2007-10-23 23:05:59 · 27 answers · asked by sweet_sunshine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well with my husband, I told him where I stood. I said, " I don't want to be 5 years dating and then have you decide you want to marry someone else." I asked him to make a decision on if he thought there was potential for marriage in the future or if I was just wasting my time.
Believe it or not, he actually said he didn't know, so I told him I was going to date other people while he figured it out. I would date other people and then tell him about the people I met and how the date went. (not going into sexual detail or anything...just about the person in general) He eventually got Jealous and figured he wanted to date me exclusively again. I asked him if there was a potential for marriage in the future or would he just be wasting my time. He assured me there was a potential for marriage and he asked me within the year.
Sometimes guys need to know that you have other options before they figure out they want to be with you. Sometimes they also need to know that you are not just going to sit around and be at their beck and call while they figure it out.
2007-10-23 23:14:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is a guy you've been dating for a few years maybe you should just bring up the subject of marriage during a conversation and flat out ask him if and when he wants to tie the knot and if he has any thoughts about your future together. Otherwise, I would hold off if the two of you haven't been together too long (or if you're under 23 years old). I can't believe how many people I see getting married after a few months of dating. It is rediculous... and then people wonder why so many marriages end in divorce?
Take your time there is no rush!
2007-10-23 23:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by Dana_Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think many guys hold off on proposing because they can't afford a ring. If you feel this might be the case. Tell him you like rings within his budget.
I know women have a thing with big diamonds. I actually think it's sweet when I see a wealthy couple and she still has a small diamond. I assume and hope they met and married before they got wealthy and she kept the stone for sentimental value... or he must just be a cheap azz.
2007-10-23 23:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think it is weird for a girl to propose, but you should never make a man propose to you and get married you may or may not regret cause there are alot of good men out there that know when it is time to propose.
2007-10-23 23:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by a francis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been dating this guy for at least 2 years? If not then don't worry about it, don't rush into such a serious commitment. If you've been with him for more than 2 years, step back and analyze your relationship. It may be that he's receiving all he needs from you (SEX, companionship, coming and going as he pleases) without being married. Bear in mind the old adage: Why buy the cow when the milk is free.
2007-10-23 23:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't. You should not try to "get a guy to propose". He will feel pressured into engagement and marriage. This is a sure path for disaster in the relationship.
2007-10-23 23:10:08 · answer #6 · answered by Truth is elusive 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't, he'll propose when he's ready. Trying to force him to propose may cause more problems and can often be a relationship ender. Instead why don't you openly talk to him about your views on marriage and see what his point of view is.
2007-10-23 23:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Unless you want to feel like you manipulated someone into marriage.
You either wait for the genuine proposal or you get down on one knee and do it yourself! :)
2007-10-23 23:09:01 · answer #8 · answered by Becci 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
show him your boobs and serve him a 5 course meal while you dance and tell him funny stories and tell him he's the greatest man you never knew.... . LOL sorry....im sleepy and tend to ramble silly stuff.
dunno....how does a guy propose and actually mean "I love you and want to live with you and get to know you forever?? there's the rub!
2007-10-23 23:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should question why you have to "get" him to propose.
2007-10-23 23:10:06 · answer #10 · answered by tonyend2001 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋