case of EXTREME shyness maybe?

Question

So, is this just shyness or somethng else????
My boyfriend's brother has been dating this girl for ab 2 1/2 years. and:
1. She has NEVER spoken to his parents or his family. i mean shes been out to dinner with them and everything and just sits there.
2. if u ask her a question her boyfriend answers for her.
3. On facebk she untags herself in every photo. On her profile she has 2 photos of herself and over 800 of her boyfriend (with her face cropped out).
4. She has spoken to me a few times, and to my boyfriend once.
5. never says thank you, hello, goodbye, ur welcome....nada.
Im just wondering if thats shyness or maybe something else??? Im wondering what the psychology behind that wopuld be?

i would NEVER ask her why she dosnt act like everyone else!!! thats mean!
i dont want to ask her either bc if it is something serious that might put her in a uncomfy situation. I was just wondering if she was extremely shy or not. Im not judging her she seems like a nice person to me. i was just wondering.

Answer 1

It sounds like she could be very shy, and perhaps have a self image problem and lack of confidence. Especially if she's been cropping her photo's. Perhaps she's too shy to talk to face to face, so maybe give her a call on the phone to say 'hi' - you may finds that she opens up to you. Or try emailing her or writting her a letter. It could be that she was never taught basic manners and ettiquette. So sits there like a lemon... But if her boyfriend is answering for her - sounds like he's the dominant one in the relationship. Perhaps there is more going on than meets the eye? Either way a phone call or email may be the only way to open this girl up. Good luck.

Answer 2

It sure sounds like extreme shyness, or an extreme introvert, or maybe she doesn't like pictures. She might have mental complex about something. The downside: she might not be into your bf's brother at all! He just might not see the writing on the wall. Talk to him and ask gently about the relationship and her. I'll bet there are signs that she's just not into him and is only sticking around until someone "better" comes along. Another downside: she may be cheating. Sorry for the gloom but, you have to cover all bases. Good luck.

Answer 3

Sounds rather extreme and pathological, though perhaps your description and awareness of this makes the behavior sound stronger than it is in context... It COULD be a religiously or culturally motivated behavior. But also - abused women do this; some people with agoraphobia might do this; people with very poor self esteem or confidence issues might do this; asperger's folks might do this... Sometimes people with speech impediments, or concerns about the appearance of their teeth or sound of voice might do this! So you see, the psychological background of such behavior could be serious issues, or trivial ones...

I hope you are compassionate or respectful regarding her needs or issues in this. Why not gently, privately, non confrontationally ask her in an inoffensive way? (AWAY from the crowd, "I noticed you were awfully quiet tonight... Are you having fun.... why so quiet?" NOT anything like "Why don't you act like the rest of us?"

Edit: I am glad you don't want to make her uncomfortable... But perhaps she could use another friend...?

Answer 4

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Answer 5

I would think something else, what it is, I don't know. You might want to speak to a professional and ask them. Someting doesn't sound quite right with the girl. good luck

Answer 6

maybe something happened to her in her past that was bad and she shut down, why dont u ask boyfriends brother?
he knows

Answer 7

she is totally insecure with herself, possibly her voice, her logic, or some thing else. the boy friend should pro-actively encourage her to come out of her shell.

Answer 8

it could be inferiority complex.

Answer 9

nut case.....