The daughter is getting married. Her Mother died several years ago. The Dad & his girlfriend have been going out for 3 months, seeing each other almost every night. Everybody in the family get along w/the girlfriend & they all get together often. It's a very large wedding, where should the girlfriend sit. Certainly not in the Mother of the bride's place? But where?
2007-10-23 18:21:00 · 13 answers · asked by ICUsmile 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The question as to the seating is for the ceremony only. They WILL be seated together at the reception.
Just a note to kill_yr_
It would be very rude of the girlfriend NOT to attend! She was invited BY the Bride AND the Bride's Father, who is a very respected, wise & level-headed man who would NEVER do any of the sense-less things you suggest he might. There is a very good relationship between all involved. Also the girlfriend will have friends there to talk with also, so will NOT be sitting with the old folks, nor will she be dancing w/anyone except her date!
Why would you bother to 'even try' to answer a question that you obviously know NOTHING about!
2007-10-24 21:01:08 · update #1
What I have seen done is have an empty seat with a rose placed on it where the mother of the bride would have sat and then the girlfriend would sit in the seat after that.
2007-10-23 18:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by Kayla 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
first of all..answer #1...morbid.
i like the idea of the rose in the mother's place. but then again looking from the back of the church or wherever, where the audience will be seeing there would be a big gap between the father and girlfriend. I think she should sit in the row behind the father because if she sat next to him that would mean in the beginning of the wedding she will have to be led down with the rest of the family. and she is not family.
Are you wanting to include her in pictures too? i dont think that would be a very good idea.
after the wedding she should sit wherever she wants, including by her boyfriend.
2007-10-23 18:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by Hannah 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She should be sitting next to the father of the bride. She is not a replacement mother. She is a new companion. Mention the mother in the speaches. You cant put her at a table with out him that would be awful and make her feel out of place
2007-10-23 18:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by AMP 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If I am not mistaken, the Bride's father does not sit at the honor table, only the attendents and the bridge and groom do.
So there is no reason the father's girlfriend cannot sit next to him. However, if they are including the father at the honor table, then the girlfriend should sit with other guests, as she is not family, or a part of the wedding party.
2007-10-23 18:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by Diane B 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
At the ceremony she should sit right beside him in the front row.
At the reception, if he is at the head table and other members of the wedding party have their SO's at the table, then she should be there as well. If the SO's are not at the head table, then put her with the SO's while he sits at the head table.
2007-10-24 12:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to get hate mail on this, but she should stay home. In our society, we recognize 3 types of relationships. Married, engaged, and friends. When a couple has been in an exclusive relationship for several years, we treat them as married, not as friends. But the FOB and his lady haven't known each other nearly long enough to qualify this "honorary" married status.
It would be very incorrect to treat this lady and the FOB as you would a married couple. Think of how awkward it could be when people, especially the groom's relatives, assume that this lady and gentleman are husband and wife. At least a few, and possibly many people will be thinking FOB is using his daughter's wedding to brag in public about his sex life.
Further, should she attend, the FOB will spend the occasion either neglecting his formal duties to attend to the lady or neglecting his lady to attend to his formal duties. If the former, the buzz will be "Look how he neglects his own daughter on her wedding day to make goat eyes at his new cookie." If the latter, then the lady will either be on object of pity for sitting quietly with the old folks or an object of contempt for dancing gaily with the younger folks.
The reason you can't think of a good way to accommodate this lady's presence is that there isn't one. She should stay home.
2007-10-24 01:40:16 · answer #6 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well, don't have the parents sit at the head table. Give the father his own special table at which his girlfriend and other children and their spouses can sit.
2007-10-24 03:46:06 · answer #7 · answered by L H 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She should sit next to her date, the father.
2007-10-23 18:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They should sit togehter (the father and his girlfriend).
Full Stop.
2007-10-27 16:05:42 · answer #9 · answered by Maggie Jeans 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At both the ceremony and reception, she sits with him. However, I would find it hard to believe that he would actually want to bring someone he has been seeing such a short time.
2007-10-24 01:25:10 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋