Be completely honest with me.
I was dating a guy.
About 3 weeks in, we got on the subject of sex and I told him that I'm not going to have sex till I'm married.
It is a personal decision, not one made for me.
As soon as he found out, his entire disposition completely changed.
He wouldn't hold my hand, he wouldn't look me in the eye, he wouldn't kiss me goodnight.
3 days later, hes dating another girl.
Would you react this way.
Be honest, I'm old enough, I can take the truth.
2007-10-23 16:27:09 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, he's a jerk. Not alot of woman do that anymore and I totally respect you. Dont worryabout him and find you someone who respects that and you. Keep it up and dont let any guy change your mind.
2007-10-23 16:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
This guy I like kissed me and now he's basically ignoring me, so as of right now I can't really stand guys. Not all guys of course but most of them. The guy you were dating is so immature if he stopped liking you because of your own personal choice and he sounds like such a loser. If I was in a relationship I wouldn't only be in it for sex which I've never had before and don't even plan on having either. I really respect your decision about it and the way you handled the situation was exactly as you should have. I hope he contracts AIDS because he's basically asking for it if he's only in a relationship for that. You are way to good for him, and there is definitely someone out there better than him that will respect your views about the subject. Good job kicking his butt to the curb! ;)
2007-10-23 23:43:37 · answer #2 · answered by edelrickitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys are jerks but alot of the time the ones who are the most attractive to females seem to be the biggest jerks around. If you want someone who will respect your decision to not have pre marital sex, might I suggest going out with someone who is more interested in intellectual progression as opposed to physical sports.
2007-10-23 23:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by Super Stomach Pirate Monkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way im saving it for the women i marry it is hard as hell at times but im trying atleast but seriously if a guy dosent respect you enough to date you for something other than sex hes a waste of time just be happy you didnt date him for like 3 months befour this happend talk about a waste of time haha
2007-10-23 23:35:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is not concerned with a longterm relationship. He just wants sex. He may be that way all his life and he may mature and need companship. Many men go through that. Not trying to tell you what to do. If you were my daughter I would encourage to not sell yourself to cheap to keep a guy. It dont work. 3 weeks is way too soon to jump in bed with a guy. Do you know about Stds? Are you ready to raise a child by yourself? Would you get an abortion? Examine yourself.
2007-10-23 23:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by Bob S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends if all girls are crazy, I asked that question the other day.
Hearing that a girl doesn't want to have sex till marriage is a huge turn off for me. It has nothing to do with the actual sex part but the thinking behind the choice. Why? Maybe it's because I'm not religious but seriously what are you saving? I'm not trying to offend you but I personally find it ignorant.
Although if your like 16 or something this is a whole different issue.
2007-10-23 23:32:52 · answer #6 · answered by Nick S 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes, I think that all of us guys are jerks. We are just more wired to want sex than you ladies are. That doesn't mean that we don't love or feel more attachment to some of you than others of you. It just means that if girl A won't give me the goodies, I'll seek the goodies from girl B, and maybe girl C too, when I can pull that off.
It also doesn't mean that I wouldn't like to settle down with one girl someday when I'm older. And you sound like an ideal, moraled type of girl for some guy to eventually settle down with.
I say just stick to your guns, and you'll probably meet a guy who's in the right phase of his life to be right for you.
Younger guys like me might be in the wrong phase for you so it would probably be wise if you married someone a little older than yourself.
2007-10-23 23:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
"The truth.....YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH"...Sorry could not resist..You were going out with him for three weeks and he finds out that your going to save yourself till you get married, then he dumps you and goes out with someone who will give him sex..To answer your question, no I would not act like this,however I would probably find out what kind of relationship your after with me during the first date.If it's a bf, then I would tell you that I would like some other compensation,if intercourse is not an option,(ie..oral,mutual stimulation,or something) cause I would need this.Again, this would have been communicated in the "first" date..Not after 3 weeks of dating..So if you think I'm a jerk to then so be it but it is true.Good luck.
2007-10-23 23:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Many men are of course concerned with what's in their pants and getting it into yours... but no, not all men will react as this one did.
If saving it for marriage is what you believe in, then stand by your choice and find a man who will respect that--and ALL that you stand for.
You deserve that, and you won't be happy if you don't hold out for that.
2007-10-23 23:36:21 · answer #9 · answered by Gauffsa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way to go... save yourself for marriage- you don't want to be with a guy like that. Your standards should be respected and any guy that is not appreciative of what you're saving, shouldn't even be with you. I too am choosing not to give myself away before marriage. I am engaged to the most wonderful guy in the world and he tells me he feels honored that I saved myself for him. :)
-AJ
2007-10-23 23:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by Reea 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good on you on making that decision.
I am lucky the both my boyfriend and i are going to wait till marriage.
If a guy really loves and respects you then he should wait.
2007-10-23 23:35:08 · answer #11 · answered by Glamourous_Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋