i love that he is so respectful of me but sometimes i wish he'd try to go further wit methan JUST kissing(im too afraid to initiate that/don't wanna seem like a ****/plus once i got really drunk &thus feisty when i kissed him &he said 'don't kiss like that'. he doesn't like me acting indecent &appreciates my conservative ways. first night we slept in the same bed together, he didn't try anything further than softly kissing! but instead sorta hinted at sex (w/o any foreplay -not even touching boob) by randomly asking 'hey itd be weird if we had sex right? just cuz there are other ppl in the room next door? itd be weird rite?' and i said 'uhh yea and plus im not ready for that.. im sorta saving myself". he said 'k, i respect that' but then the next day told me that i lead him on! but the thing is he didn't even TRY to touch me! i don't get it, he doesn't like it when i kiss him passionately or act wild, yet it seems like he isn't going to go further wit me unless i make the move?
2007-10-23 08:58:21 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WHAT SHOULD I DO TO GET HIM TO GO FURTHER WITHOUT MAKING HIM THINK IM SLUTTY? i don't get it, he'll always joke saying 'ooo im just not good enuf for you - your saving yourself for someone better! haha im just kidding i respect that' or once he said under his breath at the club 'god i wanna have sex with you so bad' but when i said 'what?' hes like 'nothing'. i know he has a great amount of respect for me and i want him to continue that, but i kinda would like him to at least go a lil further than kissing (not sex tho i really am saving myself).
2007-10-23 09:04:04 · update #1
the thing is i think he just expects me to initiate it -but i don't feel comfy doing that. i feel slutty to be the one to do stuff to him before he does stuff to me. once when we were sleeping together he LIGHTLY nudged my hand down in the direction of his pants &i barely noticed so i just moved my hand up towards his face, cuz we were kissing &i didn't think anything of such a light nudge. but then he's like 'whats wrong?' and im like 'huh?' and he was like 'o is it too soon' and i was like 'ya' &he said 'k i respect that'. but the thing is i probly woulda let him finger me if he tried, he just didn't even try. i just would feel better if a guy did stuff to me be4 i did stuff to him. thats just my personal preference. if i did stuff to him first, i would feel $luty (thats just me tho). so what should i do? id feel $luty nd akward actually telling him to 'touch my body' - which he doesn't even do.
2007-10-23 09:06:39 · update #2
**we're long distance and unexclusive so i haven't seen him since summer but im going to see him over break and it will have been 6 MONTHS that we've liked each other. ill be probly spending the nite with him and im worried that he wont go further with me. i WORRY just becuz i feel like our relationship is going to be so BORING if we never move forward then soft kisses... i mean we're 19 years old!! (nd hes not a virgin) IM REALLY not comfy with being aggressive, but WHAT SHOULD I DO??
2007-10-23 09:12:07 · update #3
He was raised to be respectful. A truly rare quality these days. If this type of behavior bothers you then maybe you should step back and look closer at your expectations. Would you rather be mauled by the football team? I would hope not.
2007-10-23 09:04:46 · answer #1 · answered by Steven D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys need you to make the move and some guys just aren't interested whether you make the move or not...
And some guys have no clue how to make the move....
2007-10-23 16:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋