11 · answer #8 · answered by Max Payne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell? Why would you want to see your 15 year old running around with out a top on? There is something wrong with you. Would you like to watch the guys stare at her? You are sick.
2007-10-24 06:13:47 · answer #9 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think its strange that it wouldn't bother your daughter to go topless in front of her father. You must have a very open family.
2007-10-24 08:10:20 · answer #10 · answered by Ann W 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's one of those things where if you have to ask, it's probably not a good idea; you're obviously not okay with it. In your defense you could say that there's often a lot of drinking at these resorts, but you're not about to let your daughter do that.
2007-10-24 02:35:09 · answer #11 · answered by care2chess 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋