Consider you have strong ties with your family but are also kind of a shy person. Would you rather be proposed to privately (with a ring) during a bubble bath in a vanity tub at a 4 star resort/hotel/yacht club,or, be surprised during a Christmas dinner with your family all around?
2007-10-23 10:23:47 · 28 answers · asked by Shat Splatterson 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am very close with my family but I would NEVER want to be proposed to in front of anyone. It's a private thing that should be between the couple. It makes it more romantic and special. Not to mention that it is very emotional for both people involved and they won't have to hold back tears, laughter or anything else that might come up when it happens.
2007-10-23 10:29:56 · answer #1 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I just got engaged... I'm not a very shy person and I was still embarassed that so many people were around...
Why can't you have the best of both worlds? Take her to the resort- the bubble bath is an amazing, romantic idea. She will love it. Plan a suprise engagement party for her with the help of her family the next day (or whenever you get back from the resort).
That way, the moment you ask will be intimate and she won't be uncomfortable, and she can still celebrate with her family.
Feel free to email me with any questions or help with ideas. My fiance said it was one of the most stressful experiences of his life. His advice: don't expect everything to go exactly as planned...
Best of luck!
2007-10-23 18:30:45 · answer #2 · answered by Amber L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both would embarrass me!
I love bubble baths, but I would have a hard time recounting that engagement story to other people ... it seems like such a private moment (and a little too sexy).
I love the idea of a Christmas engagement, but I would really want to be proposed to alone. It doesn't seem fair to ask in front of other people. Her reaction may not be as genuine that way, and she may want to share the special moment alone with you.
Perhaps you could ask her, like someone suggested, by taking her for a walk outside during her family's Christmas celebration. (Or hire a horse and carriage to come by and take her for a private sleigh ride.)
2007-10-23 20:33:32 · answer #3 · answered by Emmy Jo (13 weeks with #2) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very special time for the two of you. Why not approach her mother, father or other person she is close to and ask what they would suggest. They may have a better feeling for what she would like than the people on Yahoo. I personally believe that if she has very strong ties with her family that it would be a nice jesture for you to propose at Christmas. Just make certain that someone else is in on it so that your surprise is not ruined. Good Luck and congratulations.
2007-10-23 17:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by Diane B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a private proposal would be better in this case. If she is shy, she would probably be reluctant to express her emotion even in front of her family, and she might feel pressured to make a decision or deliver a big crowd-pleasing reaction - that would be stressful for her.
Ideally, schedule the private proposal a day or two before the family dinner, so she can announce it to family as soon as possible. Or maybe take her aside at the family gathering (take her outside to wish on a "Christmas star" or look for Santa or whatever) and propose privately.
2007-10-23 17:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Given the characteristics and the senarios, if I were her, I would want the vanity tub proposal the night before a Christmas dinner with my family. That way it could be a private moment and then I could share with my family sortly after.
2007-10-23 18:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by Addie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
none of the above.
i would want it to be a simple quiet proposal without any fanfare. a proposal in itself is filled with romance and such an intimate thing between two people that it shouldn't be shared.
as for the bubble bath, the yacht club, again why take away from the romance of the proposal itself?
just have the ring in your pocket, put your arms around me, tell me you love me, and ask me to be your wife. dead easy!
2007-10-23 18:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I actually AM that kind of person & I would rather it be an intimate setting with just the two of us. I'd tell my peeps later but I feel like the relationship is just for two so the proposal should be done privately with just the two of you. An engagement party later to announce it would be fun too.
2007-10-23 17:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by boolissa2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would love a private, intimate proposal and to be able to announce it during a family Christmas dinner or other family gathering!
2007-10-23 18:11:31 · answer #9 · answered by Italian Lady Stallion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Privately. I'm shy and I really would feel uncomfortable being proposed to in public, even if it was just family. Plus, I think it makes for a more romantic moment if it's private.
Good luck either way!
2007-10-23 17:29:17 · answer #10 · answered by sarai_kristi 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋