What can I do? should I risk my friendship with her by saying something or should I stay quiet and love her in secret for the rest of my life?
2007-10-23 10:50:15 · 29 answers · asked by Mako 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Been there in that same situation, and it is a fearful one. If you truly are like best friends then talking about taking the relationship to the next step is imperative, specially if you are having the feeling you are having. Word to the wise... just ask her what she thinks about you? Try to take the conversation to an intimate level. Take her out to dinner, and make it as close to a formal date as you possibly can. Sometimes the best things happen automatically if you just let them. Above all else just communicate and be honest. Because all you really want to know is if it will workout or not. The sooner you find out the sooner you can get on to building a relationship with her or someone else. Remember, if you are honest and kind no matter what happens she will remain your friend.
2007-10-23 11:24:09 · answer #1 · answered by xXx JJ Malone xXx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwwww. It is so so hard to put yourself out there when you don't know if someone feels the same way. But if you think about it, there is only one way of ever finding out how she feels, and that is letting her know how you feel. If you don't give it a shot, you will never know. And if it doesn't work out, chances are your friendship will get back to normal in no time. And maybe later it will build into something else. I say tell her how you feel! You might just sweep her off her feet!
Good luck!
2007-10-23 18:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by AmandaRae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her!! If u don't, you may be heart broken when you see her with someone else. If you never tell her how you feel about her, then you will never know what could have been. Be a man and tell her. Don't stay quiet and love her in secret- that is just crazy!!
2007-10-23 17:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by ddbombchick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend was stuck with the same situation. He loved me and he didn't know how to tell me. He was afraid that our friendship would end. But, When he told me that he loved me more than just a best friend I understood more. I was cool about it. If she's a true best friend like she say's she is than she would see it as a way that its okay and that she's fine with that. Its okay to take risk. Just add on that you just needed to get it all out.
2007-10-23 17:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... interesting question. Something very similar like that happened in my school last week. I'll tell you what pretty much happened:
My friend who has been totally crushing on this guy in 11th grade for weeks. All of her friends (including me) say, "Go for it." "It won't hurt to try..." etc. etc. Anyways, she goes up to me and says, "I'm going to do it... I'm going to ask him out." Honestly she hasn't been in so many relationships before... so she is kind of new. (her parents wouldn't let her date till she was 14). And she went up to this 11th grader and said, "Hi." he said hi back. She talked to him for about 5 minutes and then she said she had to go. Honestly this was a happy ending, he asked her out. She said yes and now they're dating.
So I don't really know, i think you should compliment her and see how she will respond... maybe then you can ask her out... but i see what ur problem is... if you tell her and she doesn't feel the same way... then things would be pretty awkward.... but, i think you should go for it. If you wait too long, she might date another guy. GO FOR IT!!! XD. Hope I helped!!!!
~Gabby <3 !!!
2007-10-23 18:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by Gabby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out. The best and most long lasting relationships begin with a basis of a solid friendship.
2007-10-23 17:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont love her for the rest of your life ey im going to give you advise ok because im a girl ok
ok tell her when theres nobody around her or you and tell her like this "i have to tell you something buy dont let this ruin are friend ship ok and make her promise and then tell her well i like you i want to know if you like me if she says yes the say will you go out with me there thats how some boys ask me out sometimes ok good luck â» â»â»â»â»â»!
2007-10-23 17:59:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree completely! Ask her out dude! You'll never know if she has the same feelings back if you dont take the pluge.... plus if she really is your best bud, it wont ruin your friendship if she says no... maybe a little awkward, but it'll be fine! Good Luck!
2007-10-23 17:54:52 · answer #8 · answered by Be Bop a Lula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think she made your mind up for you. If she likes your friend then you have to go with that. If he's not interested in dating her then you can and should pursue her. Stay quiet for now but if your friend gives you the all clear then go for it :)
2007-10-23 17:54:46 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO FOR IT! MORE THAN LIKELY SHE FEELS THE SAME WAY YOU DO. UNLESS YOU KNOW FOR A FACT SHE DOESN'T, THEN WHY NOT? BUT... BE AWARE THAT IF IT DOESN'T WORK OUT AS PLANNED, YOU RISK LOSING YOUR BEST FRIEND. SOMETIMES IT'S WORTH TAKING THE CHANCE THOUGH.
2007-10-23 17:56:56 · answer #10 · answered by Butterfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋