everytime i think of having no-strings attached sex with a stranger , all this inhibitions and limitations come into my mind.Morals , religion, what other ppl will say blah blah blah ..at the end i always end up not getting any and im still a virgin.
i certainly dont give a danm already about purity since all guys are whores nowdays and they prefer experienced girls , so i was thinking of losing it in halloween since i converted to wicca , and this is like the perfect day for it!!!! but as i have very restrictive parents, halloween is just another day at home, and i swear they just trigger all my desire to run away from them and get ****** , im 19 , but for them im just 8 years old ..ok straight to the point....how the hell do i do the go out that night?
the rest i know i just need a danm good excuse to get the hell out my house that day?
2007-10-23 11:51:07 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the thing is that it will be better with a stranger , since i cannot have a formal relationship with anyone since my parents are gonna make my life hell
2007-10-23 11:58:37 · update #1
Listen, I know this is probably NOT what you want to hear, but I LOST my virginity well before I was ready to. It was taken by a guy that didn't have feelings for me, or vise-versa. After that I waited three years before sharing myself with my best-friend. I did not know it at the time, but it was his first time, so it was like we gave our virginity to each other, it was beautiful, and something I want to remember for the rest of my life. My REAL first time, I wish had never happened, and I could wipe out of my memory banks. Don't do that to yourself. Not to sound trite, but you only get ONE first, make it special! Make it something you WILL want to remember, not forget.
)o( Blessed Be!
2007-10-26 17:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by whillow95 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're an adult, so it's your choice. But if you want to act like an adult, be responsible and use protection (both birth control and a condom would be a good idea).
You might want to consider if you're doing this for the right reasons. Frustration at your own inhibitions, a desire for experience simply to impress others, and anger at your parents aren't really great reasons for losing your virginity; and Wiccan philosophy wouldn't advocate a union where you have so little respect for your partner and have to lie to obtain the union.
Consider if this is really how you want to do this, and if it will really make you happy in the long run. If you're sure, then simply tell your parents that you are an adult, and would like to attend a Halloween party with your friends. If you don't like their restrictive rules, then it's time you moved out of their house and started caring for yourself like an adult.
2007-10-23 19:03:21 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are somethings worth doing to make a statement and there are somethings that would be the biggest regret of your life.You sound like a very wonderful girl who is fun to be with.I am of the extreme upper level wicca practice.Just tough it out and donot let them get to you.Even though I donot know you personally I can tell you are a strong and great person.You know too bad we are not in the same state or country because I would be able to help you out more.Do not let them break you and make you do something you will regret later on,you are stronger than that.You know if you have a job you can do side investments to build up your funds and get a place of your own(since you are over 18).Let's talk you sound really,really wonderful and I donot want to see you get hurt and throw your life away.You can contact me at pegasus1313_670@hotmail.com Subject:Halloween Virgin(so it doesnot get deleted by acciddent).Trust me you will not regret talking to me.I am not one of those types,I just want to help you because even though I donot know you yet I do care about you.
2007-10-27 00:22:30 · answer #3 · answered by Super Team 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 19 years old. You are legal. If you really want to go out then just tell them you are going out. I don't know why you would want to loose your virginity so easily though. Are you really ready to deal with the aftermath...the guilt and the regret?
Why do you need to run away...you are 19...get a job, go to college. Get out and live your own life. You aren't getting any younger. Why don't you try being responsible. Tell your parents you are going to start living your life. Thank them for what they have done for you and go for it. Stop making excuses and start doing.
2007-10-23 18:58:51 · answer #4 · answered by mamabee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.
You're an adult. Your sexuality is your own. But you'd better hope that you don't run into someone with certain types of STDs.
From http://www.everything-condoms.com/condom_qanda/condoms_protect_against_std.htm
"Condoms are less effective for STD's transmitted by skin-to-skin contact, such as human papillomavirus (HPV, the cause of genital warts and cervical cancer) and genital herpes, than for those diseases transmitted through body secretions, such as HIV, gonorrhea, and chlamydia."
If you're Wiccan, I'm sure you're familiar with the Rede: "If you harm none, do what you will." This includes putting yourself in harm's way.
I hope you make responsible choices, whether you decide to have sex or not.
2007-10-26 21:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by prairiecrow 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your virginity is an awful thing to get rid of just for the hell of it.
But you are an adult, so the chose is yours.
Just make sure you make the right choice for yourself in the long run. Don't do something you're going to regret.
2007-10-23 18:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, wow, that is the worst way to have your first time. Let it be with someone who's considerate and knows you've never done it before, not a stranger in the closet who's just thinking of you as an easy lay and will probably freak if they see blood.
I hope your first time is special, whichever way it happens.
2007-10-23 18:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by Dilettante 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You could look on craigslist, a swinger's club, or try the ranches here in Nevada.
Do you have any friends?
If you do ask around.. they should know.
But if your folks are getting to you,
Pack your bags and leave.
Or enlist in the military.
2007-10-26 22:11:01 · answer #8 · answered by Doesntstayinvegas.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
halloween is a wednesday, stay late after work, or make a daytrip to the "mall" lol just make sure not to come home emptyhanded, oor visit a friend that is far away lol. for 19 you seem pretty innocent, you better think twice about this decision ecause you only get to lose it once, and you want it to be with someone special...
2007-10-23 18:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I cannot get thru much of your comments because they are so offensive.
Somewhere deep inside your conscience is speaking to you and you know the right thing to do is to turn away from your sins.
We cannot bow down to our body parts and allow them to control and rule over us. We must rule over our body parts or we will be corrupted by them.
John 3:16 "For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son, that whosoever believes in Him, shall not perish, but have eternal life."
How do you think it can be that you could truly love yourself or anyone else with your attitude as it is? There is no love there. Sex was meant for a man and woman in marriage as a sacred covenant between them, forsaking all others, giving a deep heart felt life long love to each other. Careless sex has nothing to do with that type of love and purity between two people.
We were created and exist for one reason; to love God and to love others. Not to use and abuse and discard each other whenever the mood strikes.
2007-10-23 20:57:47 · answer #10 · answered by goldyyloxx 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋