Okay, I thought I was the only one noticing this, but now people are coming up to me and saying that she is indeed copying me. I was married last year, and her wedding is coming up this spring. At first she had her own ideas (colors, schemes, etc). But a month ago she changed everything to be just like my wedding. At first I thought well I should be flattered right, it means mine was awesome (she was one of my bridesmaids). But now I feel like she is just being competitive (she has that personality). She started just switching to use the same church and reception local, fine they were nice places. Then she used the same bakery for the cake, fine it was yummy (she picked the same flavor) But now she also changed her original ideas to be the same colors i had and the exact same flowers (to a t), so now are weddings are exactly alike, plus half of the guests (and bridal party)will be the same. I know my marriage is what is important. But I can't help but feel frustrated. Any advice?
2007-10-23 18:43:10 · 19 answers · asked by Little_Miss_Chatterbox 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Feel flattered, smile and let it go. There are some things worth a fight and some that are not.
Use the old Cheerful and stupid attitude to get through it and move on.
PS -
Don't be surprised if she copies your decorating ideas, party ideas, etc. for the rest of your life. She obviously admires you and feel a need to be like you.
Don't get into a tizzy over it. She will most lkely be a sister in law for a long time, so keep the peace and ignore it.
2007-10-27 16:10:28 · answer #1 · answered by Maggie Jeans 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be she so insecure about her own judgment of things that she is copying yours so she knows it will be a success? If that's the case,,, offer to help her make decisions.. Otherwise,. maybe point out to her that people WILL talk about the fact that the two weddings were carbon copies of each other, and that it certainly doesn't show her individuality ans a couple to just steal all your ideas. Its like cheating off of someones paper at school. she doesn't want to do the work or the thoughtful decision making.. so she just copy's yours. Its easier for her. I would certainly hope she didn't think she can do your wedding only out do you on that level,. that would just be immature and tacky. Bottom line,, SOMEONE needs to at least bring it up to her so she can either correct it or give her reasons as to why she is plagiarizing your wedding day. A day that should be the most important and meaning day in a couples lives.
2007-10-24 02:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by REBECCA B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
*****.
Comment now and then in a happy voice that "these flowers are just like at my wedding" or " I love the colors, thats why I had them at my wedding" hopefully she will get the point, if not maybe add on the end "Our weddings are so similar, I hope people don't get mixed up with who is getting married this time".
Or just tell her it has been done and to get some original ideas. She is comeing off unimaginative.
People have already been to your wedding so they should experience something different.
2007-10-23 21:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by Stiffler 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
let her do it because everyone will notice and then they will think she is crazy for copying your wedding exactly!!!! where i used to work there was a girl i knew from high school that started there months after i did and she was known to be a little weird anyway, but she ended up going after the guy i liked, got the same exact hair cut as i had, and started to act like me...every one started seeing how crazy she was!
2007-10-24 00:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by nytengayle13 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 12:22:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit her down and talk to her.... Ask her what her plans are.... It won't be remembered as the day "Tom and Jan got married" People will just laugh at how silly your family is.... Definitely Tell your sister to stop copying you and come up with her own ideas...... Good luck
2007-10-23 18:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by Asya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she couldn't make her own choice or decision, so, the simplest way is to copy what she have experience with your wedding.. no head-ache for her.. means, you have a good taste and she following you exactly.. i know it could be irritating but just get over it.. or have some discussion with her about people to remember on her wedding.. don't she wants to have her own indentity for remembrance... if nothing can do, just get over it.. you might be her idol..
2007-10-27 18:12:08 · answer #7 · answered by NEILISA **Shane's Mama** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... just as long as she doesn't want the same groom!
Copying is supposed to be the greatest form of flattery. You've must of had a great! Wedding, you should be flattered.
2007-10-23 19:15:11 · answer #8 · answered by Darren 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are being very petty. She must have admired your taste and thought quite highly of your choices. If she wants that type of wedding why should you feel badly about that. Remember this is her big day. Lots of people choose the same colours and same church etc. Be happy for her on this day, and quit trying to make this all about you. You had your day.
2007-10-23 18:52:16 · answer #9 · answered by Diane B 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
At the wedding in a nonchalant tone tell her "oooh, this reminds me of the my own wedding I planned, how wonderful." That way you put it forward that you see the amazing similarities and kind of stick it to her that you did it first. 10 brownie points if you do it in front of people gathered around her complimenting her on her dress or something.
Just be sure that you act incredibly happy for her so on one suspects of of being a 13itch. lol
2007-10-23 18:48:15 · answer #10 · answered by Konjo Nashi Pirate™ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋