The man I love with my whole being has moved for a few years to another country... We did not communicate for nearly two months prior to him leaving... He said "I need to be able to say I stopped talking to you then left... not I stopped talking to you because I left:" Now this man called me the evening before he left and made a point of saying "I'm only going to be gone for a year I'll be back (gave the specific date) so, it's really only a school year.. In order to get my visa I had to buy the return ticket ahead of time...."
ok: so no communication since he left in July... but here's the kicker:
A co-worker has emailed him..... he emails back.... I type for the co-worker but do not add anything to what the co-worker says...... I feel like a caged animal behind thick glass unable to communicate with my love. Now.. the co-worker mentions myself and a couple of others (who he could care less about) yet tells everyone at the job hello.
Was that hello for
2007-10-24 01:46:47 · 12 answers · asked by who me? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
was that hello for me? Now he wants to communicate w/the co-worker via Instant Messenger..... Might he be trying to reach me?
2007-10-24 01:50:13 · update #1
I did email him to let him know how I felt.... unable to communicate with him. (due to circumstances he requested I do not email him-- and I respect that and usually don't ) I needed to tell him how I felt... needed to tell him that typing for the co-worker was like salt in my wounds....
2007-10-24 02:03:25 · update #2
In the email I sent I included my blog from myspace regarding my thoughts...
2007-10-24 04:34:06 · update #3
if you've read this far SORRY>>> for all this... I guess I'm just babling on right now... .my sincere apologies...
2007-10-24 04:38:06 · update #4
he plans to return (he's abroad making money for his family) He will return to the states because he has family here....
Peaceman: He is torturing himself (the distance and time away) because he is trying to "flee from some bad guys" Shaytaan being one of them (in his own words) I believe that he wants to be with me... but because of his religious convictions and the fact that he is married w/children he is forcing himself to let it go.... thus my many previous questions....
I can respect and understand his trying... I just want to see if LOVE will win out.... and I want the man who is unable to live blissfully without me in his life......... which is why I'm wondering if he's trying to reach me in a round about way?? I think he wants to know what's going on with me .... to see if I'm able to move on... (which I'm not-- I try to think of other men and can not)
2007-10-24 04:51:08 · update #5
I also know he feels horrible about his position... (becoming involved in an affair, my being alone, him having obligations for his family)..
I asked him "what is it that makes it easy for men to walk away from me?" to which he replied " if it were easy I would have done so before anything started, and the only thing that makes it easy at all is the fact that I have a family I'm responsible for.... as it is I will need years of therapy" says that: "he needs to be 'polished' to become a mirror.. so that when Allah looks upon him He will see reflection of himself"
I know the circumstances are ALL WRONG for him and I................. but I have this hope for love..... so we'll see...
2007-10-24 05:03:18 · update #6
To be honest with you, the guy does not appear to love you. True love in the circumstance of spatial distance like that ususally falls back on letters, mails, phone calls to keep in touch and soften the pains of absence. If he actully loved you, he would be a queer lover, qualified for a special place in the Guinness book of records for being such a high-level self-inflicter of pain. I'm sorry if I have been too blunt with my opinion. It came from my own self introspection and what I observe around me when it concerns absent lovers. Take care, please.
2007-10-24 03:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by peaceman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this person is immature. Evidently he enjoys playing games. He apparently wants to feel free to do as he pleases while out of the country yet he wants the security of having you "wait for him" in case he wants to see you when he gets back. He only bought a round trip ticket in order to get his visa states a lot. He must have no real plan to return. His emails to your coworker he knows you must have knowledge about and is doing no more than torturing your heart. I'd stop reading the mails and asking the coworker to not speak of him. A broken heart does mend.
2007-10-24 01:56:06 · answer #2 · answered by annabanana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come On!!! This is a one way street. You are in love with him. He can give two shi...about you. Be reasonble. He left you before he left the country. I would love to know what country he is from. If it's Mexico, he's probably married or in a committed relationship. If he is from the middle east, the only reason they go back home is to get married (arranged family weddings- They get money) Whatever reason he gives you, wake up smell the coffee.
Hope you find someone new very soon
2007-10-24 01:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by theresa b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would dump him! get out there and start looking around. If he is that bothered about you he would of contacted you! And what a &^$%£)($, he proberly knows that you are typing for his co-workerd. If i was you, i woudl send him a little email saying something about how you feel gutted that he could of contacted you, and if the relationship was worth anythign to him, then he woudl of contacted you when he got straight and sorted! He is not worth anything. You can do better!
2007-10-24 01:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you, he wouldnt be able to live without you and wouldnt have broken off contact. That hello was just that, a hello. To be honest he sounds like a bit of a toss er.
2007-10-24 01:50:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you in a relationship with this man? if not, you know how it it when we really like somebody or "love" somebody and have this blind eye on everything else. how we try to interpret the things he says in direct relation to what we feel. so it just might be a one-way street love. maybe he is just playing with your feelings, and you never really somebody that important in his life.
well, if you mattered to him, he will find ways to communicate with you.
2007-10-24 01:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
id say gone belly up move on b4 you get really hutr
2007-10-24 01:50:07 · answer #7 · answered by sallyaboulter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he wanted to communicate with you, he'd commiunicate with you! stop trying to read too much into the situation!
2007-10-24 01:56:27 · answer #8 · answered by Debra d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes but don't trust as if someone has gone, he might have another one there.
2007-10-24 01:50:28 · answer #9 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope. for heavens sake use your head. and move on
2007-10-24 01:55:01 · answer #10 · answered by czar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋