Ive been in love with a wonderful man for years . He like me found himself at the loosing end in his first , and like me , long suffering marriage of over twenty years . He has three children two of which lived at home at the time that he invited me to move in , His youngest son still lives with us and I have become a prisoner in a small part of our home because his son has been having bowel movements in his pants and wearing his clothing like that all day long . Only bathing when we force the issue . He has had extensive testing . Hundreds of thousands of dollors in medical test all showing that he is in no way incontinent . He picks his nose and eats the dried mucous and digs at his anus all the time . I am ill and must take powerful medications that kill my immune system and as a result of the things mentioned above I have had staph twice in my arm that wouldnt get well on meds . I clean with disinfectants all the time and Im at a complete loss of what to do because he wont stop .
2007-10-23 17:52:46 · 7 answers · asked by Toni 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I suppose I expected some unkind answers in hope of some type of workable solution . It should be explained in more detail as space would not allow earlier that I love this child and did enjoy almost a year with the absense of this behaviour. He has been examined and counceled by two psych doctors with a diagnosis of laziness of all things .His father dragged them to court along with a pediatrition that agreed with the psych diagnosis as they found no physical or emotional reason for the bahaviour . With him admitting that he was lazy of all things . His grades in school are wonderful but oddly he seems to be unaffected by the discust his classmates feel toward him . Since birth he has has no olfactory sensation what so ever with no change in sight inspite of meds and surgery . As I said he has gone long periods of normnal behaviour . I lost my temper tonite and finally told him that i had to know what his next move would be . If the behaviour dont stop I have to move on . Ihave a home
2007-10-23 20:50:02 · update #1
First of all, how old is he? That can make a difference in how to deal with him. If he is younger (grade school age) you can use behavior modification to help curb his disgusting behavior. Such as when he defecates himself on purpose, he loses out on something he enjoys. If he is a teenager, then I would suggest continue counseling, even if it just for yourself to help you cope with this. He might be "lazy" but I suspect that there is something else going on. It sounds to me like maybe he is acting out because you moved in with him and his dad. Do you have a good relationship with him? Maybe he is trying to push you away. At this point, considering that there is no medical reason that he acts this way, counseling would be your best route to take. Have him go by himself plus do family counseling. This is obviously an issue that needs to be dealt with. Talk to his father and let him know that if his son continues his disgusting and dirty behaviors, that you will have to move out because of your own health issues.
2007-10-24 06:34:18 · answer #1 · answered by kaliluna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 11:32:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the sake of your own health,you must leave that environment. It sounds like the boy has mental problems
but knowing that won't help you. It's a tragic situation but
other than committing him to an institution or leaving things
as they are,what else can you do? You could get seriously
ill to the point of death if you stay.
2007-10-23 18:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by Alion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the child is an evolving sociopath. The father is a complete jerk for bringing you into the situation and not keeping your relationship seperate from his idiot son.
You my dear, are worst of them all because you have a choice
the son doesn't..he was born with his mental imperfection
the father doesn't.."it" is his son.
But you stay at the biggest cost one can pay...with your own life and the health that preserves it
2007-10-23 18:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by Dardika Drake 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why are you submitting yourself to this? dont you care about YOUR health? move the heck OUT!
2007-10-23 18:05:09 · answer #5 · answered by vanessa c 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He needs psychological help.
Maybe he's depressed??
2007-10-23 18:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by ZEE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BULLSHIT!!! LMAO
2007-10-23 17:56:44 · answer #7 · answered by sandi_villanueva 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋