I'm 24 years old and I made the mistake of starting to get to know this really beautiful asian woman. It turns out that she's 25 and Vietnamese. I also work in the same office building as her.
Anyway, I started making some basic dating moves. Over the last couple weeks, we've talked with each other on the phone a couple times and I recently learned she was born in Vietnam, came to America at 19, she has 3 siblings, and lives with her family...
My hope was to date her like a casual American woman, but I know that Asian families are very strict and traditional. I'm not looking for marriage anytime soon. However, casual dating is strongly frowned upon traditionally unless it is specifially meant for marriage...
I know I'm not ready for marriage for at least a few more years.
So what should I do?
2007-10-23 10:10:07 · 18 answers · asked by sharks_n_water 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it looks like you've gotten one foot in the door by talking to her and getting to know her. What make you think that you can't "date her like a casual American woman"? Why should an Asian woman be any different? Yes, her parents might be more strict and more traditional but it doesn't mean she can't make her own decisions. I'd advise you to treat her like any other woman, however do be aware of her culture. Get to know her culture and she will open up. Asian women are ladies on the streets but big-time freaks in the sheets! Good Luck.
2007-10-23 10:23:36 · answer #1 · answered by Jason 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are stereotyping Asians and you worry too much. Just tell her how you feel and see how it goes. I'm Asian and it's true my parents are pretty strict but it doesn't mean they will force me to marry the man I date and it doesn't mean that all Asian families are strict. If it doesn't work then it doesn't work. Then move on......
If you are still unsure what to do then ask her about her family, her culture, which one is appropriate and inappropriate, how does she feel or her parents feel if you both going out on a date, etc. I think you should discuss this more with the woman since it is more of a personal matter than general.
Good luck
2007-10-23 17:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by ollie23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quote: "I know that Asian families are very strict and traditional."
That's a stereotype. Some are, some aren't, like any other nationalities. A lot of them don't end up marrying the first person they date.
Well, I wouldn't keep getting into something I'm not comfortable with.
2007-10-23 17:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by chococherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, starting a sentence with " I made the mistake of starting to get to know this really beautiful asian woman"
Is just plain wrong... You feel it was a mistake? Then why continue trying to court her? Seems like your not just not ready for marriage, but for the responsibilty that comes with a relationship.
2007-10-23 17:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's more modern than you realise. Just ask her out and take her to a movie and some food (not Vietnamese, she's probably sick of it). She will be flattered and have fun like any other woman. If her family likes you they won't mind, as long as you are nice to her and treat her well.
2007-10-23 17:18:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope what the lady that answered the question first was a type O. Anyways I say try it out. If U don't like the whole idea. Tell her the truth (lol)
2007-10-23 17:14:42 · answer #6 · answered by Amo la pallacanestro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what her personal values are first. If they are more tradtional then back off.
Date whomever you want to but know that there will be some cultural differences.
2007-10-23 17:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by MOCHAUNTESS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is customary in vietnam to slap the woman's mother across the cheek as a sign of asking for her hand in marriage. however it is taken casually nowadays as a way of asking for a date. ask to meet her family and the first thing to do is to slap her mother when you meet her and itll all go smoothly as her parents will then know you understand their culture
2007-10-23 17:15:16 · answer #8 · answered by john m 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think go out with her and see what happens
2007-10-23 19:36:14 · answer #9 · answered by donielle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok your so racist. thats like me saying hmmm should i date a white girl?? omg omg omg ? i mean do they like have a problem?? ok so watch your self before you talk again and i get my asain gang to pop a cap up your ***
2007-10-23 17:14:38 · answer #10 · answered by human_encyclopedia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋