Hi, I met a childhood friend on facebook and we met up to catch up. We are 25. He has my #, but he emailed thru facebook for a 2nd date "are u free this sat? wanna meet up?" which I find impersonal. y didn't he call instead? He is not shy. Does this mean he doesn't want to get to know me over the phone but just interested in sex? So far, we have not talked bout sex. In his profile, it says looking for friends.
On our 1st date, he asked me few questions but not a lot & it didn't seem like he was trying to impress me. He was blunt about his lack of college degree and when i said everyone has diff pace in life, he said "yea right, 7 yr difference in pace." He said his last 7 yrs was partying. So I said u must've gotten it out of your system by now, but he bluntly said nope. It seemed like he didn't want me to see any good qualities in him. But if that was the case, y a 2nd date? How can i show him i'm more than a hook up? How should i reply to that email w/o sounding eager? I won't hookup
2007-10-23 18:33:10 · 17 answers · asked by S S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds like a loser to me.
He is openly admitting that he has squandered seven years of his life partying and then told you that he is not done yet.
Sounds like someone has some growing up to do.
At the age of 25, I'd be more comfortable seeing a bit of maturity and direction, and from your description, I'm not seeing much of that. Which leads me to believe that he is just looking for a fling.
2007-10-23 18:36:30 · answer #1 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might reply with the answer he gave you when you said "u must've gotten it out of your system by now". Bluntly "NOPE". He may not be a person who CAN or is willing to stop "partying. You sound like a more responsible person who want's more from a man than this particular guy would be capable of giving. You can't change him and by his own admission he isn't wanting or ready for change so unless your ready for a totally irresponsible crazy wild wknd or 2 forget it for he will after.
2007-10-23 18:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by coach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but it seems like you have answered your own question! This guy has NOTHING to offer you!
Of COURSE he will say he is looking for friends, he cannot say that he is looking to hook up, nobody will respond!!!
He spent the last 7 yrs partying, he said he hadn't changed! NO HIDDEN MEANING THERE!!! The second date was because you read into something that wasn't there! He is what he is! He put it out there, you are reading in to it! He wants to get laid! He has gone nowhere, you read into it, no hidden meaning! You ARE NOT A HOOK UP, don't let yourself BE ONE!!!
2007-10-23 18:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by ktterdfurguson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's been partying for 7 years and he's not showing you any good side to him.....he probably just wants sex. be careful of this guy.
he wants a 2nd date most likely to keep up the dating and eventually move into a sexual relationship with you. when I say 'relationship' it doesn't necessarily mean boyfriend status either. go out on a second date with him to get a feel for him. on your part show more interest in him and how you want things to proceed. if his attitude doesn't appear to change.....leave him because he's not yet dating material. it seems like he lacks some maturity and really just needs to grow up.
2007-10-23 18:43:24 · answer #4 · answered by Intuitive B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people think that partying alot is cool. so hes probably trying to impress you by that. go on a second date then tell him how you feel. if hes so blunt with you, you should do the same, but dont do it in a rude way. let him know what you want in life and if you both are not on the same page then you should move on to someone else. dont have sex with him
2007-10-23 18:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by sexxxxyyyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't take it personal that he wrote you and didn't call you. Some people just like to communicate that way. If he didn't' have much to say I wouldn't take that personal either. He may just be someone that doesn't have much to say. And he could be shy. Sometimes people are shy but the fight it. Why are you worried about rather or not he likes you or not? It sounds like you don't like him.
2007-10-23 18:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he only contacts you via facebook because he doesn't like the record remaining on his phone. Meaning, I think he has someone else.
So yah, he is only interested in sex. or just want to try you a lil bit, and go back to his gf?
2007-10-23 18:37:32 · answer #7 · answered by ONE MAD GURL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you stick to your guns and don't hookup with him most likely it won't take long for his true intentions to show through. Also, he doesn't really sound like the kind of guy you'd want to date if you were looking for a committed relationship.
2007-10-23 18:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by christie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's still around after 4-6 months of dating, and you haven't had sex, then he's interested in you.
2007-10-23 18:35:51 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't sound like he has a lot of good things going for him... He sure doesn't know how to make himself look good on a date! LOL
2007-10-23 18:39:17 · answer #10 · answered by ftz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋