i met this kid over the weekend at a band competition and i gave him my number. we've been talking on the phone for hours over the past two days (i met him on sunday). i wanted to hook up with him but now im starting to like him. we have so much in common except we live about an hour away from eachother.
im going to see him this weekend and next weekend at the last two band competitions, but im not sure if we'll ever see him again. my friend doesnt think its a good idea to want to hook up with him (she doesnt know that i like him) and she doesnt even think its a good thing that im talking to him. i really like this kid, but i dont know what to do...if we did go out, it would be really hard to see eachother, and some if my friends might get mad at me for having a kind of long distance relationship. neither of us drive so we would have to have our parents drive us. i dont know what to do.
advice please.
2007-10-23 08:51:42 · 7 answers · asked by chicacubana1109 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, you need to make decisions based on your own sense of what "fits" for you, not whether or not your friends will be mad at you. Sometimes friends may get mad at you as a way to attempt to control your decision--that is not something to make a habit of bending or giving in to. I know you want to be accepted but you also have inner strength. Friends throughout life may disapprove of some of your decisions for a variety of reasons: jealousy, well-meaning wisdom, argumentativeness, fears. My point is that you need to make your own decision on this one.
Living an hour away is inconvenient but not impossible. Because you don't drive, your relationship may be limited to telephone, e mails, and planned social gatherings.
The important factors are that
A) you KNOW him (who you are talking to) and have met him... and that he is the same age as you are. If you said that you'd never met him or that he was much older, I'd freak out on your behalf because that would be dangerous. But it doesn't sound like that is the case.
B) Your parents approve because, let's face it, you are living in their house and they are financially supporting you. They also usually care very much what their daughters do and they want the best.
C) This boy treats you with respect.
I think that you can have a friend an hour away and even date him. As long as it fits for both of you.
2007-10-23 09:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by summerquilt 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Long distance relationships can work if both of you are willing to make it work. It requires communication, trust and honesty. I've been in one for 4 years now, we were both 16 and now are turning 21. I live in California and he lives in Germany. So for you one hour isnt' too bad. If your parents know about this then you guys can always meet up half way. Talking on the phone is always good, after a while it may get repetative so prepare for that and dont' get discouraged. Don't listen to what your friends have to say, especially if they never have been in a long distance relationship. If you really like him then i say give it a shot, it can't hurt.
2007-10-23 11:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by Isabella20 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, Do not do it ! See even if both people are true hearted as human beings we still need the hands on quality time together !Sex should not be an issue until marrige but we still need our signifigant other close to share our ups and downs ! Special moments happen once then they are gone so people need to be close so they can share those times !
2007-10-23 09:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance without a license. Good luck!
Listen to your heart & not your friends. But, use your head and don't make stupid decisions.
2007-10-23 08:55:25 · answer #4 · answered by Casie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and boyfriend live 1200 miles from each other =)
but you see, i see him multiple times a year. if you think the chemistry is there, go for it! it's exactly what i did, and i highly doubt i'll ever regret it.
good luck <3
2007-10-23 08:55:00 · answer #5 · answered by BAMF. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lond distance is hard so have a boyfriend here and he wont know.
2007-10-23 08:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by ale 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long term relationships are the best because you can cheat on your bf/gf WHENEVER you want!!!!!
2007-10-23 08:55:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋