should you be able to go on a date with your b/f and not be inatmate?

Question

i would like to know how common it is for a couple to have a date and not wind up being intamate on the said date?

i dont feel like i have to put out.
but usually when we are together at some point we wind up being intamate.
there have been very few times when we have not gone down that road. and i find it both pleasent to just be with him with out sex, and yet i feel kind of put out at the same time as i like being intamate with him.

Answer 1

it depends on the couplesome think they need to others dont have to as often they are just happy to be together.

Answer 2

there are certain times in a relationship to do certain things and not always should there be intimacy. there will be time to be cute, to be romantic, to be sweet, as well as to be intimate, but on a specific and special time. if you dont want to do anything you shouldnt. having an intimacy is something you should have only if you feel secure. mistaking intimacy with love is a big problem, because the guy could say if you love me you would have an intimate moment with me and that is grade A MANIPULATION which he shouldnt do, and if he does that then he doesnt really love you. just take things slow and see where it takes you DONT RUSH THINGS you will end up regreting it. take care, good luck, and hope i could help.

Answer 3

Well the only reason you wind out been intinate because you want to. Because after a date all you ahve to say is take me home and not be intimate. And if he can't take NO for an answer just lose the loser. ANd find someone who enjoys been with you everywhere not just in the sack

Answer 4

Yes. Unless you're a pro, each and every date that you'd be having will certainly be different. It's not all the time that you can cook up that intimate mood with your partner. There will be times that it would just be plain simple, sometimes boring. That's normal. But man, you've got to learn how to consistently create that intimate ambiance if that's what you always want.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Well if that's what you want, you may as well just hang out with your friends.

The great thing about going on a date, is that you get to be intimate. Why would you not want to do that? Is it just because you can't spell that word, so it intimidates you?

Of course joking aside, it depends what you mean by that. Not all dates need to end in sex, or something very sexual. It's okay just to spend quality time together and end the night with a nice kiss.

Answer 6

oh definitely! But it depends on how you define it. Just staying in and watching movies on the couch, cuddling or even holding hands when we go out is intimacy to me :) I have been dating my b/f for 6 months. And I am still a virgin. And we still consider ourselves an intimate couple. As long as you are happy and he is ok with not being intimate...

Answer 7

yeah it should be just fine, but if you guys are still in that passionate spontainious stage, well then its gonna take a while before your guy's hormons calm down, but yes it is very common not unless your guy's relationship is fully based on sex which if it is then its basically a privledged faitful bootycall, instead of a real relationship. an if it bothers you soo bad say your on your period or your spotting some bull lol k good luck!!!

Answer 8

Absolutely. There is nothing wrong with wanting his companionship without feeling that you have to "put out" for him. If he doesn't feel the same, then find a new boyfriend.

Answer 9

It's common. A relationship should be a friendship too, where you can just hang out and talk.

Answer 10

Not all dates end up with sex..in fact most do not..only immature guy's would think different. You should do what you feel comfortable doing, period.