What do you think?

Question

We had a court order for him to have supervised visits at the daycare when he calls 24 hours ahead to make sure they will be there and from 3-5 pm. The kids were not longer at daycare and son started school. I proposed an agreement to meet at mc donalds from 3-5 and he signed and agreed and i signed and we both have a copy. It's not enforceable because its not the court order but wasn't this a fair thing for me to do and he has NOT offered any other way for him to visit so this was my only resort to keep him from having to lose more rights in court. I was TRYING to help him more so here. Will the judge see me as being fair about it? Will the judge get mad because i never took him back to court but we WORKED THINGS OUTSIDE THE COURT which they like.

Would the judge just say no i dont like that and change it to another person to supervise even though my husband doesn't have a problem with it?

Answer 1

I would first ask why the visits where supervised in the first place? Then i would say if they where supervised and the court is looking for certain behavior are you parcel enough to convey that? Or trained to look for those behaviors? I would have someone else do it.good luck.

Answer 2

You need to consider why the court order was put into place to begin with. The reason he had supervised visits, who is chosen to be the supervisor etc.... It is great you are trying to be nice to the ex but supervised visits can only be revoked by the court and not you. I am assuming you were not chosen as the supervised mediator so you can not be it now. You need to take care of this legally before you get yourself into trouble.

Answer 3

Why were the visits supervised in the first place. If you do this and somethig backfires, the judge is going to question your decisions.

Why was he losing for rights?

Answer 4

You have to go back to the court, even if you have reached an agreement.