Why are children so disrespectful to their parents now?

Answer 1

Because their parents are dumb enough to allow it.

Many parents fail to realize that discipline begins when the child is small, not when the child is a preteen and causing problems in the home and school.

Answer 2

Because of the parents. It is so sad because the children are only mimicking what they are taught by their parents and then they get in trouble for it. Also, many parents don't really listen to the children and it frustrates the children and they act out (especially in the lower age groups). Additionally, many parents don't know how to properly discipline their children, instead they yell, slap and punish them. Discipline it supposed to be constructive and empowering for the child, so they can learn the right way; it isn't supposed to be a bad experience.

Today I was working in a preschool and I realized, I am the only teacher that really listens to the children. When a children acts out, I take them aside and ask them why. Children do everything for a reason. Even if they don't tell you a reason - there is one and you need to probe to find it. The problem is many parents and teachers (I witness this daily) just get angry at the child for the misbehavior and then threaten with consequences. The children are not being respected. Why should they show respect if they aren't given the same? It starts from a young age and it hurts the child's development. That is why they become unruly teenagers that show no respect - it all starts early in child development.

Answer 3

Its classic nature vs nurture. Children are not programmed to be good or bad. Their parents / peers / teachers and extended family all have influence on a childs behaviour. As does the environment. Raise a child in a horrible environment with ill-manered or unattentive parents there is a high chance they will absorb this. I'm assuming you are not a parent? I'm a young mum and some people look amazed I could have such a well mannered polite kind child. A child is a blank slate. I do not believe they are ever inherently good or bad. Mine pointed at a lady who had some sort of disability (possibly polio I am not sure). Well of course he did, it was unusual. Was the lady offended - I think not, all you do is explain, that some people are born differently, she was poorly in her mummy's tummy but no different. He nods and accepts. They are like sponges - I would never berate my child for pointing out something etc.... he is still learning how the world works. Yes its embrassing sometimes but the inquisitive, honest mind of young children is something so special we shouldn't discourage it!

Answer 4

Parents should set the boundaries and stick by them. A lot of parents nowadays seem to think it's better to be friends with their children rather than directing them in a positive way. You can still love and comfort children but they also need a lot of guidance and cannot be treated as equals after all they haven't been around long enough or have experience to know what life is all about. It's just lazy parenting rather than taking time out to discuss things with their children and teach them right from wrong it's a lot easier to let the children do as they wish. Sitting down at a dinner table rather than having separate meals watching T.V. or playing computer games solves many problems and let's the parents and children interact and communicate, the list is endless i could go on and on about this subject all night. It's just simple measures which help nurture children nothing flash or expensive just good old common sense.

Answer 5

... Because there was a time in America when it was alright to raise your child the way you saw fit... Unfortunately as a society we have become so PC that we are now looking for any reason to sue or arrest a person... Therefore, God forbid you ever spank your child any more for fear of being arrested and called an unfit parent...

On a side note... I believe in Corporal Punishment.... I do not believe in Child Abuse... There is a Difference. If you don’t know, you are either a Lift wing Dolt that is bringing on the Downfall of Americas Youth... Or you are one the unfortunate children who’s parents didn’t know the difference between a Spanking and Abuse.

Because of this lack of discipline on the part of the parents, the kids now have no concept of right and wrong, consequences, and repercussions…

Answer 6

Our children get punished by sitting on the naughty step, going to their room ( No toys allowed upstairs in our house) or taking away something that they love to play with. This doesn't stop them from being cheeky, this has only happened since they started at school as well, so they must have influence from the other kids and the teachers not strict enough with them. Someone once said to me, not that long ago that English kids have too much freedom, maybe he was right, they also have everthing they want too, that never happened when I was a kid.

Answer 7

Part of it is the parents unwilling to discipline their child(because people confuse discipline with abuse), another part is that in most households both parents must work and therefore no one is home to monitor their children's behavior, and another part is some parents just aren't interested in anything else but themselves.
There are parents out there that do the best they can by their children, and those children fall into cliques or peer pressure that leads them a destructive path.
One small part is now kids are taught what rights they have, and those kids use the threat of invoking those rights that may lead a parent to jail, so parents are feeling powerless.

Answer 8

I think it goes both ways.

As a teacher and mother, I have lived long enough to know, we learn our behaviors from our parents and the environment of "protocol" for behavior tolerated in home/school/ church situations.

We are a refection of that. With that said, it can be changed, with the strong leadership of correction, distraction and instruction.

I do not tolerate that behavior and HAVE and will continue to correct the bad behavior of all my students and parents in my classroom. Please and Thank you will be used! No excuses.

I raise the "bar" of manners! There is no excuse for it. It is a sign of poor parenting, lack of discipline and inconsistent behavior. This sounds so harsh!

I had to learn this the hard way! I became a parent myself.
Watched the bad behavior of others and said NO WAY- since birth my children have been conditioned and my husband and I had to lead by example. WHO do you think really learned the lesson here?

Yes- it was me! I have zero tolerance with my own and expect that from others and tell them "UP FRONT" that in my car, home and in my company, YOU are to be the best person possible or sad but true, I can't be with you!

What do you think happened? Everyone Stepped UP. We all have respect for each other and it helps in all areas of life.
SO AMAZING- The "Drama" is gone! Love it!

Do you want to know WHO had the hardest time with it?
Our parents- ironic huh? (I hold them) to the same high standard and we actually walked out of family dinners and events to make my point. They took it "hard" that their "Child" was parenting them. OH well! Someone has to be the leader. So get in line, Please and Thank you for doing it.

Answer 9

Mine aren't and they are not to others either......

This is because:

1) I am in charge - it is my responsibility to teach my children that what I say goes.
2) I am not my children's best friend I am their parent.
3) I set boundaries and I adhere to them...... my kids have learned the rules of behaviour
4) I punish them if necessary ( although I do not hit them)
5) I instilled a respect for others and the law.
6) I teach by example.
7) I give them lots of love and reasurrance and a belief in themselves and others.

Trouble is that many kids are still good it is just that the small minority are getting worse.

The one and only reason children are disrespectful to their parents is because the parent has let them act this way.

Answer 10

For the most part. Our whole culture is either way rich or struggling.
Both folks are gone all day.. every day.. all the time.
Kids go to school, email and they are raised by MTV!
There are no more fields where they can play cowboys with dad. No more trees to build a club house without making the six o'clock news for defacing public property.
Frankly, unless a child happens to have successful parents and they are raised outside the general public CRAP, they are acting out what "Britney" and all the other sou-less, empty, meaningless mentors are teaching them.
Its not their fault. Its this world and its middle class GOOFS who make these kids in a DOOMED society who assume the present world they drop them in is GOOD ENOUGH!
SHAME on anyone who thinks T.V. and public schools would lead to ANYTHING else but despair. THINK FOR YOURSELV'S PEOPLE... YOU ARE ALL SLAVES!

Answer 11

Because they are acting like their parents. Look at how people treat each other today and you have your answer. Why should we hold our children to a higher standard than we do ourselves?

Usually if you find well behaved children, the parents are well-mannered and polite as well.