I'm a single woman who attend church faithly. I find myself wanting to be with this man. He does;t know this, I'm at the point that I'm wanting to let him know and relocating to a new church. This man is married, but this past Sunday I found myself crying while the pastor was preaching. At the end of the service I found him just standing in the back of the church staring at me. Early that morning he spoke to me I said hi, but I could not look at him. So I want to tell him how I feel. Can someone answer this question for me? Understanding what I feel. I want him to know it's not him, But it's something I'm going through. Serious people PLEASE.
2007-10-23 10:01:40 · 5 answers · asked by God Fearing 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously, your not that God fearing if you're going after a married man. Get over yourself and get some counseling.
2007-10-23 10:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Religious or not, I think everyone would agree that you shouldn't go after a married man. It sounds like he doesn't even really know you, if all you say is 'hi', so there's no need to tell him you're going to a new church because of him. Just leave and don't look back. Or, if you do know him pretty well, tell him you've decided to try a different church and wish him luck in life. I would not tell him how you feel, or think you feel, because it's not going to solve anything.
2007-10-23 10:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by xK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax to start. Just talk to him as a person. It feels like it's not so much this man you want to be with, but something he represents to you. Breath deep, hold your thoughts of being with him at bay for a bit and talk to him... don't blurt out "I want to be with you" unless you really want to scare him.
Letting him know how you feel will not "fix" anything, be a friend and I think you will find that it is not really him you want, but something about him.
Fortunately (if that's the right word) for guys, we're dense. He probably has no idea that there is even anything going on - so telling him about it all, and that it's not him - that's not going to do anything except make you feel like an idiot as soon as the words are out of your mouth. (Which I'm sure you're not).
So - to repeat - relax. Treat him like any other guy. Figure what it is about him that draws you and then look for that in the person God has for you.
2007-10-23 13:43:05 · answer #3 · answered by awayforabit 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he's married.. and he goes to your church? i think somthings wrong here.. you should leave him alone and move on.. you have no right interfearing in someones marriage..
2007-10-23 10:07:01 · answer #4 · answered by alora 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he's married so it is bad. speak to your pastor.
2007-10-23 10:04:59 · answer #5 · answered by mishkin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋