My girlfriend and i broke up months ago, but today she randomly text me that she has finally stopped thinking about me all the time, but she still has dreams about me holding her and she says it sucks, when she wakes up from them. What do i say to that? she left me and knows it was a bad call, she took me for granted and now she realizes it, but im not goin back, she hurt me way too much.
2007-10-23 10:43:18 · 30 answers · asked by fresnosk8er05 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't answer. Take it from a guy that has had the same situation happen to him. The text message was sent for selfish reasons. When she's feeling fine about herself, you won't hear a peep from her. But when she's feeling low or rejected, she's gonna contact the one person that made her feel wanted and loved. Cause she rejected you and not her, she feels she carries the power. Most of the time, it's not intentional to mess with your feelings, but they don't realize what they are doing. They think that they're just being nice and saying "hi." But be stoic, stand firm, don't answer the text. That will establish more than anything that you have moved on. (whether or not you have). She will also have a higher respect for you. And you should have a higher repect for yourself. There is no reason you should contact a person that has rejected you. If you were able to get her, you are able to get someone that is really into you and realises what they have in front of them. Hindsight is always 20-20, but you make choices in life and you move forward....never backward.
2007-10-23 10:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by Ku-Ling 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
RE: Why did my ex girlfriend just text me out of nowhere? My ex girlfriend just texted me out of the blue asking how I been? We haven't talked in over a month now...First let me give the background we have together. We was together for two years before we broke up. We broke up around June and we haven't really stayed in contact. I've always...
2016-05-25 05:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by lanell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most simple answer to this, is to not respond. When you don't respond to someone, that speaks much louder than any words you can say. Like the saying "Silence is Deafening." Because if you respond it's telling her she can still get to you. For what ever reason she has, she needs that reassurance that you still care for her..even if it's in a negative way. Eventually if you stop responding she will leave you alone, and you can both move on. From the sounds of it, you need to move on to someone that will not be disrespectful, and cause you anymore grief. I hope this helps. :) Good luck.
2007-10-23 10:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by fontainegraphix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't going back but you don't mind just being cordial to her then keep responses to her simple.
You could just ignore her altogether because the text is just her testing the waters when she knows she was wrong. Change my mind. I would wait and not respond to her at all. Make her grow up and call like a normal person and then tell her how you feel about the whole thing and what your intentions are.
Keep it simple though because you don't want to get involved in pointless banter back and forth.
Good luck to you!
2007-10-23 10:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by Indya M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do or say anything back in return. She sounds like a manipulator. Don't let her worm her way back in so that she can treat you bad and dump you again. She missed out and it most likely won't work if you took her back. She needs to move on and leave you alone. If she texts you again, block her number. Hopefully she'll get the hint!
2007-10-23 10:50:52 · answer #5 · answered by corriegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my opinion, you should do one of two things, your choice, of course. first thing you could do is to text back and find out why she left you and why she feels the way she does. Option 2, is to just delete and move on. If you feel she hurt you way too much then from where you stand only bad things can happen.
2007-10-23 10:49:49 · answer #6 · answered by Ashen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth. You don't want to risk having any miscommunication about your feelings for her. If she hurt you, she hurt you, and you should let her know that. It depends on how she hurt you, but the fact that she may want you back just shows that she's weak right now, and maybe still struggling with your breakup as well as the fact that she caused it. I would try to move on--- you're better than that. There are girls out there that would treat you much better.
2007-10-23 10:47:55 · answer #7 · answered by daniellelaura118 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
text her back saying "sorry things aren't so good for you right now. hope you feel better soon." then leave it at that. you are showing how nice you are without getting involved, and you're also showing her that you really don't give a damn and will not get involved in this new game she is trying to play. i think she just wants to hear that you think of her too and want her back. don't give her the satisfaction if she took advantage of you before.
2007-10-23 10:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by Heather Honey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had an ex (similar circumstances) that wouldnt stop calling/texting after I started seeing someone else. I tried to ignore, tried being nice, but the only thing that worked was telling her flat out to STOP.
2007-10-23 10:48:29 · answer #9 · answered by Andrew M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you KNOW you are not going back.....don't reply. Let it go. You don't want to let it drag on and on. Besides, if you start coversing, you could end up in the same situation. She knows she lost something good. You know the saying, you never know what you have until it's gone. Well, you can always text back "TOO LITTLE TOO LATE TOO BAD"
2007-10-23 10:47:23 · answer #10 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋