A guy & I've been dating FOR a long time. II was in love & crazy about him! We started talking about marriage & what we're gonna do in the future. One day, he stopped texting me. [[We couldn't call often cause of school]]. When I got home, I called him & asked what was wrong. He told me that he met another girl 7 started falling for her. Get this though, the girl was bi. I was so insulted. He left me for her!! I asked him how long has that been going on & he answered since last week. x_x . He then said that he couldn't choose BETWEEN US. By that time, I was heart broken & then Insulted! I told him that I'll make the choice & I broke it off with him. A week later, he begged me to take him back & that he was sorry. I refused to take him back, told him that he shouldn't have had to CHOOSE between me & the bi girl. We parted after that. I was still crying about him. Now, a year later, I still think about him & I'm still in love with him. My heart still aches for him.
2007-10-23 17:38:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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My question is.. Is there any advice out there for me that can help me stop thinking about him. How I can stop loving him?
I've tried going out with other guys, but that didn't work. I constantly thought about that guy and I measured my feelings for each of the guys I dated to that guy. The feeling I had with that guy always won. x_x
>.<;; I need to forget about him. How can I do that?
2007-10-23 17:42:32 · update #1
Thanks for the advices everyone. I know in my mind that I have to move on and I want to! My heart is telling me to not go on though. x_x;
2007-10-23 18:13:17 · update #2
Maybe try again, and see if you both still feel the same way.
2007-10-23 17:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by Linni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still thinking of him and hurting because you did everything right and it still didn't work out. as you said, you are asking if you did the right thing so you are still thinking about that. But let's explore that. First, you did the right thing because he was the one who didn't love you or he wouldn't go from talking of marriage to another girl.
I don't know how old you are, whether you have had sex with him, but if you were to take him back you would have to make him take tests to see what diseases he may have caught from her, and you would have to take tests to ensure that he didn't pass something on to you whether he showed signs or not to be on the safe side for you.
If you are in college, you have to remember that when you graduate from school, you will find a whole new group of people and find someone who is interested in you for who you are and not play you like he did. That goes even for high school, for that matter.
you are in love with him but the man you love is the one who would have married you and been happy but he showed you that he really is not that person and even if you had married him, he would have played around in time and the relationship would have ended then instead of now. For that matter, since the girl is bi, you can not be sure she is not the one to send him back to you in hopes of getting something going with the 3 of you together. You did the right thing and you will get past this by going out with others and you will find someone else to make you forget this man who really showed that he did not deserve your loyalty or love because he didn't love you or he wouldn't have left you and doesn't deserve your loyalty. You will find someone in the future who will make you as happy as you feel sad now. Good luck to you!!
2007-10-23 18:09:45 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely made the correct choice, he was the one to ruin you guys relationship. It doesn't matter if the other person was BI or a gorilla the fact is he had another female and had to decide which one he wanted to be with. I'm glad you made the choice for him. There's no time limit on recovery but a year is a long time and you're not helping the situation by keeping contact with him, you'll never move on as long as he's in your life. Good Luck!
2007-10-23 17:49:16 · answer #3 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant help who you fall in love with..... Well at least that is what I believe. I also believe that you did the right thing. My mom once told me that if a man has to choose between you and another women. Leave him alone. Because you wasnt what he wanted. and if you was then he wouldnt be choosing... It hurts to have a broken heart and it takes some time to heal... So go out and find you somebody who doesnt want to chose, cause he already knows your the girl he wants
2007-10-23 17:48:11 · answer #4 · answered by asia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Occupy your time with something else. Watch movies, go play sports, hang out with friends, read a book, etc. Whatever you do don't call him or text him. It will only make things worse. The less contact you have with him the faster you will get over him.
2007-10-23 17:51:05 · answer #5 · answered by currenrocks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should talk to him and see what he has to say about it. People make mistakes and we all get hurt, Second chances are meant to be given, You obviously still love him so why do you want to get over him? Most people would kill for just one inch of love and it seems like you're throwing it away!
2007-10-23 17:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by !~!ASHLEY!~! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no if your thinkin of him 24/7 u didnt do the right choice
2007-10-23 17:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋