I am that strong woman, who hangs on, will not let go, knows what I want, but can't have it. I don't know what went wrong or why he broke up with me. No communication , the harder I try, the more resistance. It was love at first sight for both of us... I can't move forward, I'm constantly thinking about him and missing every moment that we shared together. I still love him and can't move one. No one will ever be able to take his place. I feel as though I will never love another the same or with that much intensity again.
Why is it that love can be so strong, even when there is virtually no probability of ever reconciling with this person again who makes it so difficult?? My love for him is very stubborn!!!
2007-10-23 18:40:36 · 16 answers · asked by BeautifulRose 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's because you are in love with the idea of being in love and the fantasy in your head. It's not real. Seek therapy.
2007-10-23 18:42:31 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know EXACTLY what you mean. The only difference is that I'm a guy. I'm almost certain that it hasn't been so long since you broke up with this guy maybe a few months max. I'm right huh? Love hurts, but love also heals. All it takes is some time and a positive outlook.
Remember, everything happens for a reason. You'll find that life will take you through many challenges. Overcoming this guy may be one of you biggest and hardest, but you'll see that it will ultimately lead to something better. Have faith. You'll be just fine! I'll pray for you.
2007-10-23 18:48:59 · answer #2 · answered by bananas4breakfast14 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Supposedly, it takes a woman half the length of the relationship to get over it. You associate him with the way you felt when you were together. Love really is addictive. There is somebody else that can make you feel that way again, but as long as you're dwelling on a relationship that no longer exists, you won't find them. I know it's probably not what you want to hear, but it's the truth.
2007-10-23 18:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a strong woman has nothing to do with this...you have feelings too and you must address them...you are losing a dear one and you are grieving...there are times when you will live in denial, anger, depression, 'what if?', isolating yourself till you move to acceptance...Stages of grief doesn't come in sequence, and you might jump from one stage to the other at the same day...It's very hard...but what makes it easier is that you knowing what you are going through is normal, that you are not crazy or losing it...that it would take time but it SURE would go away...that it's not going to stay with you forever, or till the day you die (if you know how to deal with it effectively)...
Someone suggested time would heal it...just take their words...
Meanwhile, make a lot of 'Me' time...set yourself as a priority...pamper yourself, go out, spend time with those who loves you & care about you...
& when you think of him, reminde yourself that you are a woman with lots of qualitites (you mentioned them yourself)...YOU DESERVE SOMEONE BETTER THAN HIM, someone who would treat you with respect & dignity...
2007-10-24 01:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by HopeH 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's what happened with my ex. When I was around, she would treat me as a backup, yet whenever I left, she would do anything to keep me with her. Then I realised she took m for granted. Then when I finally dumped her, she did not realise and I think she still does not realise. But the fact is I am gone, never to get back to her. I think it's the same with you. Love is not an object that you can capture and keep in the locker.
2007-10-23 18:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because somewhere deep inside you, you know hes no good. But just when you start to really believe it, he does something good and wins you back all over again. And everytime he does something that tells you hes not good for you, you ignore it, wanting to believe that hes the one. And because somewhere, past knowing hes no good and past trying to move on, theres still that hope that one of these days he'll realize that you're the one for him and come and sweep you off your feet. And because you're constantly stuck on him because you havent met anyone else you find worthwhile, or the ones you have met that could possibly help you get over him you push away because you dont want to ruin your chances of getting back with him...
2007-10-23 18:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there hun! Just cry your little eyes out and in time you will run out of tears. Yes it's the most horrible feeling in the world but in time you will see that he made the right decision for you.. We tend to hold on to what we cant have.. and its ok.. just dont go crazy and start stalking him. You will find somebody new that will return your love.. Dont dwell on it... Good luck!
2007-10-23 18:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by belinda_130 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A person so devoted to another such as yourself shouldn't be wasting your thoughts and your time for someone who doesn't return the same affection you do.
I don't feel sorry for you, I feel glad that there are women like you who exist in the world. He doesn't deserve you.
2007-10-23 18:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by nyc718 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your love for him is not stubborn, you are. I understand that you love him, I really do.... Been there... done that .....
But girl you have to learn to love yourself more than anyone.
I know it sounds selfish BUT you have to be number one always. Never place your feelings like a rug, where anyone can step on it, instead pair it along.
2007-10-23 18:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by RT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly what you are going through. i felt the same way about my boyfriend, but then i realized that it wa his loss. getting over someone is not easy, but don't hold yourself back cause there are good men out there. be strong, and pick yourself up
2007-10-23 18:45:52 · answer #10 · answered by Tamara H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋