2007-10-23 09:06:10 · 5 answers · asked by mayra 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh yes!! I was married for 19 years to someone who was very controlling & emotionally abusive. He is & was a very nice guy overall, but he always had to be in charge & when I didn't like to be controlled, he was emotionally abusive. Well, my father was dying & we were considering moving back to our home state anyway because job prospects weren't good & we wanted a fresh start. Additionally, I wanted to be able to spend time with my Dad before he died. When my ex's mother, also a very controlling person, found out we planned to move, she came between us, exerted her influence & persuaded my ex to kidnap our daughter & keep her from me (our son was older & already visiting family in my home state).
As a result of him doing that, I did not get to see my Dad before he died because there was no way I was going to leave without my daughter. I thought what my ex did (he wasn't my ex yet) was extremely cruel when he knew my father only had hours to live when he did this. I filed for divorce. It took a year for the divorce to be final & during this time, he made up horrific lies about my character, my fitness to parent, my emotional & psychological stability & so on & stated it as fact to the court. Fortunately I had a good attorney who pressed for a guardian ad litem who investigates all those who come in contact with the child involved in the divorce to see what the truth actually is. Additionally, the court ordered a bonding assessment done & the assessment showed my daughter bonded better to me than to her father. Through last minute postponements of custody hearings, my ex-husband was able to manage to keep my daughter apart from me for an entire year, during which time he & his mother brainwashed her severely against me. The judge actually said it was the worst case of parental alienation & brainwashing he had ever seen. The judge saw through my ex-husband's lies & he awarded full custody to me.
My ex currently cannot see our daughter until he completes a court-ordered anger management class. As he cannot afford the class due to poor income, he can't take the class yet. He re-married another woman, but 10 months after their wedding, she filed for divorce. My ex ended up losing a job, then a home & was kicked out of a homeless shelter. He also lost his driver's license due to unpaid traffic tickets & he has to pay child support which he can't afford due to his sporadic income, yet his wages are garnished to pay this support. He is able to see our son since he is now an adult, but it's been over a year since he's seen our daughter.
Generally, his life went to struggling but married to someone who loved & cared for him for 19 years (before I filed for divorce) & getting by okay on a low but livable income, to being divorced, his children taken away, losing his support of his own side of the family who abandoned him (his family is not supportive nor kind), to re-marrying on the rebound 4 months after our divorce was final & he was still maintaining his love for me, to going through another divorce from a schizophrenic wife (she actually does have schizophrenia & believes herself to be a real live princess), to being homeless, losing his job & health insurance, losing his car, his license, & even losing his friends & family.
After all this time, I have since remarried & am very happily married to a wonderful man who treats me with such love, kindness & respect, & my children live with me. My life has improved & I live back in my home state with my kids. I have a good job, live in a nice neighborhood & my kids have adjusted quite well to all that's happened. My ex used to treat me very hatefully after our divorce. When he became homeless & nobody would help him, he turned to me out of desperation. I live in another state than him but I alone put him in contact with someone who was able to help him. That opened his eyes up a bit & he is now civil and friendly to me. His life is improving bit by bit as he is learning that how he treats people is directly proportionate to how his life will turn out. He is beginning to have hope in his life again & he is turning a corner. I don't think he will ever admit he was wrong with all he's done because he has the mentality that it is everyone else's fault but his. Still, if ever there was a case of "what goes around comes around", this is it. Perhaps whoever breaks your heart or treats you badly might not pay right away, but mark my words, you DO reap what you sow & if you mistreat others, it WILL come back to bite you in the butt one day.
2007-10-23 09:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe what goes around comes around. If someone intentionally hurts you (sends out negative energy) then I do think it will come back to them, although not necessarily in the same way.
Karma is about balance, not punishment. You send out negative energy into the world, you get negative energy back (balance)...you send out positive energy into the world, you get positive energy back (balance). What forms that energy will take or how long it will take to return to you, will vary (it's often not the same form, and often not right away).
Trust that someone who hurts another on purpose will get what's coming to them...and what they do, they okay to be done to them by others.
2007-10-23 16:13:00 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He'll be hurt someday too, no doubt. The thing is, you won't be there to see it. No use giving this guy another thought if all you want is to see him suffer. Try to find some happiness for yourself that doesn't involve other people's pain.
2007-10-23 16:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by nika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope so. One of my buddies needs to have it come back and bit him.
2007-10-23 16:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by packman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTEY!
2007-10-23 16:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by Carmen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋