I'm a 29 years old divorced woman. I didn't have sex since my divorce and its been 3 years. My family is very conservative and its a shame to have sex in our culture but i'm really tired of it. I feel that i can't take it anymore but all the social and cultural barriers prevent me from doing it. Is having sex will make me a slut in the eyes of others? I get many offers from men at Work and always tempted to say yes and do it. I'm really confused.
2007-10-23 19:31:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be safe about who you choose. don't do it with coworkers. having sex only makes you a **** if it's flaunted infront of others.
2007-10-23 19:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by oceanpotion™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the end, the decision is yours to make. Which is more important to you? Getting sex, or keeping your image intact?
I don't know what your cultural background is, but if they don't approve of sex, they probably aren't overly fond of divorce either. So you have to decide if finding a nice man to date is really going to make that much difference. The important thing though is to form a relationship with the guy first. If you just sleep with someone just for the sex, then you will probably feel bad about it after. Make sure that you are sure about him, at least fairly sure.
Good luck.
2007-10-23 19:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine is in the same situation. go for a trip go out of town. go somewhere where your memory will stay but your heart will not. It´s not safe to go out and give yourself to someone you barely know....at least you´ve been married and know that difference...
So in general: no sex if you don´t know the person. It could leave you more empty than happy. and If you´re all that decided to give it a go, please be aware that there will be consecuences in the long run.... if you´re ok with that do what you feel will make your heart happier.
2007-10-23 20:14:21 · answer #3 · answered by Taurok 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't just have sex with anyone, that's nasty. there is a thing called masturbation..... you shouldn't care what others think about you, but you should do things right. don't go around fuking just anyone cause that's how rumors get started. and use protection if you decide to have sex with anyone.
by the way how is it a shame to have sex in your culture. I'm assuming they have sex if they want kids..... they just probably don't think is right to talk about it.
2007-10-23 19:42:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going out with man but not just for sex, but for a relationship. Then if you feel you are ready for sex (with feelings involved, not just for pleasure) go ahead.
If you are not ready for a relationship, try masturbating. It's a lot safer in terms of health (no STD's), mentally (no "is he going to call me) and socially (no "easy girl" fame).
2007-10-24 12:19:17 · answer #5 · answered by oscarloco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your problem. Have you considered re-marriage? I am sure you will find many divorcees with whom ou can settle down? I would, however, stop short of recommending you start sleeping around!
2007-10-23 19:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your own heart. no one else controls your life so just do what you want to do and don't worry about what other people think. if you do you will always be trying to change yourself into someone you don't like. So just FOLLOW YOUR OWN HEART.
2007-10-26 07:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what place r u??? i can't answer u unless i know your place.......
2007-10-23 19:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by BlackAngeL 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋