From my previous question a couple of days ago you can see that i have just had my heart broken. I am still in love with him and would like to rekindle our relationship. He says he loves me and would do anything to get back with me, i know trust can't come straight away and want to take it slow but how do i know if he really loves me or not.
Do i simply just believe him when he says he loves me, although we broke up becuase he lied to me.
I thought he loved me before, with the way he would look at me, the way he would treat me like his princess (or so i thought...) and do anything for me, the way we got on with each other so amazingly, the way i would wake up and find him staring at me as i slept, i could go on....
So i thought he loved me before (but found out he had been texting and emailing girls dirty things and saying he wants to kiss them etc - he admitted it all and is genuinely sorry) so how do i know if he really loves me now???
2007-10-24 02:01:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well...Not that I know much about this kind of situation...id like to help to the best of my extent.Alot of people beleave in second chances.If your one who does and trust him then go for it.But make him earn your trust back.I for one don't beleave in second chances.Not once in my life have I given someone a second chance and and them live up to there word.So now I don't give second chances.I am only 16 so I may not be of much use but over all just look in your heart and see.
2007-10-24 02:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me, I would give him another chance. However, I would make it extremely difficult for him. I would not just go back out with him like nothing happened. I mean, I know you love him, and are dying to forgive him, but he needs to learn how to value you. And the only way he is going to learn that is if you first value yourself, and don't throw yourself back into his arms. You need to set some rules, and lay your cards on the table. Tell him what you will not tolerate in your relationship, ie. lies and him flirting and texting messages of inapropriate content to other girls. Take control of the relationship and guide it in the direction you want. If he REALLY loves you, and is REALLY sorry, he will abide by your conditions. If not, then hes not worth your time. Also, a word of caution, many guys that are in that same scenario, tell girls "yes, I will change" because in the moment, they just want to get back with you, but that does not mean that they really have changed. They behave for like a couple weeks, or a month, and then go right back to being the same way they were. Do not blind yourself and think that he is a 100% changed man, Let him prove it to you. If he shows long term consistency, then you can be like "ok, I know hes being genuine". However, keep one eye open always so you don't get caught with your guard down ever again, ok.
2007-10-24 09:14:36 · answer #2 · answered by Yahoo User 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will never know if a person really loves you maybe unless they put their life on the line for you. Do you listen to John Legend? He has a song on his first CD he has a song called "Number One" well the beginning of the song states
"You can't say I don't love you
Just because I cheat on you
Cuz you can't see all I do
To keep you from knowing the things I do
Like erase my phone
And keep it out of town
I keep it strapped up when I sleep around
Well I should have known one day you'd find out
But you can't go and leave me now
You know that I love you
There's no one above you
I said it the last time
But this is the last time
Don't make me over
Cuz I can be faithful
Baby you're my number one
You're my number one"
And so on if you go to Google type in "Number One John Legend" you can view the entire song. My point is people can do things to hurt you but remember the things they do to keep it from you. If a person put in this much effort to keep it from you they care although when some one loves you, you may think if you love me you wouldn't hurt me right? But that is not always the case. I am not trying to defend what he did I am having a similar issue only he does not know I know what I do know.
2007-10-24 09:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well like you said in your previous question that he was emailing this girl. well i don't think he is worthy of your love but i don't know him like you do. follow your heart, if you love him and want to be with him be with him but before you tie the knot figure out this trust issue because thats a huge factor in relationships ecspecially marriage. so first follow your heart and then take it from there.
2007-10-24 09:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by Banana <3 Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really loves you. However his definition of love doesn't match up with yours.
For a guy like that "I love you" equals "I love having sex with you, and pursuing you is real spiffy!"
So essentially he's being honest with his feelings, but that doesn't mean his behavior will ever match up to your expectations, he obviously does NOT want a committed relationship with you, he just doesn't want to give up the sex!
2007-10-24 09:16:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you 16?
Move on.
2007-10-24 09:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may see his actions and feel his feelings towards you my dear!!! It is only YOU who can SEE & FEEL IF HE IS SERIOUS OR NOT!!!
2007-10-26 11:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him, then only love him, don't go after his weekness.
2007-10-24 09:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋