I went to England with my boyfriend a couple years ago. We were 21 and my Mom told me ahead of time that it's unladylike and trashy to sleep in the same bed as him. She was like, "I don't care what he or his Aunt say, DO NOT sleep in the same bed".
So I slept in his cousin's bed for the first four nights and he and the cousin sleep in the living room on teeny, uncomfortable couches. Finally bf was like, "Look, the couch is uncomfortable and my Aunt told me its' okay for me to sleep in the bed with you."
So he climbed in bed and slept there the remaining two days of our trip.
Is that inappropiate?
2007-10-23 14:16:37 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If your aunt said it was okay, then it is okay ; it her house so she makes the rules.
2007-10-23 14:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by brian777999 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how your mom thought that was wrong with sleeping with your boyfriend in the same bed while at your aunts house, because you 2 are in a relationship, if your mom and dad went to your aunts than they would sleep together... You guys should of slept together in the first place....
2007-10-23 15:51:30 · answer #2 · answered by CaptainChris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I visited my uncle and aunt with my boyfriend, and they didn't even offer us the option of separate beds. But at another aunt's house, we got put on separate levels of the house!
I think it depends on the family. What is rude for your family is not necessarily rude for your boyfriend's family. It can even be rude to insist on sleeping separately, if the alternative arrangements cause a lot of trouble (although it is certainly not inappropriate to insist).
You also didn't have as much say in the matter, as it was your boyfriend's family and his decision. So I don't think anyone would be judging you for it (except your mom).
2007-10-23 14:42:23 · answer #3 · answered by Marie Antoinette 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If everyone is ok with it then it should be fine. I'm sure you and your boyfriend respected the house by not gettin' down and dirty. The fact that you were mindful of her possible rules tells me that you were both responsible adults about the sleeping arrangements all the way around.
2007-10-23 14:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by ndn_ronhoward 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both adults. If the owner of the house does not condone premarital sleeping together, then it would be the epitome of rudeness to sleep in the same bed under that person's roof.
If his Aunt gave her blessing, then I would say it's OK.
PS: Don't tell your mom.
2007-10-23 14:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by Dan H 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
IF the aunt actually gave permission to your boyfriend, it's okay, but might make some older people uncomfortable.
2007-10-23 15:05:24 · answer #6 · answered by beez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it is. If you were married it would be different. You can probably get away with it, but to be completely proper, sleep in different beds while at someone elses house.
2007-10-23 14:25:29 · answer #7 · answered by Jason 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are talking about proper etiquette, the answer is no. However, today's society largely ignores etiquette and opts for what is more convenient, kind of like the little lie vs. the big lie.
2007-10-23 15:56:25 · answer #8 · answered by liorio1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, not inappropriate at all. Your both adults and if it was okay with your Aunt you did nothing wrong.
2007-10-23 15:55:17 · answer #9 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not proper. However, if his aunt had no objection and your moral conscience is cleared, then anything goes.
2007-10-23 17:43:44 · answer #10 · answered by Lighthouse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋