2007-10-23 17:54:10 · 11 answers · asked by Disciple of Cthulhu 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
we thought it was because of the tv. But turning it off at the wall, one still finds him in there. He has not even mentioned monsters in his room. He is vague about it!!
2007-10-23 18:03:00 · update #1
addendum:
i'm his mum's partner and moved in. Now he tells me to sleep in his room!he's spoilt
2007-10-23 18:04:49 · update #2
further addendum. He stays over at his nanna', till me and mum come home from work. There has always been a nightlight for a fair while.
2007-10-23 18:09:33 · update #3
he goes in their on his own, regardless of either of us being in there!
2007-10-23 18:18:58 · update #4
alas problem solved, she'd rather sleep with him than me, so it's the fromt door for me :-(. Thx for all your help guys regardless.
2007-10-25 23:01:12 · update #5
please don't make him
he may not be ready
but ur the mom so u know
i think the family bed gives children a safe and nurtured feeling but this society has turned it into something sick within their own minds
families use to all sleep together
2007-10-23 17:58:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
GOOD LUCK this is a hard one, I've had to do it, and it is STRESSFUL but you MUST be consistant! It is also a gradual process. First of all use a nightlight or lamp, plus soothing music. At first let him fall asleep with you in the room. Then, stay in there for a set amount of time and leave before he falls asleep and let him fall asleep w/out you in the room. Then let him fall asleep in his room by himself. Praise him the next morning if he does well. This process took a while with my daughter but if you stick with it, it is SOO worth it. At first, she came into my room 5734058345034 times a night, all night long. I didn't get any sleep. You just have to keep re-directing them back to bed. I've had to let her cry it out some as well. There's been times she would get out of bed and wouldn't get back in, so she went to time out, then back to bed. Again and Again sometimes. She would use any excuse she could to get out of bed. If he is scared of monsters, try putting water in a water bottle and call it Monster Spray. Spray it all over the room/house and say that it will not allow any monster around. Also put a sign on the door that says NO Monsters Allowed In This House! Check the room with him to show him there isnt anything. Try a bed routine that includes reading a book and/or having a chat, about the day or any concerns or just telling him how much you love him, give him praise (if deserved). Say prayers (if that's something yall do). Maybe try to teach him ''belly breathing'' or other childrens relaxation techniques and/or imagery.
2007-10-24 01:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this but telling a small innocent child that a monster is anywhere is a horrible thing to do! OMG. Children have the wildest imaginations and to scare them like that??? Holy crap! You DO NOT want to SCARE him into staying into bed... who's REALLY the monster now? Does Tatiana have any kids herself? That's such a mean thing to do to a little child. I NEVER tell my kids that bugs, monsters, boogy men, or anything like that will get them... if the child DOES need you, and then becomes scared to come into your room for an emergency... no... you be consistant and keep taking the child back to bed, and telling them, that's where they have to sleep. It will be hard at first, because if a child is used to sleeping with you, they will not understand why the change is happening... or lay the child in bed, and shut the door, allow them to scream if they have to, and go check on them at first in 5 mins, then 10 and keep extending the time until they go to sleep. The first week will be rough, but if you ever want to free your bed of children, you have to train them to sleep in their own beds. Good luck, and love the babies, kiss them and hold them, and tell them thatthey will be ok! :-)
2007-10-24 01:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by Corgis4Life 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hmm...i think that you should start by having him have his afternoon naps there by himself.
He may be scared at first so it's better if you accompany him in the room before he goes to sleep and keep the bedroom door open.
Maybe after awhile he gets adjusted to his room and will be fine.
When you start making him sleep in his room (night), you should place a night light too.
2007-10-24 01:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by DiA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be consistent when putting them back in bed. They will keep coming to your room and all. Although i do know that with my parents, they let me sleep in their room whenever i wanted and well...i eventually would sleep in their room some nights and sleep in my room other nights, and then it turned to no nights....Either way be consistent with what you are doing. I remember that when i was little i had a great imagination and i would scare myself so badly....
2007-10-24 00:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by Sonja H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with him until he falls asleep the first few nights maybe even move a chair or cot in and sleep there a few nights.
2007-10-24 01:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by shipwreck 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should putt him in his bed and sit there for 5 min then leave then if he somes to your room then put him back to his room and keep doing that and if he keeps coming in give him a punishment!
2007-10-24 00:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by Claire S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him a bedroom worth going 2, racecar bed, or somethoing he wants to go to every night.
trial and error , hope it helps
2007-10-24 00:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by James 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put him in there and deal with the fact that he's going to cry.....do you want him being the weird kid sleeping with him mommie when he is ten?
2007-10-24 01:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
put candy in there. no honestly...call Nanny 911 and /or Super Nanny
2007-10-24 00:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋