(Only Girls should answer) Is it flattering for a girl to be approached by a complete stranger?

Question

Hey guys,
I am Single and am searching for someone. I never meet women in bars or nightclubs I prefare places such as Library, Book Stores, Malls, Coffee shops and even even STREETS. And honestly I have met really attractive women with amazing personality responding positively to me and they were very welcoming to my approach. But my question is that sometimes I can't get out of my head and get SKEPTICAL and I wanna ask you GIRLS, DO YOU LIKE and ENJOY and get FLATTERED when a guy you HAVE NEVER MET BEFORE APPROACHES you in the STREET or LIBRARY or GYM whatever and tells you SINCERELY that he FINDS YOU 'ATTRACTIVE/CUTE/CLASSY/CHARMING etc...)??? and than starts to flirt with you because that is what I do when I approach women I like I Honestly tell them why I came to talk to them a compliment and start flirting and getting to know her and MOST IMPORTANTLY IF YOU LIKE THE GUY WOULD YOU DATE HIM REGARDLESS of his LOOKS?
Most importantly, DO you know that it is hard for GUYS to approach?

Yeah guys I am so happy to know that is flattering for a girl but guys am not talking about the sleazy compliment...like 'Wow you are so Beautiful/Amazing' I recall a time in the library a girl (With a SMILE TO DIE FOR) sitting with her friend, and I went to walk over to them...I am as nervous as HELL, and funny when I said hi the friend kind of smiled and was welcoming and the girl kind of gave the 'PISS OFF LOOK' but when I told her that 'I came because I think you are really attractive and I had to meet you' she was GLOWING, all of a sudden 'THE PISS OF FACE TURNS TO THE MOST CHARMING SMILE EVER, she welcomed me to sit with them etc...(It didn't lead to a phone number because I was way too Nervous and it was clear). I know many of you are gonna tell me why are you than asking us if we like to be approached by strangers if it has been working with you before. The answer is because SOMETIMES the girl will Creep out and am a nice guy, I feel SO BAD that is why I am asking?

Answer 1

I have NEVER been so complimented in my whole life as when that has happened.
Maybe not all women would agree with me, but for me...it's a HUGE compliment and I LOVE it...

Answer 2

As a woman, I may be flattered, but I am also extremely caustious. If a man says hello to me and talks with me politely, then I may feel less threatened. If he is too flirty and comes on too strong, then I feel that he is just hoping to get me in bed. Ted Bundy (serial killer) was said to be very handsome, intelligent and quite charming with the ladies. This is why he had so many victims. These woman bought his flattery and went with him willingly and now are dead as a result. I for one am very leary of men that would approach me on the street and I do not go any where with anyone I don't know, and I certainly don't give out my phone number. If you approach a woman in a public place and strike up a conversation with her, then she may agree to have coffee with you, but you will make her feel more comfortable if you suggest meeting her at the coffee shop or restaurant.

Answer 3

Yes, I am flattered when someone approaches me. I might be a little creeped out if he said, "Wow, you're a really good looking woman", so I'm not sure that should be the first thing out of his mouth.

Would I date a guy regardless of his looks? Maybe. There has to be SOMETHING there; it doesn't have to be that he looks like a model or fits my ideal physical appearance, but I have to be attracted to him in some aspect. I might go out with him as a friend and develop a relationship that way, but if I'm seeking a romantic relationship, there has to be something there, even something small.

Answer 4

It would be creepy, because she's been asked that before and undoubtedly has turned that request down countless times if she is as appealing as you say. Instead, why don't you perhaps go after her one day with say... an earring in your hand, and say "Miss! Miss! Did you drop this? I could have sworn i saw you drop something..." When she says no, you could say "Oh, ok, I see you walk by here a lot, I work over there at Verizon, and wanted to make sure it wasn't yours! Have a wonderful day! :)" She'll notice you next time she walks by, be sure to smile and wave. At some point in a couple weeks, wave her over and ask how she's doing. You'll establish a slow relationship of chatting that could THEN lead up to an asking-out. But go slow.

Answer 5

Well, as stated, it works for you. I have never been approached by a decent strange and sober man. However, the very thought of it is amazing. Just be careful with the whole "I find you attractive" thingy - you might come over creepy. But I hope that I one day run into you at the library!

Answer 6

yes i know it's hard for a guy to approach. So i'm always flattered, and am nice as possible. if i find him attractive I will give him my number, but if he's not my type i usually stay noncommittal or say I'm taken. I think that having the balls to assert yourself is a great character trait tho. And yeah - the guy I'm dating now, came up and approached me and was totally direct as well. We were in a club setting tho.

Answer 7

I wouldn't start off the conversation by giving her compliments. Make small talk first. Yes some guys find it hard to approach women.

Answer 8

It is always flattering to receive a compliment. However this does not mean that we necessarily want to continue conversation or go out on a date.

You have to take it on a case by case basis

Answer 9

If I guy came up to me and immediately said "I think you're really pretty," I would walk the other way. However, "Hello" is OK, depending on the situation--on the street, no. Gym/library, OK.

Answer 10

It will be more flattering when he says:
''I am interested to get to know you''
not
''I find you 'ATTRACTIVE/CUTE/CLASSY/CHARMI... etc...)???