These fantasies could be anything and could range from hitting a game winning home run in the world series to something of a sexual nature. Or from being a war hero to having a perfect family?
Do they hinder or enhance your life in some way? Do they ever reach a point where they can stifle your reality? Or aren't our fantasies usually nothing more than a harmless ‘hobby’?
So, would some of you like to share with us your favorite fantasies?
And please keep it clean here, keep it PG rated because this is a family community.
2007-10-23 10:55:12 · 9 answers · asked by Doc Watson 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
(I suppose mine would be pretty lame compared to a lot of people, but I used to have a fascination with identical twins and wondered what it would like to date identical twins, to be intimate with both at the same time. I mean, think about it. Do they share the same responces to stimuli? Are they naturally attracted to the same type of guy?)
2007-10-23 10:59:58 · update #1
RDNZL, that's both a very funny and honest way to look at twins. But I didn't say I would be doing what I would be doing with them at the same time. Honestly, I've just always been curious if identical twins have the same responses to outside stimuli. To how they look at all aspects of life, from relationships to attractions, etc.
2007-10-23 19:08:39 · update #2
I want to thank all of you for being both honest and sincere here. So many wonderful replies make it have to chose a 'best' answer.
2007-10-27 14:35:47 · update #3
Hi Doc, I have had many fantansies, some have changed & some have endured.Some of my fantansies have challenged me to be & pushed myself beyond my self imposed limits. I have dreamed of singing, I am moved so much by music, & having the soul of a poet can you not imagine being able to sing your poetry. This led me to writing my own lyrics to a song once. I dreamed of dancing, I had the body for it but not the training. I am older now but at times I move as poetry in my mind. As a child in the 4th grade I discovered poetry. OMG, I thought it so beautiful & knew it required someone special to create such beauty. I felt I could never be someone so special, but my desire & my fantasy of being drove me till I picked up my pen & poured myself out on paper.A little older yet, I dicovered the Quest, the finest form of living poetry. Again, out of nothing but sheer desire & fantasy to emulate such beauty, I began my walk. Once I reached 50 (darn I am dating myself here) I hit a type of awaking. There were a few things that were on my "one day" list, & I realized that if one day was going to happen, it needed to be soon. I think that fantasy to a large part is what has fueled my life. I started sculpting & painting at 42, I'm not bad. But I am self taught in all. This can leave you terrible uneducated but beautifully unencumbered at the same time. I will never be recognized, I will never be famous, but I have always put all of me into what I have done. In the end it is enough. Thanks for a great Q.
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2007-10-26 16:43:41 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Fantasies can certainly "enhance" by adding a bit of magic to one's life. They are mental experiences that while often vivid, have no objective reality. Imagination divorced from reality; whimsical, surreal--your choice. There's not a tad of harm in them, (unless one becomes delusional & fixated, which is a mental disorder).
I've had only two. To be a mountain climber; hardly ever have that fantasy anymore. The imagery was beautiful--even the sensation of biting white cold, above the clouds. The other, that I still sometimes think of when I'm driving, is to be a race car driver. (My friends would vouch for me on that one.)
What I find interesting, is that both would be risky, take courage, strength & require great skill. The antithesis of what I "am." (Psychologist, paralegal, painter.)
The pattern of our fantasies tell us much about ourselves. I'd never want to be a hero, oops, heroine, but my fantasies reflect the test of myself, a challenge & a personal "power."
Great question to gain insights!
2007-10-24 01:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by Valac Gypsy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have always thought that sisters would be gross, I mean what would be the point of a 3 way if there was no girl on girl action.... and that would be gross.
I used to dream of owning a nice 2000 square foot house with a 200,000 square foot garage, filled with tools, cars and motorcycles, 2 full time mechanics and a detailer.
Makes me sad that I won't ever have that. I am on 4 different meds for depression. Attempted twice.
2007-10-23 18:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They make life better in a way but also can be depressing if you think about them too much. I personally think its not good to have unrealistic fantasies such as becoming mates with Robert DeNiro (lol, yeah, one of mine!) because its extremly unlikely to ever happen! Or like being in a movie and living in that world for a while... Its fun to think about them as long as you don't get caught up in em.
But planning is different, if there is a bigger posibility of achieving the dream then go for it! If you don't plan then it will never happen. For exapmle, you're in high school, you'd love to be rich when you're 'grown up', you're smart, but you dont do a scratch of schoolwork so you dont go to college and you end up working in mcdonalds....you have to work to get rich, simple as that unless you plan to win the lotto!
I'd love to meet Michael Jackson, hang with gangsters (the Italian kind), be rich beyond my wildest dreams and do Al Pacino. (Lmao, I'm a girl btw, avatar is kinda an inside joke!) Along with other things, like live in some part of New York in the 50's.
Id like to talk more, but I gotta go...
Good luck!
2007-10-23 18:04:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a lot of fantasies, but my husband's favorite is winning the lottery. He talks about where he would travel, what he would buy, but mostly about not having to work again. However, sometimes I feel his fantasy is unhealthy because when he doesn't win he actually gets disappointed. As if he actually expected to win! The disappointment is only there for a few minutes but to me it's weird.
2007-10-23 18:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mine is very PG.
I always wished I was short. I'm 6'1" but in my minds eye, I'm 5'5". A significant difference.
It actually caused significant depression in me when I was in my early twenties. I knew I was shorter than I was, and I knew I'd never be. There is no way to make ones self shorter.
In the end, I searched out the reasons I wished to be short, and simply modified them to my existing life. I'd say I'm very satisfied now.
2007-10-23 18:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by Tsubasa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok well, it is PG so i'll keep it simple...theres this guy who ive been in love with for about 5 years (keep in mind nowadays marriages dont even last that long!) anyway i always fantasize about settling down with him and having a family......ok but the catch is that hes 22 years older than me!
sad but true i know
2007-10-23 18:01:27 · answer #7 · answered by ..... 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in fact, I'm going to be in the Miss Illinois USA Pageant in November. I would absolutely love to win that title and move on to compete in the Miss USA Pageant, but I don't actually see myself winnig. As much as I want it and imagine it, I just don't actually see it.
2007-10-25 19:46:18 · answer #8 · answered by SoMissUnderstood2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I truly HOPE my fantasies will never be fulfilled. I couldn't actually go through with half of them, and without the other half - what would I have left to fantasize about??
2007-10-25 23:30:25 · answer #9 · answered by joyfulpaints 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋