im sad because i cant make friends and do anything right.?

Question

im a freshmen in highschool 14 years old, and a boy. I want to make friends and everytime i say hi, they just go like.."hello..." and like try to ignore or something. i get bad grades, i passed barely 2 classes in my freshmen year, and i just cant believe it. my gpa was 1.50 and im just..terrified. i cant believe this. my grades horrible, nobody likes being friends with me, and im plain fat and ugly. im losing all my friends i made with...and everything. Im losing everything i have. help me please

Answer 1

Here is a Christian answer, you've been warned:

In case you or someone else doesn't know, a friend is anyone who believes and feels what you do about God. If you hate him, then anyone who hates him is your friend, though not necessarily a close friend, and if you love God, then anyone else who loves him is your friend, though not necessarily a close one. By the way, a person who loves God is someone who obeys him, and you can find out what he wants in the Bible (the ten commandments are very easy to understand).

The easiest way to make friends (but this is not why I did it) that I've discovered, is by becoming a Christian (which you can find out how through my profile). Although you'll gain over 100 million friends as a Christian, like I said before they obviously they won't automatically be the close kind of friends you are hoping for at the moment, that takes some work.

You become a close friend to someone else by obeying God, by obeying his commandments, which helps bring peace, even to people who hate him. Doing good deeds will also improve your chances of making a close friend. Help some people who are needy or homeless or need help carrying a heavy backpack.

Don't engage in vain activities such as climbing a mountain for fun. There is little good that can be accomplished by wasting your time climbing a mountain unless you need the training so that you can help people who live in the mountains.

Also, you'll also gain billions of enemies by becoming a Christian, but, you can, if you get good enough, or if God is willing, persuade others who hate you, to become Christians.

Don't pretend to be what you aren't. I find it disgusting when people are pretentious, which means arrogant-talking. Be friendly and care about others as much as you do yourself, even to hateful people.

Wear your beliefs, like on your shirt or using a symbol. That may attract like-minded people who will want to get to know you better.

Another way, ask people what they believe and like to do for fun (not at the same time) when they are not busy doing something really complicated, or trying to party, etc.

Another way is to create a group meant to talk about certain things or do certain that people from your school or community may be interested in. For example, you can make a Bible Prophecy group, and state pick some verse or passage or subject to talk about that week after class or on a certain day during the week, or a group on a certain game like "Go" and have rewards for people who beat a certain number of players.

You can also offer to help students with certain subjects if you are good at one and have the time to, by posting a bulletin somewhere in your school if you have one. You can put some "junk" email that people can use to let you know they want your help in case you get some psychotic spammer.

Another way is to attend a church, especially a Bible study. There is always some Christian, at least in a large group, willing to talk to you. And if the teacher is good, you can compliment him for doing a good job.

If your town is a boring one, and there is a spot where people tend to hang out when they are bored, I would also go there to get to know them. There was one like that were I used to live.

As for being plain fat and ugly, there is a health guide available from my website with many solutions for you. There is also plastic surgery if you need it.

Remember: more important than making more friends, is being a good friend.

Answer 2

You are 14 and that is probably the worst age for boy or girl!!
Perhaps the fact that you are trying to make friends make you try too hard and they see this so they hang out instead with friends they already have. I could have written your question myself when I was your age and I assure you, this will pass (only one person in a class of several thousand graduated with a lower GPA than me)
the first thing to do though is get your grades up. Get your parents, or you yourself, go to a health food store and get a bottle of DMAE. This is a natural substance, basically the part of the fish that makes you smarter, and no side effects. that will improve your concentration, your memory, and will result in getting your grades up and that alone will help your confidence.
Next, remember that no one is plain or ugly. what one person considers ugly is interesting to someone else, and only a few actresses are actually beautiful.
the fat part my well be that you are compensating for your lack of friends by eating. Try watching what you eat and start exercising, even if only in your room where no one can see you if you don't want to be seen in public doing that by doing pushups, sit ups, and the like. you might take up bike riding if you have a bike or even long walks as well to help there. Watch the tv show biggest loser and you may even get some ideas there.
You may actually find that as the dmae helps your grades others will notice the difference and that alone may make you more friends as they want you to help them with their grades as well.
The only other thing really is to raise your self esteem. as you try to lose weight, weigh yourself daily and feel proud of yourself for each pound you are able to lose.
you may never be class president, but you are only a freshman in school now and if you do these things they will make the rest of your school year a lot easier and that will help your self esteem, which in turn will allow you to make more friends. Good luck to you !!

Answer 3

yo bro I switched highschools this year. Its harder, I feel ya on the grades I got a 1.50 gpa. I used to have atleast C's. I still dont have any friends I chill with at lunch. But in all of my classes I have a lot of fun with people. For some reason we cant leave the school for lunch here.. so there are 2 lunches. I have 2nd and most of the people I know have 1st. It sucks. Plus my grades are weak. I made a friend just chilling in gym saying how fking tired we were after all the work, we had a lot in common, music, activities, games, tv. all that. its just kinda fate.

Answer 4

First off, don't worry about your physical appearance, because you are what you are and you need to be proud of it. Second, loneliness is not an easy thing to hide, whether it stems from want of campanionship or from a woman. Nevertheless, I think you need to stop trying so hard at making friends. Instead, let things flow, let others initiate conversations with you, and above all, be patient. Later on in life you are going to feel a different loneliness that is gonna stem from your desire of the opposite sex, but finding that someone is also gonna take a lot of patience. And third, don't give yourself up in this struggle, because this is one of your most important struggles as a human being, the struggle of fighting solitude and isolation. Keep strong and keep patient, because it's always better to have one or two really good friends than 40 or 50 acquiantances. So my advice is to just let your social life flow and focus on your academic life for the time being. Good luck!

Answer 5

ok whats going on with you dude? I dont have all the facts here, so i'll do the best i can. Are you having problems with your parent(S) as well? seems like your friends are blowing you off when you need them most just try talking to them after school or amil them and ask why they dont talk to you anymore maybe you can at least get a heads up on that. as for being sad- dont let other people bring you down i know this might sound stupid to you at 14 but if you exercise 30 minutes a day 3 times a week you will feel a lot better about yourself

Answer 6

Well it's time to re-invent yourself, you are somebody and thats all that matters, the most important thing right now is your grades, you gotta get that GPA up, and as far as freinds go, don't try so hard, help a fellow student out with something, a paper or a project, just be freindly, treat people with respect, be yourself, and after a while people will notice you and say hey that guys is pretty cool,and as far as being heavy, do something about, you are at the age that beleive it or not predicts your future, workout, get in shape, get your grades up, you can do it all, i beleive in you

Answer 7

my parents had no cars either 2 years ago....we were in a small apartment with barely any furnitures. i was also the poorest kid in my school, but i was accepted well...i never went out with any friends though, it was my experience just after we came to america...i'm from bangladesh by the way. so understand completely the situation you are in. i really hope your parents find a good job, my parents found jobs at stores...we are doing well accept some family arguements about money and stuff, you know just be confident when you are at school, don't think about so much about how people look at you....you guys are not the only ones like this here, there's a lot of people like you...i'm pretty sure you will get better slowly

Answer 8

take things easy and enjoy your independence. being alone is much better than having a friend that some day you understand they abused you and are leaving you.
decreasing of grades is completely natural for all freshmen in every part of education (high school, college, etc.) so don't worry because thing will get much better.
making friends is not that important, kepp your pride and do all your best for a great job in courses that makes those who didn't pay attention to you stunned!
read books, exercise in clubs, swim, watch movies and enjoy life.

Answer 9

talk with someone they can give you guidence and quit putting so much pressure on yourself and quit trying so hard you will find out if you just relax be the true inner you and the friends will start even if its just one at a time but always remember that you are never alone there is family and god so hang in there and never quit for this too shall pass.it want mean a thing in the real world. i mean the people you are going to school with now chances are you want even see them after graduation so study hard go to college and do it for nobody but yourself.

Answer 10

Stop trying to make friends.. people should like you for you. If you are having to force yourself on people, they are just not gonna like you either.. trust me, i know how it feels... i was never "in" with people until about a year ago when i stopped caring, then people realized who i really was and i made friends.. I know its tough, but (at the risk of sounding motherly) i think you should focus on your studies.. Also learn to like yourself because no one is gonna wanna hang around with someone who calls themself ugly and fat.. No one is perfect and you dont have to be.. if you dont like yourself why should anyone else.. If you need to talk some more though.. i dont care if you email me.. good luck! =-)