i'm engaged and my boyfriend wants a long engagement and thats fine by me,like 5 or 6 years that way were both done with college.is it to early for me to be planing the wedding??
2007-10-23 08:20:20 · 29 answers · asked by Cynthia O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Planning- Yes! Researching cost estimates and ideas as well as saving for the wedding and the honeymoon- No!
Best of luck!!
2007-10-23 09:39:33 · answer #1 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's too early for you to be engaged LOL. My boyfriend and I were in the same boat...we'd been together 5 years before we got engaged, but planned on getting married 2 months into the relationship! Everyone knew we were "engaged" but I had no proposal or ring, so to me, it didn't count. We wanted to wait until we were done with school to get married as well.
My junior year of college he proposed. I'm having an engagement of about 18 months. I started planning as soon as I got engaged (I was just so excited).
An engagement is usually about 6 months to 2 years...any longer than that and it's a little tooo long. You don't possibly need 6 years to plan a wedding! It's fine to "look" now, but I definitley wouldn't "plan" now.
Good luck to you both!
2007-10-23 15:39:13 · answer #2 · answered by kiki 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow, 5 to 6 years is a long time. But Congrats nonetheless.
I wouldn't do actual planning until 1-2 years before the wedding date.
However, you can start thinking about possible venues for your event, and do some research about the associated costs of having the type of wedding you desire. This way you can plan your budget better for when the time comes.
2007-10-23 17:00:16 · answer #3 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. I was engaged for about 6 years. It was so relaxing to have all that time to plan (plus, when we had to change cities, ministers, and eventually plan separate parties for my warring parents, it was easier to handle). Go to www.theknot.com , it's a great website with checklists and budgeters and all sorts of help. Kick back and talk about your ideal wedding with your fiance. Ask him what he wants to contribute, what he needs in a wedding.
Another great benefit of a long engagement is the ability to save for your wedding. With six years you can really budget for what is important to you (you can also start a nest egg for the marriage after the party).
Right now is the fun time. The time where you let your imagination run wild. Pick exotic locales, strange food, outrageous dresses......... just see what is out there. And when the date is a little closer (say t minus 18 months or so), you'll be able to freely and calmly pick the things that will make it Your wedding. I even took the extra time to have a family seamstress copy a dress I wanted for cheap (she ended up making 3 copies to get it right and we sold the 2 I didn't need)
2007-10-23 15:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by Ananke402 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I'd say do it and then when you guys are ready go back and make changes..bc in 5-6 years there might be different things out there that arent available now...it's never to early to plan for your big day!! I'd make a plan for an expensive wedding and one for a cheaper wedding just in case because you never know what your budget will be in 5-6 years.
2007-10-23 15:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by peterson51785 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can look around, but I don't know of places that will reserve a wedding site for you five years in advance.
I would start saving up though. Place a portion of your paycheck into a wedding account and put your income tax refund in there as well. That way you have plenty of money to save up for the wedding!
A 2012 wedding I'd start planning around 2010.
2007-10-23 19:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are some churches and reception halls that have that long of a waiting list. I would say go ahead and plan it, but don't put deposits down on anything or run out and buy that wedding dress. 5-6 years is long time and styles, personal preference, and sizes change in that time. So I think that it's okay to fantasize and start getting idea and putting together a binder so that when you do set a date you have a list of information to draw from.
2007-10-23 15:31:55 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda I 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Start planning!!! This is your day! You can plan and look for things without making decisions. However, don't get obsessive. 5-6 years is a lot of time for things to change, and you don't want to annoy everyone if you're constantly fretting.
Start an idea binder, update it as much as you want with ideas, be open to changing these plans, cuz you might be 2 different ppl by the day of your wedding.
Start actually contacting vendors etc 12-18 months before you get married.
Congratulations and good luck!
2007-10-23 16:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by Eleez 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
way to early to plan, prices change the venue,photographer,etc might not be in business anymore or there may be someone open a buisness that you would perfer, styles chang and ppl (like attendents) you could decide to move and not even have the wedding in your town! lots can change i would open your own bank account (not with your fiance) and start saving so that you can have your dream wedding. the reason i say to open one not with your fiance is b/c even that could change you may decide your tired of waiting-- i don't want to be mean or sound like a real b**** but it can happen, so if it does you are fincially secure, and if it doesn't well that is great!!! and you get your wedding and maybe even a down payment on a house!!!! congrats
2007-10-23 16:04:19 · answer #9 · answered by sweet 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One doesn't plan a wedding til a year before the date.
Sorry, but my mom used to say a person isn't officially engaged til you have a ring and a date -- and it's just plumb silly to be engaged for so long....
2007-10-24 09:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a different thought, why not have a short engagement. Don't wait 5-6 years till you graduate do it soon so you can start reaping the benefits of being a married college student. My guess is you are under 24 and if you live in the US you still have to claim your parents income for financial aid, once you are married you don't have to do that any longer and since you are in college your incomes are probably small and you would probably see a huge increase in financial aid for school.
I guess this wouldn't work if you 2 attended school in different locations or far from each other.
2007-10-23 16:00:44 · answer #11 · answered by KMONEY831 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋