His wife confronted me about a comment I had made and blew things way out of proportion. She wasn't nice about it either she said some really nasty things to me and made the situation so much worse.We haven't spoken since May of this year.Of course I speak to my brother-in-law since he is my husband's brother.And of course when all this happened he took her side.
2007-10-23 11:03:52 · 10 answers · asked by mhbrasil76 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Maybe you could write to her quite soon to clear the air. Explain that the bad feeling that appears to remain between the two of you should be forgotten as families are important, and that you are ready to move on and ask whether she is.
Say it would be nice to have them both over for the Christmas Party, then leave the matter in her hands. Either she will respond by letter saying they will be there and all is OK, or she will decline the invitation for both of them. You will have held out an olive branch for the sake of peace and will be able to feel satisfied.
2007-10-23 11:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you and your brother-in-law's wife should talk and set things straight. Apologize for what you said, if you were at all in the wrong. Misunderstandings shouldn't break up a family when you are all adult enough to talk things out, right. If you don't your husband may invite them anyway, then what will you do? If you make the effort to fix things and she still is being a hag about it, at least you tried and your husband should see you as the bigger and better person here and maybe take your side for a change.
2007-10-23 11:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by kelly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Invite them. Life is too short for this kind of trivial squabble, particularly the damage that these sorts of feuds can do to families. His wife may not want to attend, but at least you have shown that you are a high-minded person of good character and willing to overlook the past. If she comes to the party, I think she will be well-behaved in a public gathering, and if there are very many people there, you can avoid her.
2007-10-23 11:11:40 · answer #3 · answered by Corinnique 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Be gracious and invite them both. Christmas is an excellent time to put differences aside. You don't have to apologize for what you said, but, you can be sorry for having a dispute with her, hopefully she'll take the opportunity to say sorry as well. If she doesn't at least you have kept your side of the street clean, and if she wants to carry around baggage that's her business.
2007-10-23 11:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by grouch2111 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If by now the two of you haven't made peace, I wouldn't ruin either one of your Christmas's by inviting them. They probably don't want to come and you have no right separating a couplel..
2007-10-23 11:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by Mercedes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In that case talk to your brother-in-law tell him what happened , make you tell him in front of your husband so you don't do anything behind anybodies back & from that moment on make sure you have witnessess when talking to problematic people.
2007-10-23 11:34:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone who says let it go. Be the bigger person and move on. It's Christmas for Christ's sakes! (bad pun, I know) I'm Jewish, and even I know what Christmas is supposed to be all about.
2007-10-23 17:38:01 · answer #7 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Husbands and wives are a set. You have to invite both.
2007-10-23 11:08:53 · answer #8 · answered by PROBLEM 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you invite him you are inviting her too. You will have to make it very clear to him that she isn't invited. And if you do that I think you will be starting another fight w/ your b.i.l. Good luck you have a big decision to make.
2007-10-23 11:10:28 · answer #9 · answered by just me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you don't want one, you don't invite the other either. don't forget he took her side over you. why bother with them...
2007-10-23 11:12:05 · answer #10 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋