My boyfriend is russian, i'm iranian, we met on a biz trip in china and spent 2 good months together & talked about our future together (we decided that i move to russia to live with him & marry later on) afetr he went back to russia, he told me about his previous relationwith another girl & that he doesn't want to go back to her after he had met me, but after one week he says because he is alone there he can not decide to finish the relation with the previous girl & asked me to wait untill he decides. What should i do during this process, shall continue calling him and chatting with him as usual or stop and ask him to decide & then come back to me?
2007-10-23 18:41:05 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The dignified way to deal with this is to withdraw completely. Let him make up his mind.
He has both of you where he wants you, at the moment. He is asking you to wait - for how long? He may end up "deciding" for a very long time. You are worth more than this.
Why not go out, meet other men and have fun doing lots of things to keep you busy. Who knows, you may meet someone who is truly single, unlike "Mr.Undecided".
Good luck x
2007-10-23 19:25:54 · answer #1 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
2 months isnt a long time to be with someone and get to know them fully, i am sorry to say this, but i think he hadnt finished with this girl at all, i think he`s been playing you for attention that he probably wasnt getting at home, i been in this situation, promised he would leave and then unfortunately he did leave his partner but it wasnt for me it was for someone else, i dont want you to get hurt, so i feel you have two choices, 1) you give him a deadline say of a week to decide wether he wants you and only you and he leaves her and possible the area, or 2) tell him you are not owned by anyone apart from yourself, and move on, ,, i have now met the best bloke ever and have never been so happy and im sure mr right is out there for you, stop searching for him and eventually he will come to you when you least expect it,, enjoy life while your young and dont let men rule your life, good luck love,
2007-10-23 20:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by kazabunga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to stay with him if his heart is with someone else? You need a man that wants to devote himself to you and you only. There are so many great guys out there and even if it means waiting a little longer to settle down and have a family it will be worth it. Who is to say if you stay with this man and he decides to be with you that he is not thinking of the other woman while you are together? Honestly I think he will always be curious, if not about this girl maybe about someone he will meet later on. I say move on and find someone who is 100% sure he is in love with YOU.
2007-10-23 18:47:32 · answer #3 · answered by tobyman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think u shld move on gal, he certainly isn't tt worthy of u ...i mean think about it if he cld say s'thing like tt now ..?? than imagine if he told u s'thing like tt after u both got married!!
its ridiculous... he doesnt have a mind set of his own... no point waiting for him... im sure there other guys out thr and i know u ll feel hurt but better to be sorry now than later on...
GooD LuCk!! ;)
2007-10-23 18:48:58 · answer #4 · answered by SexyPrincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man can't decide over you and another. Than you should note that.. If he has to choose than he really doesnt like you. Perhaps you do leave him.. He most likely will go to her.. If this happens then he doesnt really like you.. But if he doesnt get with her.. And likes you than maybe you should be friends until your sure about what he really wants.
2007-10-23 18:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by Jalena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't decide seems to me he doesn't love you. If you wait he will drag you on forever. Give him a deadline to clear his head...an ultimatum and dont talk to him during this time and when you do get your answer. Its either you he wants or not and go from there.....Dont be second best!!!
2007-10-23 18:52:49 · answer #6 · answered by C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can tell you from experience, if you two are having so many problems with this 'other woman' now, it's only going to get worse. especially if she wants him back in even the tiniest little way. you will worry when she calls or emails him. you will worry when he is gone too long or is late from work.
i'm married. we had 'other woman' problems. i still want to kill her. i haven't forgiven him and probably won't. makes it very hard to trust.
"forgive, don't forget"
if you love him like i love my husband, you will feel it's worth it. and it probably is. but be prepared!
2007-10-23 18:45:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's having a hard time deciding, he's obviously not very into you. Why did his relationship end with her in the first place?
2007-10-23 18:46:33 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi. i suggest you continue living your life and don't place too much importance on him, if he really is serious with you he will cut off his previous relationship.
my only guess is that he was only dissatisfied with his previous relationship and when he found the chance to find someone to fill his gf's shoes. he went on being sweet and romantic with you. that is totally very selfish of him and you don't deserve that kind of treatment regardless of waht nationality he is.
and please don't settle for less , don't allow him to treat you as his substitute girlfriend..ignore him. and find someone who will really respect and love you and nobody else
2007-10-23 18:47:51 · answer #9 · answered by quia_nazarene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have to read past the actual question. Tell him "bye bye" and move on. Don't put yourself on hold or make yourself that available to a guy who isn't really sure he even wants to be with you.
2007-10-23 18:44:02 · answer #10 · answered by Konjo Nashi Pirate™ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋