Me and my boyfriend are diffrent religons and we do not want to offend either families. So we were thinking of just having a court marrage, and then have reseptoin; but some people are telling me I should do the ceromony thing.....what do u think.
2007-10-23 12:36:00 · 11 answers · asked by violet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you and your boyfriend are not religious yourselves, I think it makes sense for you to have a secular ceremony. You could still do it with your families present -- I think they would appreciate being able to see you get married. Hire a nonreligious officiant. If your families are from different cultures, you could still honor your family backgrounds by incorporating elements from both cultures into the ceremony and reception. That way, your more religious family members will feel like you are respecting their cultural background without trivializing their religion.
If your religion is important to you, however, then you may want to look into having two officiants (one from each religion) perform an interfaith ceremony. Incorporate the essential elements of each ceremony into your wedding. Make sure your programs explain the significance of each tradition. Talk with your officiants about what cermonies would be appropriate for an interfaith couple and which ones might be offensive because they are reserved only for believers in that religion. (For example, in a Christian ceremony, someone who is not a believer in Christianity should not take communion. If you are a Christian but your fiance is not, you might have to leave that one out.) If you work carefully with your chosen officiants, you should be able to have a ceremony that is religious, meaningful, and not offensive to your families.
Good luck! I hope you have a beautiful wedding!
2007-10-23 13:01:52 · answer #1 · answered by Emmy Jo (13 weeks with #2) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi and congratulations!
Are your two religions that far apart that you can't somehow combine elements of both in a ceremony? In this day and age, pretty much anything goes!
If you don't mind having the court wedding, go ahead. But if you are having doubts, then sit back and examine the situation and see if you can work both religions into a ceremony somehow.
Good luck!
2007-10-23 13:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only two people should have a say in this wedding. You and your fiancee. Do whatever makes you happy. There is nothing wrong with a court marriage if that is what you decide. My husband and I didn't care about a big wedding and felt the money would be better spent elsewhere. We wed at the courthouse and it has lasted 15 years and counting.
2007-10-23 12:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by iceemama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take an ESL class together...LOL, just kidding.
seriously, the only one who can say what's best is you two...the plan for a civil wedding and reception is a good one...you can also do the civil ceremony and then have a 'vows only' type ceremony at the reception area with a priest or imam or cleric from each religion...unless one of the religions is a strict jihadist type, you shouldn't have to worry about the inlaws getting mad and blowing up stuff or chopping off heads.
2007-10-23 12:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by VodkaTonic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it important to you to have a religious ceremony? If it is you could very easily just blend the two religions together unless you were a Druid and he was Catholic or something.
You could also have a non-religious ceremony in a nuetral location like a really pretty garden.
Do what makes you happy and tell everybody else to bugger off.
2007-10-23 12:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do what is right by you. I am planning my wedding at the moment, and it just gets to be this celebration you are planning for everyone else, and doing nothing that you want because you are worried you will offend someone.
I think in this situation I would just elope and invite my closest friends. The people who truely love you will come to celebrate with you no matter what you do.
2007-10-23 12:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how important your faiths are to each of you. I hear of more and more people that are having two ceremonies to include both families. If neither of you really care and it is a matter of satisfying the parents, make it clear to them that it is your day and you will choose how you go about it - but only if the couple (you two) are coving the whole cost of everything.
2007-10-23 12:41:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Voilet the choice is up to you you can have non formal cremony and write your own vows. I did not want to get married in a church so I got married in a church audituriom,
I did not want a stuffy formal affair because that is not me.
My wedding was a lot of fun and I sang to my huband on the altar and that was 14 years ago today.
2007-10-23 14:33:44 · answer #8 · answered by encourager4God 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine was in a similar situation where neither she nor her husband-to-be were religious. They had a ceremony which was non-denominational, performed by a JOP and wrote their own vows. It's not that hard to devise your own ceremony - you basically just need people to show up!
2007-10-23 12:40:36 · answer #9 · answered by Brikar99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband and I had a blended ceremony. Some aspects from his faith, and aspects from mine. It was a beautiful ceremony. :) That's what I would do. IF your wanting something quiet without the religious fuss. I would have a civil ceremony, and then have a party afterwards. Good luck. :)
2007-10-23 12:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by dietitian4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋