He has yet to meet me half way with any decisions, or arguments. I have changed things about myself that he did not like. I even accepted the fact that he's 9yrs older than me(I'm 18). He even has a child and an ex he still keeps in contact with but never talks on the phone with them around me. He has never been married, yet he tells me constantly how he wants to be with me. He wanted to break up 10 times before today. I don't want to go back home to my mother, who is thousands of miles away, with my tail in between my legs.
2007-10-23 14:24:43 · 29 answers · asked by LonelyAverage18yrold 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Come to Canada and be with me :o))
Seriously why be with a jerk like this? Get out and be yourself, if someone wants you to be something else tell them to get lost. And sweets there is no way your mother could be any worse than being with this idiot.
2007-10-23 14:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by iain4rangers 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The guy is nine years older than you, asked you to move across country for him, and still is a tool.
Dump him and get the hell out of there, the guy has serious problems, which is what anyone not in the relationship would realize. You don't have to do it today, but start taking steps to being able to go it alone. Get a job, get some friends, get some independence. Don't get pregnant, whatever happens.
He is an immature control freak just looking for a naive (you're 18, save the argument, this is your first adult relationship) woman , who he can control. He doesn't see you as an adult, but as someone who he can steamroll in disagreements.
It's harsh, but your situation is a cliche. The guy doesn't want to contend with an equal, he wants somebody he can control. Yes, I know you're "mature for your age," "age doesn't make a difference," and "we really connect."
2007-10-23 21:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like he has control issues, and a few problems with commitment.
if you can make a successful go of things on your own, you go girl!
but if you think your not ready for that step, by all means go back home. it`s tough to admit you may have made a mistake; maybe there was an ugly scene when you left home, but it takes a mature person to admit when they made a mistake.
don`t let your pride get in the way of making smart decisions.
and don`t make yourself dependent on someone else who may not have your best interests as a priority.
xxmachina makes a VERY IMPORTANT point--DO NOT GET PREGNANT WITH THIS GUY!! having a baby will make you feel like you have no option but to stay, and it`s a huge downward slide once that happens.
2007-10-23 21:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by miss kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh...good question. Well in the first place everything you said is already suspicious and I would not even be dating him now. I suggest that you leave before he deliberately kicks you out and never fall for a guy who wants you to change your unique self. Maybe you should get a fresh start away from nagging friends and family who might ridicule you. Take this time to go on a road trip, to travel or just try living in a new place on your own.
2007-10-23 21:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by alenka 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have 2 choices:
Get out of the relationship and start a new life on your own where your at.
Or get out of the relationship....Go home and start a new life there.
Either decision is better then staying in a bad relationship.
If it was good he wouldn't have wanted to breakup 10 times.
Sounds like he is insecure...
You shouldn't have had to change things about yourself that he didn't like... He should like you the way you are..
2007-10-23 21:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by ASDZA’NI 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him exactly what you think and feel. Tell him what you want and how you see the situation. Ask him what he wants a week from today, a month, a year. If you don't want to stay, then go home, otherwise, if you like it, I would get a job and find a place to live. Inquire at churches where you can live for free for awhile.
2007-10-23 21:33:19 · answer #6 · answered by simulwording@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a) Get him blind silly drunk while your remain sober.
b) Shave the middle of his head and his right eye brow (let him shave the left one when he sobers up.)
c) Go back home WITH YOUR HEAD HELD UP HIGH because you made the absolute best decision of your life to leave that loser.
d) You deserve the best; not some immature idiot.
e) Smile as you wave good-bye and don't look back.
The absolute worst decision would be to stay.
2007-10-23 21:31:44 · answer #7 · answered by angelthe5th 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but you're going to have to go back home with your tail between your legs. You made a pretty dumbass move (literally) by going to a guy with no ring and plenty of baggage. Save your pride and dignity and work things out with your mom. It may sting a little but at least you won't be alone.
2007-10-23 21:29:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't let anyone degrade you like that, you deserve better.If someone doesn't accept you for who you are in the first place, they never really liked the real you. going back home is a sign of strength, it says to him, "i don't need you, and i won't take this", and it says to your mom you are a responsible adult with couarge and pride and that you are fully capable of learnig from your mistakes and growing from them. i'm sure your mother would repect your decision, walking away from this sitution takes strength, and love and respect for yourself. if i were your mother, sister or just your friend i'd be damned proud of you for telling this jerk to kiss off.
2007-10-23 21:33:18 · answer #9 · answered by willowkaii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for someone who wants to be with you and loves you he sure does want you to change a lot. it sounds to me that hes making you in to something your not. i would leave him your too young to be with someone so old and who has a kid, and sicne you dont want to go back to your moms house why dont you start to look for a job and save up some money so you can move out alone or with a roommate. either way good luck
2007-10-23 21:45:45 · answer #10 · answered by bebe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋