i been knowing this guy for a long time but when it comes to sex, i feel like he is using me. when we talk on the phone all he wont's is phone sex and when he comes to visit all we do is have sex. i ask him to stop doing it and he will be cool for a minute but then he will go back to doing the samething what should i do.
2007-10-23 19:17:37 · 24 answers · asked by reaonja 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The reason why you are feeling used has nothing to do with him. It's you. You feel guilty that you are only being intimate, and because society has it that you need to be married or committed to be intimate. If you want something else from him, let him know that. Communication is key here. If in our heart you want something more look at him, stare in his eyes and you will know if he is the one.
Hope this helps dear.
2007-10-23 19:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
In a relationship you should have a perfect balance of sex (if you're ready) and communication. It sounds like the communication is lacking in this case. Lay off the sex a little while and see what happens, then you'll really know what he's into.
Don't let yourself be used that way (if this is the case), you deserve much better!
2007-10-23 19:20:25 · answer #2 · answered by PrettyNiki 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably is. You dont want a guy who wants to have sex all the time like he's going to die tomorrow. You need somone who you can talk to about various things, stimulate you intellectually and go different places with without the topic being sex all the time, it does get old and let him know that.
2007-10-23 19:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by nordia_williams 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you have all the power in the world to show him what means no. It sounds like you have not been standing for yourself. You have made the choice to have sex with him too. You must enjoy it too. But he is really using you.
Tell him you don't want him calling you and knocking at your door. It's over. Some people you just have to close the book on them. You can do it. You do not deserve to be used and using him too for your pleasure too.
2007-10-23 19:24:17 · answer #4 · answered by missjonessd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, you're being used.
As long as you're okay with that and the sex is good don't worry too much. But if you want more, then force the issue. Either he'll start to do other things with you, or he'll just stop calling.
2007-10-23 20:38:35 · answer #5 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kind of does sound like you are being used...but there is no way for me to tell. If all he wants is sex, then don't give it to him if you don't want to. I really do not like people who live their lives based upon sex and he seems like he is really stupid. Your best bet would be to talk it over with him extensively, and if he is serious about it and likes you enough, he will listen to you, but if not...then I would suggest trying to find somebody new.
Good luck with that! Not all men are sex-crazed freaks! =)
2007-10-23 19:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you are being used. You are nothing more than a living sex doll not unlike the ones they sell in sex toys stores.
2007-10-23 19:20:22 · answer #7 · answered by mhonorey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question is..do you feel used?
Stop having sex with him for a while and see how he acts.
Remember, you don't have to do anything if it makes you uncomfortable.
You control your body, not him.
YOU control when you want to give him some.
If he gets mad, then let him go find another chic to hump on. Lol!!
Good luck!
2007-10-23 19:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥Peas♥♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay well Its plain and simple,
first let me inform you incase you didn't know...
Your the girl meaning you pretty much control when or when not to have sex.....uh, yea.
So its plain and simple SAY NO!
and stick with it! Don't give into him.
Don't you have any control over your self?
Once you stop giving him what he always comes for
You will then know what he really wants from you.
Until then ...
Best Wishes
:)
2007-10-23 19:26:42 · answer #9 · answered by Wicked Aliens 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consider your self irresistible...He probably like you so much. Or he could be using you for sex. If he is married then he is definitely using you. If his not, ask him what stage is your relationship. You'll see if he is being serious with you or just wanted to have sex with you.
2007-10-23 19:25:55 · answer #10 · answered by Hanna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋