What do you do when you love some one... but stress and other *stuff* makes you kind of lose interest. i love my girl but i just don't feel as close to her anymore... been dating 8 months. and seems like after the 6 month iv kinda been getting fed up. but i just want things to go great...
2007-10-23 14:01:26 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know this may not sound that helpful but when ever i've felt that way it really meant that i needed to do something for myself. Either go back to school, or make some kind of positive change that benefited me in my life some how. When you throw your self into a relationship but don't have any real significant success in your life other than the relationship, then it's not enough. you get bored. it's too much pressue. I hope this helps. Good luck.
2007-10-23 14:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean. you should try flirting more often or simple things that show affection like just holding around the waste from the back unexpectedly can just make her feel you love her and in return she'll probably show you the same affection back.
If she doesnt then maybe she's losing interest then in this case maybe you should move on. You're a good person for trying to rekindle a relationship even through stress.
Really try to talk it out, you proabably have or what not and hopefully she understands but if you don't then just say some things are just gonna have to give. so good luck! hope to see how it go if you have a follow up question.
2007-10-23 14:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by Tin Tran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationship change.. if stress makes you lose interest and you don't feel close anymore and you're fed up. It's time to move on. That would be the best for both of you. It is the honest and respectable thing to d o.(but hard)
Just chalk it up as a learning experience... Good Luck
2007-10-23 14:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by gimme1latte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to lose interest after a while. A lot of people are addicted to infatuation - they'll date someone for a few months, then when the high wears off, dump them and try someone new.
With the right person - and with some communication and work - you won't lose interest completely, you'll just learn to feel more comfortable with them and enjoy being around them. No more butterflies in the stomach, but no more worrying about how they'll react, either.
Try going out to a different spot, doing different things on dates, and travelling together. The novelty ought to give you two a lot of things to do and talk about together for the first time.
2007-10-23 14:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
1st of all relationships are not always "great". You will definitely have ups and downs and there will be times in the relationship when you don't want anything to do with them. That is normal. What is not normal is to expect your relationship to be great all the time. Have you ever heard the saying, "You can love someone but not like them?" If you still feel fed up, than you'd better cut the strings and move on for both your sakes.
2007-10-23 14:16:02 · answer #5 · answered by Reptile lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a few options:
A). Set time for you and your girl-put all the daily stresses aside
B). Explain to your girl what is going on and let her decide if she wants to stay in the situation (especially if nothing external is going to change.
C). Take a break. It's not fair to her or the other things you have to do in life.
D). Get rid of some of the external stresses. Focus on what's important in life.
Good luck! You have to decide what is important to you at this point in your life. Is the girl irreplacable? Are you willing to lose her for other things in life that may not be a priority. Sorry you have to make such tough decisions.
2007-10-23 14:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by sacabeans00 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's been 8 months already and you don't feel the same, it's time to move on. Unless you two can work out the stress and other stuff. You shouldn't be having these feelings this early in your relationship. Explain to her how you feel, hopefully she will listen with an open mind and an open heart and things will work out for the best! I hope you two get things worked out, if not, time to move on..... Good luck!
2007-10-23 14:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by tigress4utonite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I know how you feel...I mean, it may sound petty because I'm only 17, BUT. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 and 1/2 years and they have been happy, but trust me, several things have gotten in the way.
Including stress. I mean, if you're tired of her because of other women or you've lost interest physically, then get over it and don't keep her around. But if it is emotionally, stress does a lot to affect it and your feelings typically don't just disappear, it really is just due to the stress. Why don't you just talk to her about it? Explain everything...and I mean, EVERYTHING.
:) did that help?
2007-10-23 14:06:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her, you wouln't get fed up. In every relationship there are ups and downs. It's impossible to keep up with the passion that you might of had when you first met. It's just not realistic, or even healthy to have that amount of tension in a relationship. If you really love her let her know, and be honest about the stresses in your life, before it's too late.
2007-10-23 14:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by Beth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably sit down with her and discuss what you have been feeling. Maybe the same concerns have been in her mind as well. You will have to decide the next step afterwards. I'd like to say everything will "go great" but life doesn't always go the way we'd like. Good luck.
2007-10-23 14:06:37 · answer #10 · answered by JJK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋