Strict Parents?

Question

What are your rules for teens say 13-18?

Specifics?

Answer 1

you have to give your children some freedom, otherwise they will rebel in a big way. my mum's rules for me were:
-if i go out, she has to be told where i'm going, who's house I'm at, etc
-home by 10pm (as a 15 year old - the time got later as i got older- by 17 my curfew was 12am)
-no staying at boys' houses til 16 and even then mum had to know them and their parents.

all rules depend on your beliefs and your child. remember to be open and honest with your children and make yourself available to talk to and be there for them. don't come down too harshly otherwise they won't tell you anything in the future and will be sneaking around.

Answer 2

They definitely need a curfew. 13 year olds should not be allowed to stay out past 10:00pm on weekends. After the age of 15 they should be given a little leeway, being that you don't want to be too overly strict. My niece left her home at the age of 18 because she was so tired of her mom controlling her every move. Her mom was so hurt because of her rebellious attitude.

They need a parent, not a wannabe, cool parent, brother/sister type. Kids like to have someone to give them boundries (trust me).

And be there for them. They need someone to talk to, someone to give them advice, and someone they can come to for (almost) anything. But don't expect them to tell you everything. They need some privacy.

Answer 3

My husband would not allow his kids to be out after dark unless they were going to their friend's house and we drove them, or they were going to the movies, etc. 10 pm bedtime Sun-Thurs night, Fri & Sat were open, but they had to be inside.
There was a shooting in Seattle a week or so ago. A cop came across a 13 and 14 year-old out at 3am vandelizing a building (Tagging) and when she told the kids to show their hands the 13 year-old reached in his pocket so she shot him in the leg. She didn't know what he was reaching for. It turned out to be a cell phone, but it could have easily been a gun. This is why parents need to be strict and not let their kids run wild.

Answer 4

My 16 year old has a part time job and pays half of his auto insurance. He goes nowhere on school nights unless it is school or church related. On weekends he is home by 11:00, or he goes nowhere the next weekend. He has a cell phone that must not be abused, and it never has been. If it was, it would be gone. He has to keep his grades above a "C" in classes that he struggles with (2), but above a "B" in anything else. He is not supposed to talk rudely to me (his mom) or his sister. He would not talk rudely to his dad. Any infractions he loses computer time, or going out time. When he turns 17 his curfew goes up to midnight. He can not date yet. He is an excellent kid!

Answer 5

i am not one of those but my parents were. i wasnt allowed to leave the house untill i turned 18 with school being an exception, or i could go outside if exscorted by my parents, and i could go on walks/bikerides(we were out in the country so there wasnt anywhere to go anyway).also i wasnt allowed to work or drive until a month or two before i turned 18. needless to say that was way too strict and it was hard to adjust to liveing life out in the world.

Answer 6

the key is not telling your child "these are rules" because they are trying to grow up and become more independant, so they will view these boundaries as intrusive. but if you raise them "believing" that certain things are "right" and if they understand the reasons that make a certain way of living better than another, it makes it easier. i never rebelled, because i never felt like my parents wouldn't let me do anything. i simply believed that doing certain things were morally wrong 9God and religion played a role in this for me) and i knew that i wouldn't be happy doing those things- at least not in the long run. so i was never tempted. it's like 1 AM here, so i hope that makes some sense

Answer 7

We were pretty strict....here are a few rules....she was a pretty good child though.

No visiting friends if an adult wasn't at home.

No getting in the car with anyone who didn't have their license at least a year.

No dating until the last year in high school.

Bad grades because of not studying.....no privileges until the next grading period.

**She's 22 now....finished college....and says now she's glad we were strict.

Answer 8

i don't have teens but here are some rules i had growing up.

i wasn't allowed to date anyone unless he came to the house and had supper with us 3 times, for my parents to get to know him.

at first i wasn't allowed to date unless my older sister was with me

no company on school nights, and i wasn't allowed to go anywhere on school nights

my bedtime on school nights was determined by my grades in school

and a trick that i will use on my kids: it is called tattle-tale-night. we had one night a week where we could tattle on each other or our selves, and not get in trouble, no matter what it was. no lectures nothing. but after a while we realized she done this so that she knows what we have done, so that she could catch us the next time. very clever of her.

Answer 9

You must obey your parents. As wrong as they seem right now, when you have children you will see how right they are. Remember, when living with anyone, there are always rules.

Answer 10

let them do what they want cuz if you keep them from doing things theyll lie to you and do things behind your back.
wouldnt you rather know the truth of where your children are than have them doing stuff without you knowing.