Im 16 and ive never had a boyfriend or been on a date... but i feel the need for someone to like me and hold me and kiss me getting stronger everyday! im not sure if ill be able to handle it much longer, before i lose all my self-esteem and become depressed... please help me out! has anyone else felt this way? is there still hope?
2007-10-23 13:24:46 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You'll find someone. Seriously. I NEVER EVER EVER expected to get someone, and I did, and I love that person. I didn't even search for her, I found her out of chance, you'll probably find someone; there's something you should know too...Don't go JUST for looks, go for personality.
Oh and date friends...It's better.
2007-10-23 13:28:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're sixteen. And you wonder if there is "still hope"???? Think about that. In ages past, you wouldn't even have been let out of the house alone at the age of 16. You would not have been left alone with a man under any circumstances. When I was a kid "Sweet 16 and never been kissed" was still possible, if not really common anymore. My mother remembered it being the norm.
Yes, someone to "like" you and hold you and kiss you would be nice, but not if it's just anyone to fill that position. Not if it's someone who won't accept your drawing the line there, and not "putting out" for him. You should have MORE self-esteem than the other girls, not less, for being sufficiently choosy and sufficiently cautious that you haven't already been pretending to be an adult, getting more involved than you can control, growing up too fast.
Find yourself a real gentleman who knows how to treat a lady like a lady, and get to know romance slowly, elegantly, well -- romantically.
2007-10-23 20:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me when I tell you that your situation is very common and affects people just about the same way.You ask if there is still hope ; my response is absolutely, positively yes. You are only 16 which means you have a lot more years to enjoy your partner. I understand that right now, your normal human needs, desire, drive and pull are very powerful and you may feel like you are the only one in this position, or that something is wrong with you ,or that you are not beautiful enough or attractive enough to be loved and kissed .That is far from the truth.In fact the guy who is able to win your love is going to get a beautiful, smart ,and desirable gal, one that will make him consider himself the luckiest guy in the world.Please be patient and focus for now on your family, friends, school, after school activities,and goals.You are going to be surprised at how strong you can be, and how much your confidence and self esteem will actually be your ally in getting the type of guy you deserve.You deserve nothing but the best---a guy who will love ,cherish, care, support, and respect you as his one and only love.Good luck.
2007-10-23 20:45:40 · answer #3 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there's still hope! Just be patient, I know that's easier said than done, but really you've got plenty of time. Is there a particular person who you have a thing for? Is there a reason why you haven't told them yet? As long as they aren't already taken then I think you should go for it. Start talking to them and flirting a little, you'll be able to tell if this person likes you back or not.
Good luck!!
2007-10-23 20:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by Jess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of guys are intimidated and actually become interested in girls that show interest in them first. They don't want to be shot down in flames any more than you do. Just be friendly, approachable and enthusiastic. Look at some cute guy and when he sees you checking him out, look away with a smile on your face. That expresses interest without being too forward. Mild little flirts like that will give a guy the signal you are interested without seeming desperate or pushy. If he doesn't show an interest, move on to another.
2007-10-23 20:39:13 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
16 isn't old. I started dating at 15 and wish I could take it all back now. I know that the urge can be insane, but it just makes it that much better when you find someone you care about because the feeling of the cuddles and kisses is extreme. Don't give in to your urges, don't just settle for anyone, wait until you meet someone who takes your breath away...and amazes you with everything they do.
2007-10-23 20:28:55 · answer #6 · answered by krisindeed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 12 and I know exactly how you feel! I want a bf and stuff, but I've never had one in my whole life! I don't really like anyone just one guy but yea whatever with him. I feel like I need that one special person to hold hands and stuff like that. Well of course their is still hope for us we just gotta be ourselves and one day we'll come along the right guy.
2007-10-23 20:30:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation. I guess the only thing we can do is just wait for the right person to come into our lives. I have tried multiple times to get the girl but it never works out. as for the depression, go out with friends and maybe they'll introduce you to someone.
2007-10-23 20:28:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will find someone sometime soon just be patient.. It will happen when you least expect it to. It will probably never happen if you are actively looking for love but if you just live your everday life who knows maybe it will be the next dude you come in contact with might be that guy behind the counter of anywhere you go. You just never know.
2007-10-23 20:31:21 · answer #9 · answered by biking for life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk up to a person, and strike up a conversation. Don't feel afraid. If they don't talk to you then go on to somebody else. Most of the time people really like having conversations. There are somebody who stay single until they are in their twenties.
You will find the right person eventually. Trust me.
2007-10-23 20:28:33 · answer #10 · answered by Tony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋