my family call me crazy am i really crazy
2007-10-23 17:01:48 · 20 answers · asked by muffin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you still with this man? You're not crazy, just afraid that if you leave him, he will do something terrible to hurt himself which will make you feel guilty. But you stay with him even though he beats you because as a victim of domestic violence, you feel trapped and think that there's no escape. Seek professional counselling or advice if this situation is troubling you.
2007-10-23 17:09:56 · answer #1 · answered by ChameleonGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not say why you grieved for this guy who beat you for 15 years. Well the world is a big place with many interesting people who have different ways of handling relationships. You could just move on. Moving on to a different person and way of life.
2007-10-23 17:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by TicToc.... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of women get trapped in those kinds of relationships not because they are always weak but because at some point in their life they had a view of a man who controlled them as the supreme being I guess. Like if the man was your father and he mistreated your mom and she did nothing about it that made you way more likely to become involved in the same type of relationship. Don't worry grief is funny anyways because we never know how we will feel until the unspeakable does finally happen. Don't think your crazy either, you loved him for whatever reasons that your friends may not know about, so cherish the times he wasn't hurting you and thank God for the times that you no longer have to put up with it.
2007-10-23 17:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by B-Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all. You are not crazy...you may just need to talk to a professional. I have seen many cases were the person who was the victim doesnt realize that they are the victim because she has been beaten like this for so long they start thinking is normal but it isnt find someone that will love you forever and will treat you like a woman and with the respect you deserve. Good luck. God bless you.
2007-10-23 17:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not crazy, and you can use some counseling to help you through this. It is not uncommon for a victim to sympathize with their abusers. Plus it was a 15 year relationship that is now (from what I understand) over. It's a relationship that is now gone in your life and so the feeling of a loss is normal as well. I would sugges looking to some counseling in your area. It would he helpful to talk with someone who can understand your feelings. Good luck to you.
2007-10-23 17:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by Kim D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TEXT BOOK EXAMPLE of an abused woman. Woman always say he beats me but I love him. It is an insecurity in the woman that always draws her back to the abuser there are plenty of them at the cemetary in any town U.S.A.. Hope you get over this loser or you might end up getting hurt by him or dead. You deserve much better than a wife beater. Go out with some guys get to know people at book clubs, coffee shops, poetry readings, school, work, etc..... I bet you will find someone fabulous real soon. GOOD LUCK !!!!
2007-10-23 17:13:56 · answer #6 · answered by Joe A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all seek "love" and respond to it in many ways. You may have been "crazy," but you are not "crazy" any longer. This type of "craziness" goes along with me and many of my friends. The beating part does not have to be a "sustained" by you. Congratulations on going forward with your very worthwhile, strong and vibrant LIFE. I am proud of you and I wish you well. What shall we then say to these things? If GOD be for us, WHO can be against us? - Romans 8:31. The Lord daily loadeth us with BENEFITS, even the GOD of our salvation. Selah. - Psalm 68:19. Peace, Love and God Bless.
2007-10-23 17:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by In God We Trust 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not crazy. It's called co-dependency. You can care for a person even if they beat you. But in the long run, its very, very unhealthy.
You do not want to end up as a statistic. If you don't get out of a physically abusive relationship, you will be dead.
2007-10-23 17:07:02 · answer #8 · answered by Agent319.007 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because you have no belief in yourself. You don't believe you deserve better. Honey, you DO deserve to be with a man who will love you and treat you good. You deserve a man who wants to give and take....not just take! You don't love him. You grieve the loss of relationship that didn't work. There are other men out there. PLEASE don't waste your time on someone who won't treat you the way you should be!
2007-10-23 17:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you became emotionally attached via "love."
Love is an emotion.
In a universe that is formed via Logic, emotion is illogical. It makes you blind to the bad things and only see the good.
For instance, a pessimistic person only sees the bad in life and an optimistic sees only the good.
The idea is balance - a Realist.
So, you're emotions cause you to act illogical and believe/think illogically.
2007-10-23 17:04:22 · answer #10 · answered by Corvus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋