soooo my mom found out that alot of my friends do drugs (long story).......and now she forbids me from hanging out with them! wtf? i mean thats alot of my friends! (from that one particular group) i can't just say "hey i cant hang with you anymore". i don't want to drugs, never have, and never will! my friends respect me when i tell them no. besides i don't go riding around with them while they're high or drunk. im not stupid. and i don't even hang around them when they're high most times. i mean they're really cool, and funny so i can't just drop them! for the most part its just weed, alcohol, and cigs. and when she told me to make new friends, i while i was considering some people that im not that close with, but could be if i wanted to be, do drugs too! so who am i suppose to hang with? im just saying if she doesn't want me to be friends with people who do drugs, then she's talking about half my school. parents would u still let ur kids continue to be around these people?
2007-10-23 11:36:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well, you seem like you aren't stupid enough to do drugs and if my son ever has this problem I am going to trust him completly about it and let him has his friends. I'm assuming that you are a teenager and it's normal for most teens to drink, smoke weed. Ask your mom if she ever done it, she probably has, but she will lie to you about it. I've smoked weed 3 times in my life and after that I found I didn't care for it and I never done it again. The friends I had respected that, and they didn't pressure me into doing it. They were cool like that, so I can see where you are coming from.
2007-10-23 11:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by tricksy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh dear Ali, I am going to have to deal with this soon too. My daughter is 13 and she is I suppose what you would call a leader. She is a social little butterfly. I guess the question to ask yourself is why are most of your friends drug users? are you confident within yourself? There are alot of very cool teens out there that arn't drug users, are you afraid or is it just too hard to make new friends? My daughter recently told me that one of her friends smokes ciggs. She still talks to her but she isn't a close friend. I guess also if half your school are drug users thats still another half that arn't. You have to understand that however harsh you think your parents are, they are overwhelmed with concern for you. Also just to let you know, 'weed' or marijuanna is a very very harmful drug. And yes it is worse than herion. If your around these people when they are using, chances are you are also using. You are inhaling the smoke therefore becoming stonned yourself. Perhaps your parents realise this as well. 'weed' is not to be taken lightly. My advice would be to give yourself a break and believe that you can have many different friends groups. Try to show some interest in people you know are not drug users and connect with them. Or another option is to ask your drug user friends if they could stop using - if it is not really a problem for them it shouldn't be too hard for them to stop?
2007-10-24 01:47:56 · answer #2 · answered by euros022 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I realized when I was in high school was that there were two kids of students. There were the ones who didn't care if people knew they did drugs, etc. and there were the people who hid it from their parents and everyone else in town. All of the friends you have are the same. Your mom needs to know that high school students are into that stuff now, sadly. I was the same as you, all my friends did it and I never did. If you really want to prove it to your mom that you should trust her, volunteer to take a drug test. That will surprise the hell out of her. She will say they are bad influences, but have them over to your house instead. She will allow that for sure.
2007-10-23 19:30:18 · answer #3 · answered by Karla 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not allow my kids to hang around with that group of people either. I'd be very surprised if half of your school was using. Find an activity to get involved with that different people than your current group of "friends" is involved with. It's time for a change and you'll just have to trust us on this one. Time will show this group for who they are -troubled teens that need more guidance. Don't hate your parents for wanting better for you. Your worth more than a group of users can ever know. Believe in yourself and try finding other people to hang out with for a month and see how you feel then.
2007-10-23 18:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by KM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i knew my kids friends did drugs and half the school did drugs i would probably change my kid's school...If they get in trouble and you are around them YOU get in trouble too. When i was growing up my dad would yell at me for my friends cussing, drinking, and so much...he told me that if they ever got cought holding drugs (not smoking and not high) And i was with them i would probably get in the same amount of trouble..by association...So you need to get some new friends...And if you feel that u will have trouble changing friends then slowly make different friends and not hand out with your drug friends as much
2007-10-23 19:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by Jewels 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If my kids were friends with others who are into drugs, you can bet that my kids would not hang out with them anymore.
Use common sense. Your Mom is doing the right thing. Those aren't friends, they are trouble. They're not cool, they're morons. "It's just weed, alcohol, and cigs..." JUST? That's bad enough. They are KIDS. Actually, it doesn't even matter that they are kids, NOBODY should be using anything that will harm their system. Losing brain cells is not cool.
2007-10-24 08:22:39 · answer #6 · answered by AV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those people are probably going to wind up getting you in trouble even if you are not participating with them. Your parents are very smart to not let you hang out with them. There are a lot of problems you could have even if you aren't actually doing drugs with them, like you could be with them when they have drugs on them and get arrested simply for being there whether you knew they had the drugs on them or not. Trust me on this one, I used to be in your situation.
2007-10-23 18:41:09 · answer #7 · answered by Perfectly Imperfect 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should not be hanging out with those kids. You could get sick from secondhand smoke, plus, if you are with them and they get caught with weed, you will be in just as much trouble. Trust me, I hear about it all the time. FIND NEW FRIENDS.
2007-10-23 19:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by xchasingsummerx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes right!
especially because your arguing about this.
if u had better judgement u would stop hanging out with them yourselves instead of ur mom telling u to. eventually u will start doing drugs , if not adapt to the attitude ur friends have. why do u wanna hang out with ppl who are high!?
do u kno weed is illegal
2007-10-23 18:47:23 · answer #9 · answered by SS_yahoogirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you ever heard someone being arrested for "guilty by association"...you can go to jail just by that...so its best that you not hang around these people. your mom is just looking out for you...and if you can't appreciate that fact then you need to grow up just a bit more..i mean its great you have made the choice NOT to do any of those things..but like I said before..guilty by association.....remember that...
2007-10-23 20:00:30 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋