I accidentally hook up wit another two men. The 1st one i admit was my fault but the 2nd one was not really my fault coz i didn't want it. I just didn't know what 2do coz he was my lecturer back then. My fault that i accepted it when he asked me out. I thought it's just an innocent scholarly outing. I didnt expect a so called respectable scholar/author/professor 2do dat. It's so gross. I begged him not to do anything to me, however in a split second he just did! He tricked me and i didnt know how to get out of d mess. Though i was very immature& stupid, i was honest with my bf. I know i am to be blamed, i cant live with the guilt until now. I feel like killing myself. Esp after the 2nd time, it hits me so badly coz i didn't want it so the trauma and phobia kicks in as well. But now my bf is abusing me mentally n physically. I'm staying bcoz i feel guilty&responsible 4 ruining everything. He's staying coz he loves me so much regardless wat happen but he's torchering me at the same time.
2007-10-23 18:24:06 · 2 answers · asked by Dark Dickinsonian 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm putting this on Y!A coz i'm so irrational right now that i need to hear from all rational and brilliant minds out there. So please don't put more blames on me. I've already got those from him for years. Years passed by, experience matures me and i am not doing any silly things anymore. I am seriously a new person now but he's using the past to mistreat me and i'm sick to be blamed and to be called disgraceful names. I can't afford to feel bad about myself anymore. and yeah we've been together for around 4yrs and have been so deeply attached...we were college lovebirds since our first year. don't know what will happen to both of us if we ever break up. yet, i don't think i can take him trashing me anymore. though i wish i could make up to him until forever.
2007-10-23 18:30:04 · update #1
If your boyfriend is abusing you in any way - then you shouldn't be with him. If he loves you & wants to remain with you, he will forgive you & move forward. We all make mistakes. You cannot un-do the past - you cannot change what happened. You feel bad, you regret it & you were mature enough to be honest about it with your man.
He needs to grow up & stop treating you like ****. You have enough pain from your own guilt - you don't need someone else reminding you that you screwed up every second.
If he is hitting you - then you definitely need to get out before he beats you to the point of broken bones - or death!!
Anyone who is capable of hitting their partner is capable of snapping & going too far. You will end up in the hospital or worse if you don't get away from this abusive relationship.
You do not deserve any of this abusive treatment!!
You both should go to therapy or something, if you want to try to remain together and have a HEALTHY relationship!!!
2007-10-23 18:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by Rue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get therapy so you can figure out why you keep putting yourself in situations to let men abuse you.
2007-10-24 01:26:58 · answer #2 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋