i've liked him for three years and can't get over him...?

Question

I've liked this guy since 6th grade and now three years still do, but I know i really just like what I knew him as because now he has changed. I've been trying to get over him becasue it obviously will never get anywhere
But now a days it seems everywhere I look there he is (his locker incidently is near mine) and he's in my first period. I really don't know what to do anymore.
(plus all my friends are totally sick of hearing anything i have to say about him anymore, so i can't ask them really what to do about this. any ideas? *its been killing me T_T

Answer 1

Believe me when i say the only way u can truly get over him is by telling him the truth that u got a crush on him...i know this might be the hardest thing to do but basically thts the only thing u can do..turn away without asking him, u will still be like this for years to go wondering wht if and wht not..just go ahead..i wish igot the courage to do that years ago..instead i let the fear of unknown scares me from doing so and i end up crushing badly for him for 8 years to find out in the end tht he didnt feel the same and now im left with a heart broken into pieces.but strange enough at the same time i finally feel free and liberated and now i know i can truly move on wth my life without the need to wonder anymore

Answer 2

Well, you have to first ask yourself if you WANT to get over him?? Do you want to get to know the "changed" him??
If the answer to this is yes then you should just go for it. In my opinion, you only live once and whats the worst that could happen, he says no.

If you DO want to get over him you need 3 things.
1.) Space
2.) Time
3.) Company

Space - try to avoid seeing him as much as possible (this may be the hardest part) Avoid going to your locker if you think he will be there and ignore him if you do see him.

Time - After you have gotten a bit of space, it will just take some time for the feelings to die down.

Company - By surrounding yourself with friends and talking to different guys, it will help to speed up the process. Talk to people at school you haven't talked to before. You might even find a new crush which is even better!!!

Hope this helps you a bit. :)

Answer 3

You might just be "in love" with the fantasy of the relationship.

There had been a guy in my life that I thought I was crazy about - because I could never really get him. We'd mess around a bit, but it would never go any further (relationship-wise). So i was always obsessed with being with him... until I realized that it was the thrill of the chase & the challenge that kept me going. Once I actually had the opportunity to get into a serious relationship (years later) I realized this person wasn't anything like what I fantasized about. We we not compatible in any way. I just filled my head with delusions about how amazing this guy was - but in reality - he was nothing special at all.

Then i was like "Whoa! What the heck was I thinking all this time!?"

You have a crush - it's normal. Just try to be realistic about any relationship potential. It's fun to dream & fantasize - but sometimes that's all there really is to go on. We get carried away & forget what the reality of the situation is.

Answer 4

Your problem is that you've built him up in your head. The version of this guy you're drooling over is just a fantasy you've created.
Maybe you should talk to him so you'll see that he's not really like you've been imagining - and don't zone out and stare at his face, or think about the fantasies you've made up when talking to him! Also, try to find someone new who you can have a real relationship with - not a fantasized one.

GOOD LUCK :)

Answer 5

ugh. i was kind of in the same situation as you. but its hard to get over these types of crushes and if i gave you a way i'd probably be lying or it might not work for you. what you can do is try to hang out with your friends more, stop asking yourself if he's going to be 'there' or if he'll like 'this' as much as you can, and just try your best. but don't try too hard to get over him because it usually backfires and you end up liking the person more than you did at the beggining. Honestly time is the only thing that will help you the most (hahaha dats kind of cheesy!).

Answer 6

seems like u r realllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllyyyyy into that guy!
If so,why dont you go and tell him.tell him abt how u feel and how u hve had feeling 4 him since u were in 6th grade.Ask him to give you a chance.He cant say no,i m sure,he will have to give you a chance.Maybe then,after that,u can carry own with ur relationship and u never know if he's the one 4 u,ur true love.
soooo,the best idea,is to step up and tell him.U cud,write him a note,mail him,ring him up and tell him or wat eva suits u best!
as 4 ur friends,its true,listening to the same thing all the time,kinda makes a person bored and tired of it and don't 4get that guys might come and go in life but friends(true friends) are forever.
therefore,go and tell him how u feel!

Answer 7

If you're still crushing on him even knowing he's a different person than what you fell in love with, then you have to clarify how much he's changed, how he's changed and decide for yourself whether he's worth persuing.

It seems like you haven't gotten the chance to know him better in those 3 years that you've been falling for him. Once you do, maybe your perspective about him will change.

Answer 8

I personally think that as you can see, a relationship in an early stage as teenagehood is overwhelming your mind. the first relationship you have should be a pure one, meaning your marriage. For now, enjoy youth without its troubles (go out with ur pals, read , expand on ur current interests, etc.), and focus on ur studies. dating won't lead u to sucess. it will just add to ur load called worries.... hope you understand what I mean and hope this advice helps!

Answer 9

Try to see what other guys are available and get to know them better. Is it your first crush? Take it from someone who knows, your first crush was hard to admit to yourself that you liked him and it will be hard to admit that maybe you don't anymore. Ge tto know other guys.

Answer 10

Why not try for some other guys. Get to know them and see if you like it. If you dont you can always dump them.